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Defending Christ: How Would You Respond in These Scenarios?

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Defending Jesus Christ and Christianity is not always easy to do, especially when it comes to dealing with people who have no regard for the feelings of others. But as Christians, we should always try to defend our Lord and faith.

But even if you should suffer for what is right, you are blessed. ‘Do not fear what they fear; do not be frightened.’ But in your hearts set apart Christ as Lord. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. But do this with gentleness and respect, keeping a clear conscience, so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander (1 Peter 3:14-16).

I wrote the post, “Would You Defend Jesus as Strongly as You Defend Your Favorite Celeb?”  so I know some of you feel as if you don’t have the courage or the words to respond to someone who criticizes Christ or Christianity.

Sometimes, we find ourselves in a situation that may not be confrontational, but still you find it offensive and disrespectful toward your Lord and Savior. So what do you do? What do you say? Well, for those who’ve already been in these situations, here’s your chance to share with your fellow PI sisters who have been lost for words.

Just remember though, that what you say is just as important as how you say it. So even though you likely will be dealing with offensive people, this doesn’t mean you have to be equally offensive. You are Christ’s child, so represent Him with all the dignity and respect that He expects of us. Keep your words kind and educated.

I have four scenarios for you below. I think they encompass a number of situations where a person may deliberately or accidently offend Christ.

  1. A classmate starts telling rude Jesus jokes during class. There are a bunch of kids around. How do you respond?
  2. A good friend keeps using God’s name in vain. You don’t want to hurt her feelings, so how do you respond?
  3. There’s an atheist in your school who always gets into discussions about why he thinks God doesn’t exist, and his reasoning is offensive to Christians. How do you respond?
  4. You’re at a social event and a friend of a friend is wearing an offensive t-shirt about God. You don’t know this person, but she thinks her shirt’s cool and keeps showing it off. How do you respond?

So PI ladies, now it’s up to you. If you think you have the perfect words to respond to these scenarios, then share them with us in the comments below. Make sure you reference which scenario your response is for.

Also, if you have a scenario, feel free to post that as a comment also! Just make sure you begin your comment with “SCENARIO:” so your fellow PI girls can read them and offer up suggestions.

Remember ladies, we are all stewards of Christ, so keep it respectful and kind, “so that those who speak maliciously against your good behavior in Christ may be ashamed of their slander.”

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  1. bethanytorstenson

    Posted by bethanytorstenson on February 2, 2013 at 19:52

    I wait to long to speak, and It is really a bad thing

  2. Project Inspired

    Posted by White Angel on December 30, 2012 at 16:13

    A good friend keeps using God’s name in vain. You don’t want to hurt their feelings, so how do you respond?
    Well, first of all, never keep quiet because, you are just as guilty of taking God’s name in vain as they are for not stopping them. Second, I would simply ask them to not say His name so flippantly around me. If they refuse, well, I would request for them to stop more coldly and more forcefully.

    A classmate starts telling rude Jesus jokes during classclass. There are a bunch of kids around. How do you react?
    I would tell them outright to stop, as it is disrespectful. Knowing everyone will start laughing I say,”You wouldn’t disrespect some Muslim’s God would you? Why am I any different?”
    If they continue I would say, “Fine, tell those jokes that aren’t even funny, but at least refrain from telling them around me!”

    There’s an athiest in your school who always gets into discussions about why he thinks God doesn’t exist, and his reasoning is offensive to Christians. How do you respond?
    I walk up to him and ask if he likes it when people shove their beliefs, philosophies, ideas, or theories down his throat. When he responds no, I nod and say neither do I, so please stop trying to shove your beliefs, philosophies, ideas, and theories down MY throat, thanks. Smiling at the end always helps

    The last question is kinda goofy though… Honestly I’d just tell them I don’t like their short and find it offensive…

    What people need to remember is, you are just as guilty of the sin if you don’t speak up and put a stop to the sin itself. Christians aren’t supposed to tolerate sin in any way, shape, or form. So when someone tells you to be tolerant cause that’s what Christians are supposed to be, just tell them, no Christians are forgiving not tolerant!

  3. Project Inspired

    Posted by nienie2196 on October 19, 2012 at 17:47

    I’ve been in all of these scenarios. To tell you the truth…it really is hard. And you gotta choose your words VERY carefully. Be nice, but firm. Because odds are, after you defend Christ, they’ll just tease you more. And if they do, just leave it alone. Don’t fight it. And pray for them to understand you and Christianity better so they can learn to respect Him like He should be respected.

  4. Project Inspired

    Posted by Questioning on October 16, 2012 at 19:07

    These questions seem a lot simpler when I think about using I-statements. Basically an I-statement is “When you _____, I feel _____.” This works because you make the statement about your problem rather than making it sound like there is a problem with the other person and it’s all their fault.
    So for example, if someone’s religious jokes sound offensive to you, “When you tell jokes like that, I feel like you don’t respect my faith.” Rephrase this into words that fit your voice and your situation, of course.

  5. Project Inspired

    Posted by Lilliterra on October 14, 2012 at 14:02

    1. That’s never happened to me in person but on facebook and the social networks I tend to ignore it or hide that person’s posts. If somebody was to tell one to me I’d probably just tell them that I found it offensive.

    2. Been there, done that. Actually, she was a Christian. I just reminded her what the Bible said about it, and she reacted really well. To anyone that wasn’t a Christian, I’d probably just leave it, or if it was really bad tell them that it made me uncomfortable and ask them not to do it around me.

    3. Been there, done that. I will debate him. I actually kind of like doing it, and I research a lot to keep sharp on that kind of thing.

    4. If she showed it to me, I would probably not hesitate to tell her why I disagreed and what was wrong with it. Most of those T-shirt wisecracks are so stupid and you can pick them apart in a second using logic.

  6. Project Inspired

    Posted by noelleheart on October 14, 2012 at 12:11

    SCENARIO: (Have you heard of RapturJesus? It’s basically a dinosaur in Jesus’ clothing. Just Google it and you’ll see what I’m talking about.) (On the way to school, with a total of 6 people in the car. Pretty much all of them aren’t Christian.) So my friend shows me pictures of RapturJesus on her iPod. She thinks they’re hilarious. I just stay quiet. I want to say something, but I don’t know what. How do I tell her I find them offensive?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Just13 on October 14, 2012 at 14:14

      In that scenario I’d say: “I’m sorry But I don’t find that funny at all….actually that’s pretty offensive to me” I hope that’s some help :)

  7. Project Inspired

    Posted by BrittNicoleHowWeRoll on October 13, 2012 at 21:01

    I had a friend who committed number 2. He said, ‘Godd**nit!’ I was kind of wondering if he was seeing my response because he’s an athiest and I am a Christian. I just said, you know, it’s not his fault.
    Some atheists enjoy pushing Christian’s to their brink so in this case, I would suggest you treat them nice because you’re just satisfying them more if you flip them off or get upset.
    As another commenter mentioned, Jesus doesn’t need to be defended, but we show our love and appreciation for him when we do so. :D

  8. sisterwhocares

    Posted by sisterwhocares on October 13, 2012 at 19:09

    Great scenarios! Btw, does anyone know how to respond to a situation in which someone mocks your virginity and choice to wait until marriage to have sex and dress modestly? I’m trying to respond with grace, but its really hard to not think of a clever, but mean response to those type of questions

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by JesusInKorea2333 on October 14, 2012 at 17:24

      If they are doing this continually, I would say to not hang out with them, but then again I don’t know if you have a choice or what the exact circumstances are. However, if they keep persisting about it or relentlessly mock you about it, then you need to stand up for yourself and let them know that you’re not going to let them push you around for you efforts to stay pure up until marraige. If this is the case, then I would say something like, “I choose to stay pure because not only am I against losing your virginity before marraige, frankly I don’t want to have to deal with condoms or potentially getting HIV or AIDS because I’m screwing around with people who don’t care about me but only about the quality of sex I can give on a scale of 1 to 10.” I know that sounds pretty sassy, but if they are constantly bogging you down because of it, then you need to say something that will shut them up once and for all.
      If that’s not the case and they only have done that once, then do your best to respond with love and not with an extreme amount of annoyance. However, that topic is something that I personally take seriously so if they start to mock you more than once, then you need to say something and stand up for yourself in a way that won’t make them do that (at least to your face) again.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by Lilliterra on October 14, 2012 at 14:05

      Honestly, if it was me, I’d just tell them I like my virginity and it’s a choice that I made, not because I’m too unpopular to get laid or something. I can’t imagine, really though, how in the world you’d mock someone for something like waiting until marriage.

  9. Project Inspired

    Posted by marydee on October 13, 2012 at 16:43

    Sometimes I think it’s better to just live in a way that shows these people the love of Christ rather than say anything at all. Yes it hurts to see and hear these things. However, it does far more good to show them Jesus by your life than to preach at them. Let the light of Christ shine out in everything you do!

  10. Nellie

    Posted by Nellie on October 13, 2012 at 15:35

    I always speak up unless I feel like it would only make things worse. And I always make sure to be polite while still sticking to my beliefs. If you respect the other person they should feel obligated to at least respect you back. And you may not change the way they feel right away, the next day or even the next year, but maybe someday they could think of the people they’ve met and realize how right they were… my mom has a lot of friends that weren’t always christians and she didn’t specifically bring them to christ, but they all knew where she stood in her faith and now they are christians!! God works in ways we don’t understand. He uses us even when we don’t know it.

  11. Liliandil486

    Posted by Liliandil486 on October 13, 2012 at 15:10

    I think the question “How do you defend Jesus” is kind of a bad question because Jesus doesn’t really need “defending”. I think using the word defending makes it sound like the creation is protecting the Creator and it really just doesn’t work like that. When the soldiers came to arrest Jesus, Peter got defensive, said “You can’t do that to Jesus”, and cut that poor servant’s ear off! And what did Jesus do? He rebuked Peter and healed the servant ear.
    I think a better question is “How can you defend your faith?”. You can tell your friends, classmates, or the people around you to please stop because it is inappropriate as well as rude. Just make sure you are saying it with love.

  12. Paris

    Posted by Paris on October 13, 2012 at 00:26

    1.T You should not tell those jokes in front of me because they offend me because I am a christian and it is not pleasing to Jesus Christ. It is not right to make fun of anyone’s religion. It is very disrespectful.

    2.You know you are my best friend and I love you,but I do not like it when you use God’s name in vain because it is disrespectful to me as one of Christ’s children and it is really disrespectful to God,who deserves ALL of the respect.

    3.I can’t make you believe that God exists,but christians happen to believe that he does,so please don’t make what we say as stupid or foolish.

    4. Excuse me,but I am a christian and I find your t shirt rather offensive. Can you please not show it off? Thank you for listening to what I have to say.

  13. Project Inspired

    Posted by Journalistlove on October 12, 2012 at 23:05

    This lady once told me that this guy was using God’s name in vain and so she said to him: “You know you’re talking about teh man I love,” and so he just stopped. As Christians, we shouldn’t get so defensive but do it in the spirit of love because everything Jesus did was in that same spirit of love.

  14. Project Inspired

    Posted by Deegirl08 on October 12, 2012 at 20:24

    I speak up about these things a lot at my school. Some people ask me why I believe in God too…anyway…practically everyone at my school knows what I believe and what I stand for so they don’t try to tempt me with things and they do bring up discussions like those.

  15. 3chowington

    Posted by 3chowington on October 12, 2012 at 19:03

    01. Ask the person to talk in private (not around other people because so person doesn’t get embarrased or so that they dont make a scene). Say, I realize you may think Christianity is a theory but that is how I feel about atheism, do you mind not making those jokes about my king (Jesus) when your around Christians? If the person if rude and sounds like they are annoyed then say “I’d better be going thanks so much for listening to me” and walk away. DON’T fight with the person, it doesn’t get anywhere

    02. I’ve had this problem with a girl from church. She’s a devout Christian and has great things to share however we all are fallen to sin so some things I don’t quite agree with. I don’t correct her everytime she uses Gods name in vain because that can get annoying for both Of us. I usually just say “don’t use the Lords name in vain,” you can’t dis- agree with that with a Christian because they know its wrong. With a non-Christian I’d say “Can you not say that please” or what I do that is quik and effective ” say “Gosh not God”

    03. If the person is repeatedly saying those things and you are in a state were you are sure you can resist the urge at yelling at them then I’d go home and look up plausible scientfic facts about what happened in bible days and how they proved it true. the prophecies that have to pass. I would if you can put it in words, the feeling when you have a King. Take the person in private or ask them to hang out after school so you won’t be rushed or interrupted. If the person gets hostile and annoyed simple say thanks for listening and say something nice, smile then leave. (It is better for the person to think about these things once you have left even though they may have said things against it while you were talking) leave with the person the facts and a bible.

    04. Remember you don’t know this person personally, so you don’t know what they are going through or have gone through. I would pull my friend aside and ask them if they agree with what their friend is doing. They’ll get the message. They know them better than you so if you would like to help this person find Jesus have your fiend introduce you and be so polite and NOT rude that she or he will have to be your friend and honor you. However if he or she doesn’t dot sweat it, God said that it is a good thing to be prosecuted for his sake.

    Loving words are better than repition. No one likes a robot that repeats the same stuff over and over again so be lenient and don’t push somebody if they glued their own feet to the floor.
    Always talk in private if you are going to confront somebody or are going to talk to them about something deep or important. It will make you and the other person more relaxed. Always 1-1 not 1-2 or 1-5 if you have multiply people to talk to about the same thing don’t crowd them in so everyone can here. Even if you are going to have to say the same thing 8 times in a row. Patience, humility, loving, kindness, self control, joy, gentleness, faithfulness and forbearance.

  16. Project Inspired

    Posted by heartshavewings on October 12, 2012 at 15:55

    The third one happened to me with someone who was at the time a good friend of mine. He tried to shove in my face all of these scientific facts about why God wasn’t real. But it was all stupid. If you really think about the Big Bang Theory that scientists swear by, here’s what it is:
    In the beginning there was nothing. Then, that nothing reacted with that nothing and made something. Then that something began to react with itself over and over and over and made everything.
    Come on atheists. Seriously?

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by BeStillAndBreath98 on October 12, 2012 at 19:36

      Yeah not trying to be rude but I agree.My science book (Biblical foundation) Explained it in the 1st chapter lol “There is 7 scientific problems with the big bang:
      1.It doesn’t account how the matter came into existence in the first place and so does not really explain the origin of things.
      2.The “Big squeeze” (another part of the BB) could not have compressed the matter to anywhere near the necessary density.
      3.Even if the compression happened,matter of such density could never have expanded because of the titanic crush of it’s own gravity.
      4.Once the matter began expanding outward,there is no feasible way that the debris could have come together again to form stars without another explosion like event off to one side to compress the matter.The fragments form the explosion would keep moving off into space,moving farther and farther apart.Human observations have confirmed that explosions disorganize matter rather than organizing it,unless some guiding hand controls he explosion.”

      so they kinda proved right there that the big bang is false. lol but if they believe in science then okay xD

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by BeStillAndBreath98 on October 14, 2012 at 20:00

        I was talking about the big bang..When I have the chance to tell someone about something that Jesus did for me I will gladly tell them about it.I try to be a good example for the people around me.So may I ask…what are you talking about GodRocks? lol

      • Project Inspired

        Posted by Godrocks on October 14, 2012 at 18:07

        BeStillandBreathe98- just try to be a good example, and they might do the same :) be the change you want to see :) i’ll pray for you to be a witness to Jesus for them :) God bless! :D

  17. Project Inspired

    Posted by amazinchiik on October 12, 2012 at 14:52

    Well I go by the spirit of discernment. I’ve been in three of those situations already haha. Just not the shirt one. The first one happened on the bus. I told him kindly that what he was saying was offensive because I am a devout Christian. He stopped. Every time my friend would say Jesus I’d complete the sentence and say loves you :) When an atheist is using offensive language toward Christianity it is most likely because they felt betrayed by God. So in that case I speak positive things God has done. No one can deny your testimony. It’s an experience that cannot be taken away :)

  18. Project Inspired

    Posted by faithhope11 on October 12, 2012 at 14:31

    I’d just leave them be. They’ll have their comeuppances sooner or later. I have 2 atheist friends and I’m not going to bother them about it. They’re actually really good people.

  19. Loving.Lexie

    Posted by Loving.Lexie on October 12, 2012 at 13:49

    Usually when my friends use my sweet Jesus’ name in vain, I shout out or quietly echo, “My GOODness.” to emphasize there are others ways to express yourself…then I smile, of course :)

    • sisterwhocares

      Posted by sisterwhocares on October 13, 2012 at 19:14

      Ha! I like that, that’s pretty clever! I think that next time I hear someone say the F word I’ll say, “Oh FLIPTHESWITCHOFBADLANGUAGEOFF!”

  20. GracieHoran

    Posted by GracieHoran on October 12, 2012 at 13:29

    I’m just always afraid i’ll say the wrong thing so normally i keep quiet…if someone has advice please help!

    • kath660

      Posted by kath660 on October 14, 2012 at 10:01

      Whenever I’m scared like that I give my words to God. So I just stand there for a few seconds with God asking Him to speak through me and then I go up to the difficult people.

  21. Dragoncactus

    Posted by Dragoncactus on October 12, 2012 at 13:07

    Let’s be honest, then.
    1– I would say that’s not funny.. Blase, ’cause it’s not like I worry about popularity or anything…
    2–That has happened. I finally stopped being such a coward and asked her to stop. She did, and nicely, too.
    3–Oh, but for some reason I’m good at arguing. So I’d probably debate him. I don’t take offense, as the offense is not directed at me, but it does make me mad.
    4–If she showed it to me, I’d tell her why I didn’t like it. What she did with that is up to her.

    I’m not blunt, per se, and I tend to be a huge coward, but sometimes I can’t take it and explode. Not exactly the right way, but I actually feel better than staying quiet.

  22. Project Inspired

    Posted by on October 12, 2012 at 10:49

    The world is diverse; I just keep my head down in it and don’t bother whining if someone has different beliefs than mine. We need to be able to laugh about ourselves, too. In our history, Christians haven’t exactly been innocents, and I think we deserve a bit of guff from our peers. If you don’t like what someone else is saying or wearing, get over it. Frankly, I enjoy a good Jesus joke and make a few myself…and lots of those so-called “offensive” t-shirts are quite amusing.

    • Project Inspired

      Posted by on January 12, 2013 at 16:46

      Oh my god thank you for saying this!

    • Emi

      Posted by Emi on October 21, 2012 at 23:02

      I’m just curious, but if you DO make jokes about Jesus, how is that truly loving Him? I’m sure you wouldn’t make jokes about your mom, dad, sister, friends or whoever and especially not your Lord. The Lord has feelings too; He deserves more than anyone to have respect from His children.

    • tmgaouette

      Posted by tmgaouette on October 13, 2012 at 10:09

      We should laugh at ourselves as Christians? Tell jokes about Jesus? We deserve to be laughed at because of history? I’m glad you find it all amusing, but I think enough people laugh at us already. This post is for those who want to say something but don’t know what. Our PI ladies are given the opportunity to share their ideas with those who don’t want to keep their head down and allow others to be rude and disrespectful about our Lord and Savior, our Creator. I hardly consider defending our faith whining. I consider it an honor. But thank you for sharing your thoughts.

  23. Project Inspired

    Posted by BeStillAndBreath98 on October 12, 2012 at 10:32

    Of course I would be polite about it. It depends sometimes I would just stay quiet.Like my mom’s side of the family.They always always always uses God’s name in vain and I’ve told them so many times to not say that also with them being in LOVE with horoscopes I told them they shouldn’t read them but they do it anyways.I even told them scriptures about it and they can honestly care less.I kind of gave up on it,saying why waste my breath. Yes they’re Christians but they don’t live up to that name :( and I usually just say forgive them father for they know not what they do and move on. Same with a good friend.

    There’s an atheist in your school who always gets into discussions about why he thinks God doesn’t exist, and his reasoning is offensive to Christians. How do you respond?

    I would ask them why they think that and tell them a bit that He does exist.If he keeps saying that he doesn’t and starts to get rude towards me I calmly close the discussion.I usually say “Well that’s your opinion and that’s okay.We have freedom of speech and i’m not going to force it down your throat that He does exist.” and they leave it there and continue on with their day.

    But if it’s something H-U-G-E I would without a doubt speak up.

    • Deeblves3

      Posted by Deeblves3 on October 12, 2012 at 13:46

      1. A classmate starts telling rude Jesus jokes during class. There are a bunch of kids around. How do you respond?

      Honestly, yes I defend God when he feels I should speak. No doubt, I agree with that. But when certain situations like this happen, I stay silent as well. They have opinions they feel their entitled too, but if it were a one on one discussion I’d probably share with them what God changed in my life. Pretty much God takes it from there, because I know I may not change their hearts, but it makes them think for awhile. Either way, God has the power to touch their hearts in mysterious ways.

      2. A good friend keeps using God’s name in vain. You don’t want to hurt her feelings, so how do you respond?

      I have a friend too who does that, and usually I don’t speak about it because it makes her uncomfortable. Though, I show my actions in love in me through Christ towards her. Little things count, ladies. There are times when just a group of friends talk about the devil and all that junk, I instantly just walk out and it shows me those aren’t the people I should be around with.
      We should be careful with our friends, and who we surround ourselve with. “Bad company corrupts good morals.” I admit I’m still in the process, but I know I’ll be keeping my distance
      with certain people who don’t bring my closer to Christ.

  24. Emi

    Posted by Emi on October 12, 2012 at 08:51

    A good friend keeps using God’s name in vain. You don’t want to hurt her feelings, so how do you respond?

    I had a friend who would always say this (we didn’t know each other that long) and I asked her politely to stop saying that around me because it’s offensive. She stopped, but months later, she started again. She told me it was because her family at home always swears God’s name in vain. I’m not sure how to deal with stuff like this anymore.

    Another question:

    If it’s someone I don’t know very good, like someone I just meant and they say God’s name in vain, should I say something?

  25. Project Inspired

    Posted by hayliebean on October 12, 2012 at 07:57

    For the second scenario, I think just asking politely not to use his name in vain. If they are a good friend they won’t be offended by it and wouldn’t want you to feel offended either right?

  26. Project Inspired

    Posted by Rose96 on October 12, 2012 at 07:39

    Well, it’s really difficult to answer. Sometimes I speak, but other times I just choose to be silent.
    My choice depends from the person who make the mistake. I feel, I really feel, when I have to speak. Sometimes it isn’t good to express my opinion or my faith, because there is some people who can’t understand.
    When God suggests me to speak, I do it.

    • princess97

      Posted by princess97 on October 17, 2012 at 14:49

      I agree…. I think that sometimes you shouldn’t say anything; it could just pusk them further away. If God tells me to say something then I do….