A teenager in a town close to me recently committed suicide due to bullying. The descriptions of the abuse were sickening, just so emotionally and mentally hurtful. Stuff that may seem lighthearted or funny to the person doing it–or even the people around, but so totally not.
Words can hurt, so much. It hurts to be excluded, it hurts to be lonely and it hurts to feel unloved or unwanted. Growing up I felt very lonely, shy, and unable to connect with others, even though the people I surrounded myself were kind and friendly. I can’t imagine how horrible it would be to have people who you thought were your friends intentionally hurt or exclude you.
The article made me think about how much I want to go out of my way to make sure people feel loved and included from now on. I want to make sure people know that they are appreciated; and I want them to know if someone is hurtful to them it’s not their fault, it’s the bully’s.
Ladies, I encourage you to do the same. Wherever you go, take the time to talk to the people in the room, ask how they are, share a funny story, whatever.
But I think it’s a good habit to get into.
1.) You get into the habit of being comfortable talking to people you don’t know
2) You encourage the other person and make them feel like they matter
3). Who knows? You could save someone’s life.
|January 7, 2016 at 23:11|
Mm, preach it, sister. I’ve been the person who consistently said hurtful things to someone, I’ve been the person who consistently had hurtful things said to them, and I’ve been the friend of the person who consistently had hurtful things said to them. Not one of those positions are beneficial or fun to be in.
Also, it’s never, ever too late to apologize to someone. One person in particular that I still regret my actions towards was a guy on my swim team. I used to make fun of his lisp, and it’s not as if I meant to hurt his feelings or make him feel bad about it, but looking back at my young(er) stupidity, I realize that it was probably really hurtful for him to constantly hear me making fun of how he talked. So a couple months ago, after one of my teachers at school talked about this topic (and the importance of apologies), I messaged this guy on Facebook and told him I wanted to apologize for making fun of how he talked (about 3 years ago). So, if you have any memory of saying something even remotely hurtful to someone, then it’s still good to apologize, because when you get made fun of, it sticks with you, so I promise you that they remember what you said to them.
|January 8, 2016 at 12:25|
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