Hello! Okay so I recently stumbled upon an old forum about peoples first kiss stories and they were super cute but it also caused me to really thing and so if you would just read this and give me your feedback that’d be great.
|November 29, 2016 at 11:35|
“Saving your kiss for your wedding day” seems like absolute CRAP! I mean, so sorry, but I feel like that’s one of my huge problems with this site. It seems so judgey!!
|November 29, 2016 at 11:49|
Well I mean, nothing against not saving your kiss for you wedding day like its all about personal preference and what you want to do but at the same time i think its sweet.
|November 29, 2016 at 12:53|
I personally wouldn’t do that, but I have friends who are planning on saving their first kiss for their wedding day too and I think its really sweet too, definitely nothing wrong with that.
Don’t feel bad. I’m not sure how to say this without sounding critical, but I think sometimes we obsess too much over “purity”. I do not think you dishonored your future spouse by kissing in 7th grade. Honoring your spouse has more to do with actions that occur when you’re inside the relationship 🙂
|November 29, 2016 at 13:06|
@adventuregirl I absolutely agree. “Purity” can’t be measured by stuff like that.
|November 29, 2016 at 13:15|
Haha I’m not saying that its the definition of purity or anything. I mean, I’m just wondering if anyone has gone through this as well ig lol
|November 29, 2016 at 13:27|
Sorry if I’m being harsh (again!) This is just something I feel kinda strongly about and I don’t like how PI is spreading this save-your-first-kiss for marriage propaganda. It really annoys me. There is nothing harmful about not saving your first kiss for marriage (unless it causes you to fall into temptation.) But usually that’s not the case.
|November 29, 2016 at 14:12|
Well I do think kissing/etc. is a part of purity, I just think Christians can become legalistic about it. At one youth group I attended (it was a very large, popular church) you weren’t even allowed to hug guys you were friends with. At the time I totally bought into it, but now I’m just like…wow. O_O
|November 29, 2016 at 14:39|
I agree so much. As long as stuff like that doesn’t cause temptation, it’s fine. It’s so easy to be legalistic about it, I agree, and even this site can be. In fact, I saw one article where it defined non virgins as “used goods”. Like, your worth is not in your “purity!” it’s in Christ!
|November 29, 2016 at 14:56|
“Your worth is not in your “purity!” it’s in Christ!” Amen.
I think when people depict women as used goods (or chewed gum–yes, I’ve seen that too :/) they’re saying a woman’s only purpose is sex. Entirely unbiblical.
And as far as that youth group goes– people were created for social interaction, which includes friendship with guys. Aaaaand some peoples’ primary love language is physical touch (in a non-sexual way), so telling people their basically sinning by hugging or whatever is way weird and harmful. (I get that not every church is like the one I attended, but I’ve known tons of people who believe the same way as that youth group I went to).
Sorry kind of venting, but this sort of purity culture annoys me so much.
(To be clear–what I’m annoyed with isnot what McDawn was asking about, like I said, that’s personal preference, definitely nothing wrong with that 🙂 )
|November 29, 2016 at 17:15|
Absolutely agreed. Of course “saving your first kiss for marriage” isn’t that kind of legalism, but to me, it kind of endorses the kind of legalism that Adventuregirl is talking about. IMHO 😉
|November 30, 2016 at 06:28|
You guys are the best @theteenfashionista you dont have to be sorry. honestly i love how yall took my topic and made it something different 🙂 i love your point of views, thank you for sharing your thoughts bc that is what i asked for lol
|November 30, 2016 at 07:04|
@macdawn Awww thank you. It’s so awesome to have someone that won’t act judgey about another person’s POV, especially if they’re constantly trolling your threads xD.
|November 30, 2016 at 11:16|
Hahaha I love it :)))
|November 30, 2016 at 11:45|
There are also some things that I whish I had saved for later and there are things I never ever want to do again outside of a loving and respectful relationship. I regret what I’ve done – but I can’t change the past! I can only do better in the future, and that’s what we should be focussed on in my opinion. And He can make us pure again 🙂 I highly doubt that God will refer to a girl as a “used good” when she asked him for forgiveness and tries to do better under his leadership (that upsets me too, AdventureGirl).
And well, I have kissed 3 boys thus far, but my first kiss with my now-boyfriend was still very special and different from the other ones. So it’s not like you’ll never experience a special kiss again because you’ve kissed before 🙂
My boundaries are a little different from yours, but I hope this’ll still be helpful 🙂
|November 30, 2016 at 13:16|
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