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7 Truths About Pornography

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Ladies, pornography is a subject often kept secret. In the old days, it was a hard thing to find, and probably considered more of a guy’s issue. But because of the Internet, it’s become way more accessible, and to both guys and girls. And since larger numbers of people are accessing it, more of it is being produced and its contents are getting more and more damaging.

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Pornography is not just a guy’s sin. Girls struggle with it also. Yet some people don’t think pornography is destructive. They think it’s just fun. But really? Think about these truths when it comes to pornography.

  1. It turns people into things. Pornography dehumanizes people. It’s not about the person, but rather body parts, and so the value of a human body is completely damaged.
  2. It makes abhorrent what God made beautiful. God created a way for a husband and wife to come together in an act of love and giving. And out of that act comes life. It’s a strategically designed act, created to be beautiful. But pornography takes it and distorts it, making it obscene, selfish and abominable.
  3. It negatively affects your future marriage. You may not think this is true, but pornography introduces you to a false view of how a man and woman should interact sexually. So much so that when couples enter a marriage, they believe that what they learned through pornography is how a husband and wife should treat each other. Pornography is so disrespectful that couples often lose respect for each other in other areas of their marriage. If you’re dehumanizing your husband during the times that you’re supposed to be cherishing each other, what stops you from dehumanizing him at other times, and vice versa? Pornography also introduces you to images that will stay in your mind for a very long time, if not forever.
  4. It’s addictive and it never satisfies the appetite. Usually, pornography is introduced to someone by a friend or family member. That’s when the curiosity kicks in. From curiosity comes further interest in what else could be out there. Then the appetite calls for more and then more, and each time the images get increasingly graphic and destructive. It’s the same as a drug. Soon, smoking marijuana doesn’t feed the appetite and so people move onto something stronger, and then even that doesn’t satisfy, so something stronger is abused, until eventually a drug addict is using the hardest of drugs many times a day in order to feed the addiction.
  5. It destroys so many lives. Pornography doesn’t just destroy in the ways already mentioned; it also destroys the people producing it. And most of the time, innocent people are being abused in the process.
  6. It separates you from Christ. Pornography is sinful, no question. So, if you’re choosing sin, then you’re not choosing Christ. Romans 8:2-13 reads, “Consequently, brothers, we are not debtors to the flesh, to live according to the flesh. For if you live according to the flesh, you will die, but if by the spirit you put to death the deeds of the body, you will live.”
  7. It’s clearly the work of Satan. I mean, think about it. Pornography instills within a person all the sentiments that go against God, such as lust and self-gratification. Satan is constantly looking to take what God made beautiful and destroy it. What a way to hurt God, right? Everything that God made beautiful, Satan is trying to destroy. And pornography plays a huge part in destroying God’s plan.

Avoid immorality. Every other sin a person commits is outside the body, but the immoral person sins against his own body. Do you not know that your body is a temple of the holy Spirit within you, whom you have from God, and that you are not your own? For you have been purchased at a price. Therefore glorify God in your body. (1 Corinthians 6:18-20)

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Ladies, pornography is destructive. There’s no doubt about it. It destroys your mind and your soul, and it stands in your way of accepting Jesus fully into your life. You can’t follow Christ when you’re not fully invested in Him and His Word. It is truly the devil’s work.

Ladies, did you know that pornography was so destructive?

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  1. SouthernBell

    Posted by SouthernBell on June 26, 2015 at 15:31

    I have not told anyone yet. I am too ashamed. I am over the addiction, but I cant seem to forgive myself. But I am getting better, I found this song by ‘tenth avenue north’ called ‘she is more’. I love this song.Any one who has problems with cutting, suicide, porn, sexual activitys, drugs, what ever it is. You are more. Jesus thinks you are to die for.

    • realmisslq

      Posted by realmisslq on August 12, 2015 at 21:39

      Hey, if you are delivered from it, then don’t be afraid to let everyone know about your testimony! Trust me, I’ve been there. But if you keep it a secret, it’s almost like you have something to hide. After being delivered from the pornography addiction for the 3rd time, I finally had the guts to tell my parents. And guess what? They were 100% chill about it! They didn’t overreact, they didn’t act full of shock, but were understanding instead. I even wrote a song about it and put it on my YouTube channel! ^.^ I wanna let Satan know that he is defeated & that God is stronger than him! 🙂

  2. BelieveInLove

    Posted by BelieveInLove on May 6, 2015 at 18:51

    Hi, girls. I have got an update and it’s not a good one. I have been falling into temptation a lot lately, and it gets worse every time….The worst thing is, I am doubting if I’m really sorry or not….I hope with all my heart that it’s only myself being negative and not how I really feel.

    As for me, I just now realize that I have been masturbating since I was 6, though I didn’t know it at the time. I have been struggling for maybe two years now. I have been found out before by my mom, but I don’t think she realizes just how much I’ve seen and read…and it is not pretty. I haven’t been feeling as guilty lately…I know I am getting sucked in..

    Please pray for me. I will pray for you all, too. Never forget this:

    GOD LOVES YOU ALL!!!!!!!

    I have a hard time believing it myself, but I am trying to make myself believe it.

  3. emmierhodes526

    Posted by emmierhodes526 on May 5, 2015 at 11:11

    I started masturbating when I was 11 years old. Somehow I found myself on the Internet as a young girl looking at porn and/or videos on YouTube. I lied about my age so I could access these websites. I stopped watching porn after about a year and half, which I was 13 at the time. Then I masturbated from 11-18. I eventually told my sister, because I couldn’t take the guilt anymore. But I started again. About 3 months later. Then I told my mom last summer and she helped keep me accountable. I went to college for a semester and then I came back home and started all over again. I hated myself! I didn’t want to feel that way, but I did. So I told my mom. And that was about 3 months ago. I have been clean since. My mom asks me “Clean hands, Clean heart?” And I tell her “yes ma’am!” She also gave me advice to put on the armor of God everyday. So I did and still do everyday. Right before I get in the shower. It helps so much! I recommend it. If you truly want to to stop you will take the necessary steps to do so. Use Ephesians 6:14-18. I say it everyday and it helps so much. You can do it! Perseverance is key.

  4. Horseluva

    Posted by Horseluva on April 28, 2015 at 06:44

    God bless you all girls! I will be praying for all of you! <3

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by karabara123 on April 28, 2015 at 03:30

    I have struggled with Pornography since I was young. It only started getting bad last year, as a freshman in high school. I started watching porn and masturbating every day. I felt worthless, and so alone. The church had told us it was only guys who struggled with this kind of thing. NOT. TRUE. I thought there was something wrong with me. Girls, if you are struggling with an addiction to porn, TELL SOMEONE. It was the hardest thing I’ve ever done in my life, but I told my small group leader at church. She’s held me accountable and supported me. I can’t say I’m perfect by any means, but I’m a month clean now and even that gives me joy. God is working through all of us, even if we feel alone. Porn grabs onto our lives, minds, and hearts, and twists them so we have a feeling of failure. Remember that God is with all of you, and he’s holding your hand as you take this step by step.

  6. Amarah

    Posted by Amarah on April 27, 2015 at 20:54

    Girls, there is hope for you.
    I struggled with a porm addiction for a short time of about six months, however it was still long enough to take its toll. As I tried to turn away from the evil, I even found it difficult just not seing those images in my head so often. However, through much praying, discussion with my family (who found out about my addiction soon after it started), and perserverance I now am freed from the chains of addiction. Believe me girls, it feels good to be free after being in chains for days, months, and even years. If someone knows about your addiction, talk to them about it. If you want this freedom, confess to your parents your struggle and they can help you. Believe me, your parents will notice your attitude change soon agter you become addicted. They will know somethings up so just pour out your heart on them. I would still fall back into sin but each time I come out, I pray and ask the Lord for help. Each time I pray I feel stronger. If you cant tell your parents because of fear, GO TO GOD and ask for the courage to do what is right and for the strength to turn from evil. Porn is not who you are, nor what God’s plan for you is. You were made to be free. There is hope. I am living proof, thanks to God. Praise the Lord!

  7. dawnmarie2193

    Posted by dawnmarie2193 on April 27, 2015 at 18:32

    My addiction to masturbation started when i was just 5 years old and by the time i was 9 i had discovered pornography, once i started watching it, i couldn’t stop, this eventually led me to start having sex at a young age to fill my desires, its a rough addiction, and to this day i still struggle with watch porn, it’s not an easy thing to give up.

  8. Paris

    Posted by Paris on March 3, 2015 at 23:20

    I was beginning to think I was the only Christian girl who struggled with this. Like most of you ladies, mine started early. It started with sexual kissing videos on YouTube, then, Late at night,porn comes on the cable provider I have. So I began to watch and be pleasured by it. Then, that led to looking up videos on the internet. Every time I watch, I always feel guilty because I know God isin’t pleased. So, everyday I pray that God will get me through this day without the desire for pornography. It actually works. I had an urge, and I turned to this article that I almost forgot excited. And it helps me fight it. Yeah,I still slip up, but I’m seeing improvement in fighting this. I’m working on this chain being broken, and it will, In Jesus name. I don’t want this affecting my relationship with my future husband. Thank you so much for this article Project Inspired. It has really helped me fight this battle.

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by pb1994 on January 5, 2015 at 13:49

    I have been master-batting since 5 or 6 or later and still do it till this day. I sometimes want to, need to, or don’t need to, I still do it. I actually do it with my ByF that I have now. (Me and him being on phone and we both do it at the same time.) I think I tend to control him more than he does me. When he does, it makes me feel a whole lot better than for him to control me. How do I tell him that when we need to save sex after our wedding and that it is to Glorify God not for us to be selfish?

    • BelieveInLove

      Posted by BelieveInLove on May 6, 2015 at 18:55

      I don’t exactly know what to say, but I think you should pray about it and ask God. He is always there to listen. I’ll pray for you!

      YOU CAN DO IT!

  10. chloe523

    Posted by chloe523 on December 31, 2014 at 08:41

    Pornography is absolutely disgusting, and sadly, sometimes unavoidable. Young kids accidentally discover this type of stuff every day through pop ups and websites that they just don’t realize are filled with that content. And of course after accidentally seeing that stuff it sparks curiosity. At least that’s what happened to me and if I had never accidentally gone on one of those websites or seen those gross pop ups I probably wouldn’t have struggled with it. Because now as a 16 year old, I know the harm and the damage that it brings so I am much more careful now and I stop myself, but young kids don’t know that. They don’t understand that these images will stay in your head for years and so they don’t have trouble going back and watching it. It’s really disgusting. I’m praying for anyone who struggles with this.

  11. Girlafterhisownheart88

    Posted by Girlafterhisownheart88 on December 29, 2014 at 14:18

    I’m 16 and have been struggling with watching porn and masturbating for 6 maybe 7 years. I had been clean for a few years when I was younger like 14 but my addiction has recently started back up again. Every time I watch it again I feel so unworthy. Unworthy to talk to god unworthy to ever be in a relationship and unworthy of being a daughter to my mom. My mom found out about my addiction which is why I was clean for a while so that fact that I started again just destroys me. I feel like I’m a disappointment to her. (Even though she doesn’t know I’ve started again.) I also feel like my watching pornography is why I’ll never be in a relationship. How can I possibly commit to a man if I can’t even commit to being what god wants me to be. I would watch lesbian porn for most of my addiction (even though I’m straight) so sometimes I feel like I shouldn’t be in the friendships that I am with my girlfriends. Images stick in my head and never leave and all I want is out. I struggle every day. So If anyone reads this I ask for prayer in kicking this addiction, also know that I am praying for you too and I hope this story helps you know you’re not alone.

    • HopeforHeaven306

      Posted by HopeforHeaven306 on January 17, 2015 at 11:27

      I completely understand!!!!
      I’ve been struggling with this for about a year or two. I try to stop, but it just keeps bugging me.
      My mom found out as well and I was so upset. I feel like my parents hold me at really high standards and I should know better :(. It’s really hard for me, but sometimes I will just imagine I’m a fierce warrior of God battling evil while ” I’m Free” by Bryan Adams is running through my head.I’ll pray for you!!!

      P.S. I really need to stop daydreaming……;););)

    • Veena_JLF97

      Posted by Veena_JLF97 on January 2, 2015 at 20:04

      I also struggle with the same thing. I started watching porn at a VERY young age, and I was a frequent watcher of it up until I was 13, then the next year if not sooner, I started up again. I still slip up sometimes, because as humans we are sexual beings, that’s who we were made to be by God. But it’s when we turn it into lust and listen to Satan whispering into our ears saying “It’s okay, just keep watching it, God will forgive you anyways.” That’s how Satan works, he tempts us and sometimes, we give in. But trust me when I tell you, before you have a relapse and you feel tempted, read The Holy Word of God. Whether it be the Book of Psalms or another book in the Bible, if you pair that with prayer, you’ll get over this addiction. 🙂 I will be praying for you girlie! 🙂

  12. bethluvstheafters

    Posted by bethluvstheafters on December 26, 2014 at 22:23

    I’m 16 and have never had a porn addiction per se… but I fall sometimes. I always have to be super careful when I go on fan fiction websites. In the past I have struggled with reading M rated fan fiction pieces and believe me, even reading about it is addicting. Porn doesn’t only exist in videos or pictures, and is QUITE prevalent in books and other writings. Believe me, it may be addicting and pleasing to read, but afterwards it just makes you feel downright guilty even though you want to do it again. Please don’t fall into that trap! Always guard your heart and mind whether reading or watching something.

  13. Trinity

    Posted by Trinity on December 26, 2014 at 21:17

    So I’m not going to argue about whether pornography is bad but I’d like to say that the title’s a bit misleading. I was kind of expecting statistics and such about porn

    • KirstinMarie97

      Posted by KirstinMarie97 on April 27, 2015 at 18:22

      I’m not sure how you see the article title as misleading. They said they would present 7 truths and that is exactly what they did.

  14. ReadingSinger99

    Posted by ReadingSinger99 on December 26, 2014 at 18:12

    While I’ve never watched pornography,I’ve become addicted to something just as bad. Earlier this year I discovered fanfiction. At first I only read ones that were child friendly. But then I discovered the M rated ones, and soon I became addicted to them. Even to this day I still read them. I know it’s wrong and sinful but just like pornography it gives me a feel of satisfasction. I’m in the 10th grade now but I started when I was in the 9th. My other problem is whenever there’s a sex scene on a tv show(usually the shows I watch are tv-14) I just want to watch it. But i don’t know how to get over these addictions. And I feel dirty when I do it but I do it anyway.

  15. Project Inspired

    Posted by GirlSpoken on December 26, 2014 at 17:04

    I’m in 11th grade, back in 7th grade I began watching pornography….. I thought I was alone for so long….. So very very very long. I was consumed by it… and still am struggling day by day with it. At home, at church, at school…. Everywhere I go, sex seems to be a huge topic. Talking about sex makes me think of pornography and how badly I believe I need it. A kiss scene in a movie, even someone holding hands… It’s a horrible… horrible addiction.
    At my church the boys like to make sexual jokes… likes to try and joke about girls and such, and most of the girls joke around unknowing that it was setting me off… sending me into a endless maze of thoughts….
    Until I spoke up….
    I’m a writer, so how i told them was through a spoken word call I am, I was addicted…. NONE of the guys knew… they all became silent when I broke down after the poem… It really helped to talk about it. Since I talked about it (only about two weeks ago) I have felt… free in a way, but I still struggle… It’s still really hard and YES it is completely destructive.

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by RunInWhite on December 26, 2014 at 15:52

    I thought I was the only girl who struggled with this until I opened up with my bestfriend and she struggled with it too. I struggle with it everyday and I hate it. I don’t like it and I have no clue why I do it. I wish their was an anonymous support group for it. I feel like it’s the most disgusting thing in the world and I wish it would go away. please pray for me, I am ashamed and do not want this to ruin my life. I’m thankful for a God who forgives but I don’t want to disappoint him anymore. I want to be free of this sin.

  17. AngelnFire

    Posted by AngelnFire on November 4, 2014 at 02:16

    Wow you made me cry not of a negative way but of a joyful way, your insight and knowledge you share means the world to me, I want more then anything to be able to remove this sin from mylife to take Christ in myheart to fully surrender, I see now why I feel rejected by God, you opened my eyes thank you thank you from the bottom of my heart please pray for me I need it, I am in deep and I don’t want to loose my future christian husband and my Salvation over this.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by pb1994 on January 5, 2015 at 13:57

      I have been prying for people like u and Ev1.

  18. gabby.goo

    Posted by gabby.goo on October 24, 2014 at 16:54

    I could never tell any one I ever looked at porn. they would think I’m crazy. so yeah, this would be the first I ever even talked about it. but god is good and got me away from the porn.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by pb1994 on January 5, 2015 at 13:53

      I’ve never told anyone either, till I told my ByF that I did. I also looked at porn sites while doing it…..

  19. trueluvw8s57

    Posted by trueluvw8s57 on October 17, 2014 at 12:49

    Wow. I didn’t know other girls struggled with their sexuality! I never technically watched porn, but for me watching sex scenes in movies is just as much of a problem. So many times I have heard the saying “you reap what you sow” and it is so true. Whatever i put into my head is what’s going to come out in my life. i’m just going to be real with you guys. I struggle with masturbation. Gosh even the word is ugly. I started masturbating at a young age, and I didn’t even know what i was doing I just knew that it felt good. By the time i found out what was really happening it was too late. i was trapped. I’m so sick of failing over and over and over again the same exact way. Every time it happens I hate myself afterwards. I feel so dirty, and it takes me days to talk to God again without beginning every prayer with “I am SO sorry Jesus. So sorry.”
    I want so much for things to be different. I guess really I’m asking for help. If anyone out there has been able to break free from this, would you consider at least praying for me or even giving me some guidance? It would mean a lot.

    • Emmie Lou

      Posted by Emmie Lou on September 6, 2015 at 17:12

      Hey,
      I just want to offer encouragement to you. Your story is very close to mine! I started at a young age, I didn’t even know I was sinning. When I figured out it was wrong, I struggled for another 6 or so months. I kept telling myself, this is the last time. But I never really meant it. Telling my mom really helped. I was so ashamed, making it come out in the open helped me kick it. That was 3 or 4 years ago. I am still tempted today, in fact temptations have really been coming at me lately. One thing I will say, when you are really tempted, go somewhere where there is a lot of people. If you are in public you cant do anything
      Telling someone you know does help. I know that this is so hard. I fought about telling someone for months. Find someone really close you trust, getting out in the open will help so much!
      If you have any questions feel free too write to me!
      Lot of love and hope
      Emmie Lou

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by karabara123 on April 28, 2015 at 03:34

      I’d be honored to pray for you. I’ve struggled with masturbation as well. Once you do it long enough, the body wants more. It’s like a drug. I’ve been clean for about a month now, but it’s so hard. I’ll pray for you. Be strong. God is the strong one in this relationship.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by annabear1999 on January 31, 2015 at 10:39

      God loves and cares for you know matter the sin you commit. He knew along Time ago the shame and struggle you would have, he knew you be so angry with yourself. And he still allowed his son to die for you. Knowing everything, he still died for YOU! You have been justified! Set free and restored. God doesn’t even see the sin, he sees you as he child whom he loves deeply and endlessly no matter what. Knowing This, allow him to take the burden of your sin. His yolk is easy, he can carry yours.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by amylat on December 28, 2014 at 15:33

      Dearest sister, it’s not too late to turn away, as you say. You’re already taking steps toward breaking free. You acknowledge that your addiction is sinful, and you want to break free. I am three years clean from a pornography and masturbation addiction. I think each of us have that one thing that motivates us to quit more than anything else. My advice to you is to find that one thing. For me, it was the idea that I could reclaim my mind from the constant flow of dirty thoughts and urges, and that I could finally be reconciled to God my Savior. Sister, I know that you have a long, difficult journey ahead of you, but don’t give up. Keep fighting because you’re worth it. Keep fighting because Jesus fights for you. I promise that life is brighter and better past addiction.

      With love~~

    • AngelnFire

      Posted by AngelnFire on November 4, 2014 at 02:21

      Your not alone sweetie I think most every girl out there let alone all men struggle with masterbating, I know I do, your not alone but you have so many people here to support you. I will pray for you and I could use it in return. God is bigger and smarter then this sin he knows the way out and he loves you. I even know feel like a hypocrite saying that as I am still now fighting the battle but knowing I am not alone helps so I am gonna talk and encourage anyone out there I can. Hugs

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by maddielopper on October 28, 2014 at 22:09

      You are not alone.I also struggled with masturbation for about 3 years. It was something I learned online from watching porn, and I wish I would have never watched it. i felt alone because i thought i was the only girl who pleasured herself. God bring me out of that dark trap. I am forever thankful for that. I know the feeling I would say make a promise to God that you will try your hardest not do do it anymore. When I had the temptation to masturbate I turned my attention to somewhere else. I prayed. and I talked to other girls on here who also had the same problems as I did through the chat. When I heard other girls struggled through the same thing I did. I felt better knowing I was not alone. i felt better talking about it and finding ways to solve the issues with PI friends. I turned my attention to God nwing what I was doing was not Godly and asked hi to help. Try those things. I promise it will work

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by stepho on October 23, 2014 at 11:40

      Hi Annie,
      First off, I have struggled with pornography and masturbation since I was 12 so I completely understand the feeling of shame and feeling like you’re failing.
      Did you know that despite what you’re going through, God still has an intense love for you and desires you? Did you know that no matter what you do that He will still love you and find you worthy? I think that is really important to know and understand for anyone dealing with a vice. He will not turn away from you just because you struggle with porn and masturbation. Now, if God has shown you that you need to remove this thing from your life then He will provide a way out. It may be quick or it may last a couple of years until it’s gone and that is ok, but he will never forsake you in this. The Lord loves YOU! No one is ever going to be perfect and free of sin, but we are to look to Christ and follow his example in our every day life. Also, you are no less of a Christian because you struggle with porn and your struggle is not more horrible than someone who struggles with gossip, gluttony or control (just a few examples).
      Now, to deal with the vice. For a while, I would not allow myself to use the computer unless someone else was in the room with me to keep me from looking at porn. How do you get your high? What do you think would get in the way of you getting that high? Ok, now do that thing. For me it was having someone with me when I needed the computer. Also, let another wise woman know so that you are not dealing with this in the dark. I would ask the Lord to bring someone to mind for you to talk to. It feels scarey, but there is freedom in the light and the enemy wants you to stay in the dark. Start putting up boundaries. I had an issue where I would lay in bed and masturbate. Now I will not lay in my bed until I am exhausted and know that I will quickly fall asleep after. It takes some thought and it takes effort but you WILL over come this. You are a child of the King and with the Lords help, you will do this. But also remember, YOU cannot do it without the Lord. Rest in him and cry to him and complain or whatever you need, but go to Him about it. I am praying for you in this sweet girl. Be at peace and know that it will be ok. <3

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by pb1994 on October 24, 2014 at 03:36

        I have been masterbatting since 5 or 6 and still do it till this day. I sometimes want to, need to, or don’t need to, I still do it. I actually do it with my ByF that I have now. I think he controls me more than I do and when he does, it makes me feel a whole lot better than for me to control him. How do I tell him that when I or He needs it that it to Glorify God not for us?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by SeeC789 on October 20, 2014 at 23:30

      I’ve actually struggled in the same way. I started masturbating at the age of 4 and started watching porn when I was 9. I had no idea what it was, what I was doing or just how badly it would affect my life and my relationship with Christ. It was meeting Christ that made me realize what I was doing and helped me put that ugly word to my actions. Breaking free from my habits was far from easy but it’s been three years since I stopped and I have no intention of going back. In the beginning, it seemed hopeless but Christ is a lot more capable than I ever gave Him credit for. In Luke 4 it says that Jesus was full of the Holy Spirit when He went to face temptation in the desert. If the Holy Spirit can help Jesus through His temptation and somehow manage to lead me through my temptation, then I have no doubt that the same is being done for you. I’m praying for you because I know just how difficult something like this is but you can take it from me, things will change.

    • Hannah15511

      Posted by Hannah15511 on October 20, 2014 at 19:28

      You are not alone in your struggle. I too deal with masterbation. I guess it’s just remembering that God gives us restrictions to protect us and to live us ultimately. When you do fall though, remember that God uses our sin for his glory! 🙂

    • Shyanned

      Posted by Shyanned on October 19, 2014 at 19:49

      I am struggling with this right now as well. i will definitely keep you in my prayers. It’s not good that were doing this but I guess it feels good to know I’m not alone. I ask that you pray for me as well just to stop this because its destroying my relationship with God and I hate myself for it. I feel so empty and its never enough which is why I continue to do it not realizing that God is all that i need. I always feel dirty and disgusted with myself afterwards and i don’t even know why i would still want to do it again. I watch porn as well and i know it is destructive to myself and God tells me that its wrong through verses and just speaking to me. I have never told anyone it before either but it feels really good right now to not be alone and to get it off my chest. I pray for all the girls out there who struggle with this as well because it is a tough situation to be in. One day your going to church, having a great weak just on fire for God then all of the sudden the temptation comes up from behind and attacks. its hard!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by brittneigh on October 17, 2014 at 19:51

      Wow. It’s like you said what I’ve been thinking for years. I hate the feelingthat comes when I feel like I’m not even worthy to ask for forgiveness. For years, I would go to youth camps or have amazing church services and really feel God’s presence and said ” this is it. This is when I’ll finally break my addictions.” But here I am. Guilty and faulted once again. I’ve done everything I can do. I honestly have no idea what I could do to finally break these chains. I just want to let you know that I’m with you and that we’re going in the right direction.
      1.) we’re stating what we do
      2.) that it’s wrong
      3.) and that we can’t do it alone.
      This has been the most encouraging day of my life. Thank you all.

  20. Project Inspired

    Posted by brittneigh on October 16, 2014 at 08:28

    This may be a horrible thing to say, but these comments have really encouraged me. I started watching porn (by accident) when I was eleven, and 6 years later, it’s still a struggle. I felt like the most disgusting girl in the entire world. I felt like the only girl who would ever watch anything like that.
    I’ve known that I’ve had a calling from God for years to be a missionary. I’m even going to Bible College in August. But this porn addiction is really making me doubt myself. I just can’t shake it, no matter what I do, no matter how hard I try. I agree with a previous comment that said it sucks to have to repent for the same thing day after day after day and still do it. I feel like soon God’s just going to run out of forgiveness. I really feel like giving up. If anyone could pray for me, I would feel honored. I feel like maybe I’m taking a step in the right direction, seeing this is my first time ever sharing about my addiction. Thank you everyone again for this immense encouragement I have received today.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by ckemp on October 24, 2014 at 14:47

      I’ve been reading through these comments and while they’ve all encouraged me tremendously, it was yours that made me log in. When you said that you were interested in missions, but that you were doubting yourself because of your struggles I knew I had to reply. I went through the exact same doubts this summer before going on my first mission trip. I had had a relapse and was leaving in a week. And the devil just attacked me with doubts. How could I go serve the Lord when I’m this disgusting? How could I give in when I know that He has so much in store for me? I beat myself up. So when I say I know how your feeling I really do mean it. I urge you to please go read Romans 8. A friend led me to this chapter and it has helped me tremendously in my struggle. Brittany, please know that no matter what you do or how much you completely don’t deserve it, God will ALWAYS love and forgive you. He did not send His Son to die for you so that you could live in guilt. Jesus died for you to set you free! You have repented of your sins and they were all atoned for 2,000 years ago so PLEASE don’t let Satan make you feel guilty. Do not be ashamed! God loves you.

      When I was feeling unworthy to be used by God my friend revealed to me a beautiful truth…God does not use the qualified. He uses the willing. The called and not the perfect.

      Hold onto that and dive into missions! I know He will use you in BIG ways. I pray that God will be your strength along the way. If you ever need anything you can message me on twitter @claudikemp 🙂 God bless you!

  21. Project Inspired

    Posted by Ella95 on October 12, 2014 at 17:21

    All this seems so true according to what is being said about pornography.
    Repenting is the best way to go.

  22. BarbRivera

    Posted by BarbRivera on October 10, 2014 at 21:14

    I appreciate this but just some feedback: if you are addressing and calling out the problem, please give the solution.

    God can deliver anyone from any addiction and He WANTS to. He can take away your shame and by the blood of Jesus you can be clean and free from anything holding you down. Just call upon the name of Jesus and because He loves you (no matter what condition you are in, we are all broken and weak) and you WILL be healed. Jesus can take your heart and bind up every wound. He will trade the images of immorality and give you visions of heaven! All you have to do is ask. God bless you all.

  23. jedai

    Posted by jedai on October 10, 2014 at 03:18

    You ladies have opened my eyes to a whole new world. I praise God that I was not alone on this struggle. This completely brings to life 1 Cor 10:13 “No temptation has overtaken you except what is common to mankind. And God is faithful; he will not let you be tempted beyond what you can bear. But when you are tempted, he will also provide a way out so that you can endure it.”

    I’m 19 years old & I’ve been addicted to porn for a season. This is the first time I’m confessing this to anyone & it gladdens my heart that I can speak up for my spirit & be against this evil. I am finally coming out of this lust. I tried so many times to use will power to stop & failed so miserably. Finally I decided to trust God one day at a time. Of course there are relapses! But my recovery is much better. The devil tries to use this to degrade my righteousness & the guilt always feels deserved. But through Jesus I’ve been made the righteousness of God. Of course it sucks to repent for the SAME sin over & over, but taking things day by day, & after reading all your comments (I read every one :)) I have learned to fix my eyes on Jesus, the author & finisher of my faith. I have no one that I feel I can confide in when I need help with this or to just talk. Can anyone help? :)Thank you, PI sisters!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 24, 2014 at 03:42

      Hey I just got a Facebook last night so if u want to talk search for me, my name is Jessica Meadows and my profile pic is me riding a horse 🙂

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 23, 2014 at 12:47

      Haha I just saw a post about private messages somewhere so I dont know. I don’t currently have Facebook or twitter but I’m working on my parents for a Facebook and I think I’m making some headway lol

    • ant112

      Posted by ant112 on October 15, 2014 at 15:02

      Hey, if there is any way we could talk I would totally be willing to be there for you! I struggled with porn for, well, 5 or 6 years. Crazy I know, but it was or is an addiction. I’ve been free from it for about 10 months now! All the glory to God for this. Temptation will creep in every once in awhile but then I think about how far I’ve come and I know I can’t go back there. Stay strong, God will help you!!!

      • jedai

        Posted by jedai on October 15, 2014 at 19:29

        Hi! Oh my! Thank you for responding! I would love to talk with you! Do you have facebook?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 11, 2014 at 17:44

      I would love to talk with you more 🙂 I struggled this for a long time once I was introduced to it in 8th grade. I’ve mostly overcome the lust through God’s help, but its always a constant battle. Is there a way to do like private messages or something on here? I’m relatively new lol

      • jedai

        Posted by jedai on October 15, 2014 at 19:32

        Hello! Thank you so much for responding! I would love to talk with you! I know that it is never the will of God to be a slave to anything. Thanks so much for reaching out to me!… Not sure if there is a private message thing, I’m pretty clueless about the workings of the site… I have Facebook & Twitter though 🙂

  24. Project Inspired

    Posted by saraileft on October 9, 2014 at 21:14

    I have a friend that used to struggle with this and it is amazing to see how god helped her through that addiction. It was a huge struggle at first but she finally overcame it. So to all you girls that struggle with this don’t be ashamed. Pray to god and he WILL help you overcome it.

  25. Keridavis27

    Posted by Keridavis27 on October 9, 2014 at 20:02

    Thank you so much for this post! I had no idea so many other girls struggled with this, or that they started so young! I felt so alone during my time of addiction. I don’t remember clearly how I was able to stop, but I know God had a lot to do with it! I remember being terrified my parents would find out. I have fallen back a couple of times since then. I always feel disgusted with myself after. Now I remember that feeling when I get tempted, and busy my self with something else, like playing the piano or braiding my hair in weird styles. This is a much longer post than I was intending, but it is so nice to know that I’m not alone!

  26. Christian_Girl6860

    Posted by Christian_Girl6860 on October 9, 2014 at 18:30

    Pray for me please. I have never watched pornography, but I feel peer pressured. My society, especially school make me feel like I should. A very small, dark part of me wants to, just so I can fit in. I really, really try not to. But temptation is hard.

    • AngelnFire

      Posted by AngelnFire on November 4, 2014 at 02:34

      Pray ask God for help against temptation, no person no group no fitting in will be worth the hell it puts you through the lives that it destroys the people that it hurts, I struggle horribly with this and sadly to me when I fail it a like I have cheated not only on God but on my beloved boyfriend that is struggling himself and trying to turn back to God. I pray you don’t Fall into the trap so many of us have I hope you cone out victorious in this trail and temptation. Hugs

    • Godsbabygirl2007

      Posted by Godsbabygirl2007 on October 16, 2014 at 11:20

      Sweetheart, it’s not worth it. Trust me I was pressured into it when I was 12 and I’m still fighting the addiction at 26. I’ve gotten better over the years but it has cost me friendships and there are many things I regret doing because of the addiction. Stay strong sweetie, it’ll get easier as you just keep pushing forward.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by saraileft on October 14, 2014 at 17:08

      I’ll definitely pray for you . Don’t fall in to the temptation . Stay strong

  27. IdaPahus

    Posted by IdaPahus on October 8, 2014 at 08:52

    Yes!! This is a huge problem in our modern society! I wrote a post on it for PI and much of it was the same as what you have written? Why didn`t it get published? If you want to read it, hre is the link(I posted it in the girl talk forum instead): http://www.projectinspired.com/girl-talk/topic/the-problem-we-cant-neglect-any-longer/page/4/#post-160479

  28. patientlywaitingforGodsplan

    Posted by patientlywaitingforGodsplan on October 3, 2014 at 19:30

    Now I haven;t ever watched porn or anything but I thought the girl who said sex scenes in books and all is like that too so I’ve read that. Sometimes, I’ll be reading a book and it takes a turn for that side of things. Usually, I’ll try to get passed it as quickly as possible and that is relatively easy to do, because it’s really short (I know it’s wrong….). But sometimes, it’s a really long one and it’s bugging me so much I never get passed it. I think it was only once or twice that I took a book back (which is extremely hard) because the scene was making me feel all squeamish inside. It was this weird feeling that I hated so I got rid of the stimulus.

  29. Project Inspired

    Posted by BriBriC77 on October 3, 2014 at 09:18

    “Every Young Woman’s Battle”, “Every Woman’s Battle”, and especially “The Fantasy Fallacy”. All three are books and resources written by Shannon Ethridge that help you get to the bottom of pornography and lust addictions. God showed me that the root of pursuing these things came out of loneliness, rejection, and inefficient strategies of coping with stress. But He can fill and overflow in all of these areas. He has helped me tremendously and I no longer pursue the things of my flesh as regularly as I did in the past. I praise Him for His unfailing love and that He is mighty to save. (Hebrews 7:25, Psalm 36:7)

  30. realmisslq

    Posted by realmisslq on October 3, 2014 at 08:42

    At first, the thought that you were actually addicted to something like this is embarrassing. But after recovering completely, you’ll realize that this is your testimony! As females who’ve fought the battle & are now pure, we can now testify to other women the truth about this & share our stories.

    Btw, Jesus is what REALLY set me free from it. The Fortify Program is what helped me out! 🙂

    http://www.fortifyprogram.org < Free for teens always!

    You can also look up videos called "Fight The New Drug" on YouTube. That's the name of the organization that runs "Fortify". 🙂

  31. Project Inspired

    Posted by BritNic24 on October 3, 2014 at 01:54

    For anyone looking for more info or help
    Addiction recovery for ladies:
    http://dirtygirlsministries.com
    Statistics and recovery for men,women and couples:
    http://xxxchurch.com
    The dirty truth about the industry and the form stars speaking out and helping others out:
    http://thepinkcross.org
    Statistics and recovery for all ages/ genders
    http://fightthenewdrug.org

    If you need help please seek it! 🙂

  32. NicoleA.McKay

    Posted by NicoleA.McKay on October 2, 2014 at 22:14

    The exploitation of women also shows that we don’t have equal rights as men. But most importantly it shows where we Christians need to stand up and fight for what’s right. Make the case for Christ.

  33. LucyPevensie1

    Posted by LucyPevensie1 on October 2, 2014 at 20:55

    I just had a conversation with some of my friends about this yesterday! What I believe is that Pornography is demeaning to women. God created us to be so much more than what you see with pornography. We are God’s children and us girls are his princesses. He wants to do great things with us in our lives, and even though we fall, he still loves us.

  34. tessagallegos1

    Posted by tessagallegos1 on October 2, 2014 at 20:38

    I have been struggling with this for about 6 years and it seems like doesn’t ever want to stop. Satan has a grip on me in this area and its frustrating! If you guys know of a program I can get into to help me then please send me a link because this battle needs to be won and I’m going to do it through Christ!

    • ant112

      Posted by ant112 on October 15, 2014 at 15:11

      I know exactly how you feel! Personally what helped me was telling someone I trusted. It was hard, but she understood. She was there for me. It took two years after I told her and it was a constant battle, but I’ve been freed for about 10 months after an addiction for about 6 years. If I can do it so can you!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Kellgirl360 on October 2, 2014 at 23:04

      I have struggled for over 5 years myself. I know it seems like there is no end and at least for me it feels like I talk to somebody about it, think im gonna do better, then the next day I fail again. I just want to let you know you aren’t alone and recovery is NEVER overnight. I know the term is overused but admitting is the first step. When you can be honest with jesus about your sins and he knows you struggle with it, it doesnt make it okay but it makes it so much better than trying to hide it from the one who made you. In my life porn is my biggest problem, but I have people who are there for me. PM me if you want to talk more. Also, the link leads you to my favorite song, Greater, by mercy me. Even if you dont want to listen to the whole thing just listen to the first 30 seconds.

      http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=GXI0B4iMLuU

      • tessagallegos1

        Posted by tessagallegos1 on October 3, 2014 at 23:03

        How do I pm you?

      • tessagallegos1

        Posted by tessagallegos1 on October 3, 2014 at 23:01

        Thank you! It helps just knowing I’m not the only one who has this problem. I have heard the song and I absolutely love it! I’m doing good so far but then Satan tries to drag me back under, sometimes I succeed but other times, I fail.

  35. tmgaouette

    Posted by tmgaouette on October 2, 2014 at 19:51

    Ladies, it takes so much courage to share your stories and I just wanted to take a moment to thank you! God bless you all, TMG

  36. ealizzy

    Posted by ealizzy on October 2, 2014 at 19:21

    This is a great article, but I think it is important to remember that porn is not just images or videos of sec, but sex scenes in books, romantic scenes in movies. Anything that stirs your affections in the wrong way.

  37. Project Inspired

    Posted by maddielopper on October 2, 2014 at 18:37

    I was introduced to pornography at a young age. I saw it on tv. My parents didn’t know of course but as i grew I become more curious. I watched it at a young for humor, especially when around friends. It was funny to us. But as I grew older I watched it less for humor and more so for pleasure and was introduced to pleasuring myself from it, i knew this problem had to be fixed. I wouldn’t say I was addicted, I watched it because I wanted to. When I used to watch it this guilt came over me.I knew it was a sin but i still watched it. I prayed and asked God to help me. I realized watching porn really does mess up the mind and ruins lives. I dont watch it anymore Thank God. I remember I used t feel so along. ”Like was I really the only girl who watched porn all the time” . But I am so thankful to God I do no watch that mess. Its sick. When ever any of you feel tempted just read the word of God. Know this, porn is wrong, its lust. God said Lust is a sin.

    • hannaa9539

      Posted by hannaa9539 on October 6, 2014 at 15:36

      That is exactly my story. You’re so brave for sharing, and i’ll be praying for the both of us

    • Milg

      Posted by Milg on October 3, 2014 at 10:23

      I this is also my story, thanks for sharing<3

  38. mirandy

    Posted by mirandy on October 2, 2014 at 18:11

    It sticks with you is very true. Somethings have been burned into my brain by things I accidentally came across on a Google search once. Moral of the story: Turn that filter on for all Goggle/Yahoo/Bing/etc searches

  39. KareBear

    Posted by KareBear on October 2, 2014 at 12:29

    I’m glad that you posted this.

    I’ve never been addicted to straight out pornography, but I was introduced to the #confessions hashtag on instagram two years ago, and I used to spend about half an hour every day just reading through the ones that weren’t exactly… pure. I didn’t exactly know that it was a sin back then, but deep down I knew that it was wrong. As the months went by, something seemed more and more wrong with reading what was under those hashtags. This past summer, I finally decided that I was going to stop. I realized that my main focus should be on my friends, my church, and, most importantly, God. It was easy to put it away for the summer, since I was so busy. When I came back to school about a month or so ago, I struggled for it, dabbling once a week or so. But I was reading through at one point and someone had written “These girls need Jesus!” and I realized that what I was doing wasn’t just wrong… it was downright a sin.

  40. Jesusfreak1415

    Posted by Jesusfreak1415 on October 1, 2014 at 19:08

    I’m glad I read this article. Although, I have never had trouble with porn, I have had a lot of trouble with lust. It mostly comes from watching shows and movies that glorify this sin. I’ve never really thought I had a problem until I read this and I’m so grateful I did and now I am going to try and get help. I’m going to stop watching degrading TV shows/ movies/ books and I’m gonna start praying for healing and surrender it all up to God. Thank you sooo much for this article! It’s definitely a God thing.

  41. GraceGirl1379

    Posted by GraceGirl1379 on October 1, 2014 at 05:12

    Omg thanks so much! This is great. I’ve been struggling with porn, but lately it’s been getting soooo much better. I’m almost to the point where it’s as disgusting to me now as it was when I first started, and I’ve been learning how to fight it.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by maddielopper on October 2, 2014 at 18:39

      Dont worry other girls go through the same. Remember when ever you feel tempted just read the word of God. I was in your shoes once. I used to watch porn all the time because I was really curious and I thought it was interesting but now I think its disgusting. You will get through it. SENDING PRAYERS XOXO

  42. Sjbornman

    Posted by Sjbornman on September 30, 2014 at 16:58

    It truly is! my ex told me that every boy looks at porn and uses it to gratify their sex crave
    and I asked one of my guy friends that and he said yes every boy does that, that’s just what boys do. I really hate it cause i want to marry someone who’s sexually pure but it seems hopeless now in this age…

    • amberkathleen

      Posted by amberkathleen on October 3, 2014 at 09:50

      There are men who don’t watch it.. Believe me. Some have previously in life, but don’t still. (But let’s be real.. Very few people have not seen it/watched it today.. It’s so easily accessible.)

    • LucyPevensie1

      Posted by LucyPevensie1 on October 2, 2014 at 20:59

      I know how you feel. A couple guys I know were talking about that the other day. It isn’t easy living in today’s world. We just can’t give up hope:)

  43. realmisslq

    Posted by realmisslq on September 30, 2014 at 15:50

    This is so true! With the help of God & this program called “Fortify”, I have overcome my pornography addiction. I was exposed to it when I was in the 1st or 2nd Grade, which is why it’s been such a long battle (Not to mention the powerless church I was attending!). A pornography addiction is a SERIOUS thing, ladies! I am a witness! No longer a victim, but a survivor. If you need anyone to talk to or have any questions about it, I am here to talk ALWAYS!

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusFreak3278 on October 1, 2014 at 14:27

      Wow… I never knew any other girls my age struggled with this! I have been struggling with this addiction for a while ad well. I was exposed to it in 8th grade (last year) and its been a constant struggle. I know deep inside that it’s a sin and it’s not pure, but until recently I couldn’t stop for good. I would always try to stop for a few days but then go right back to it. I finally stopped once my parents found out. We had a long talk about it, and they are helping me get back on the right path now. It was hard when they found out because I was so embarrassed, but they have shown nothing but love and loving discipline. 🙂

    • GraceGirl1379

      Posted by GraceGirl1379 on October 1, 2014 at 05:13

      Where did you find the program? I was exposed ot porn in 7th grade and been fightingg it ever since; I’m almost there!

      • music_love_janaye

        Posted by music_love_janaye on October 2, 2014 at 18:17

        http://fortifyprogram.org/

        You have to apply for it online, but the program is free and the application is very easy. It’s a great program that has really helped me 🙂

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by maddijs on October 1, 2014 at 17:04

        I don’t know where you can find Fortify, but there is a website called XXXChurch.com. I heard the guy who runs it speak at a national youth conference a couple years back, and he was pretty cool. I don’t have any experience with the program, but I encourage you to check it out.

  44. mkay77

    Posted by mkay77 on September 30, 2014 at 15:02

    Don’t know how accurate this is, but it makes sense: apparently pornography damages relationships because people have so high expectations of what the ‘do should be that once they do the ‘do…they’re disappointed their partner can’t do the ‘do as well as they want them to (wow, how many times did I say “the ‘do” in one sentence?). Just wanted to put that out there.