Ask Aysha: “Is He Busy? Or Is He Just Not Interested?”
Written by Aysha Ives | March 7, 2013
I went out with a guy about a month ago and had a great time. At the end of our date, he said that he’d try to answer my texts, but I haven’t heard from him since. Do you think he’s just busy or is he not interested?
When you really like a guy and he stops communicating with you, it can be pretty hard to figure out what’s going on. You may be eagerly awaiting his text message, phone call or email and are probably quite disappointed each day that you don’t hear from him. It’s even worse when you reach out to him and he chooses not to respond to you. You might ask yourself, What’s going on? Is he busy? Is he not into me? Did I do something wrong?
Well, the answer isn’t always that clear. There could be many factors that are contributing to the situation, but one thing is for sure:
You’re God’s girl and you deserve to be treated with more respect!
Okay, perhaps this guy is pretty busy, but does that excuse his behavior? When you have a lot to do, do you stop communicating with your friends completely? I’m sure that when you’re really busy, you still find time to have some level of communication with them. Likewise, if you know you’ll be unavailable, you’d probably let your friends know so they won’t expect to hear from you for awhile. That’s the Godly thing to do.
Being non-responsive to people who reach out to you isn’t reflective of the love that Jesus commands us to demonstrate to others. Whether this guy wants to be in a relationship with you or not, it’s not okay to just leave people hanging like that. So, I encourage you to ask yourself this question:
Is that really someone I want to be in a relationship with?
Also, remember that every relationship doesn’t work out every time. If a relationship doesn’t blossom, remind yourself that God has already created your Price Charming! When the time is right, you’ll meet him. So it may be tough when the guy you like doesn’t answer your texts, calls or email, but that’s NOT a reflection of you. It just means that he’s not the right guy. In fact, you may have just avoided a bigger heartbreak later on.
When guys disappoint us, girls sometimes feel a little depressed. But that’s not God’s desire for you! Remind yourself of your greatness and how much your future husband will cherish you. Spend some time pampering yourself while you’re healing. Maybe have a girls’ night or give yourself a manicure/pedicure. Explore some new hobbies or join new groups and organizations. And of course, spend more time praying and meditating on God’s Word.
What do you ladies think? Have you ever been in this situation before? What did you do?
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