Hello, hello, hello! This is IP, I haven’t been here in awhile, but I’ve recently gotten in quite the predicament, and I was hoping to get some advice, and if you don’t have any, maybe some prayer?
K, so loooooong story short: I like this guy. (yeah, I know, shocker :P) We’re friends, it’s cool, no dating desired here, he’s not allowed anyways so it’s chill. Small problem- he likes my bestie (I think… Man, it’s confusing). (she doesn’t know I like him) Bigger problem-she likes him. It’s made my life a little difficult to say the least, but it gets even more complicated! Yippee… Yeah, so he knows I like him. We’ve discussed it(can you say AWKWARD) and we’re still friends, it’s cool, we’re cool, but it gets worse- he’s also got around four other girls who like him, and wouldn’t you have it, we’re all friends! The poor guy isn’t even a player-he’s just incredibly nice and caring, and I think he accidentally ends up leading people on because he’s extremely charismatic. But anyways, we’re kinda all at a stalemate here, because no one wants to tip the first domino and get things started. I don’t want anyone to get hurt, and I know he doesn’t either. I’m not exactly sure what I’m asking for advice for, maybe should tell my bestie? How should we move on from here? How to stop liking someone? Whatever kind of advice or prayer would be greatly appreciated, as this has been a very stressful time for me, him, and everyone involved. (as you can tell, I’ve been extremely vague just in case someone I know happens to run over it. This situation is one I’ve tried to keep tomyself for awhile, and I’d prefer it’d stay that way lol)
So my PL sisters, got any idea what I should do?
|February 9, 2016 at 21:21|
I’d say distance from him is key. That’s what I do whenever I’m crushing on a guy. 😉
|February 9, 2016 at 21:40|
|February 9, 2016 at 21:55|
INSANITY PRINCESS! I was wondering when you’d be back *excitedly hugs, then knocks over insanity princess and breaks a vase*
As far as your question, I honestly don’t know. The truth is, someone is going to be hurt when one of you makes a move. I will pray for you guys! And let me think about it some more, boy advice isnt really up my alley.
|February 9, 2016 at 22:37|
|February 10, 2016 at 07:13|
Gahhh. That’s super frustrating and I’m sorry. Yeah, emotions. I work on not hating mine on a daily basis! lol. Well, there is such a thing as a high school heart breaker and it seems as if your school/church has one! lol Best advice I can give you in this circumstance is just wait it out. It’ll eventually go away. And remember having a crush on someone isn’t bad in anyway. I know sometimes people can make you feel stupid or immature for having them, but it’s out of your control. 😉
|February 10, 2016 at 20:28|
This sounds a lot like a situation I had with one of my close guy friends. He’s super nice and charming and all the girls fall for him without him even trying. I really doubt there’s that many girls he knows well who haven’t had a crush on him at some point in time. He’s just that kind of guy.
It’s an awkward situation, but I’d say it’s best probably not to do anything that would rock the boat. Don’t really do anything. It helped me to recognize that nothing would likely come of this crush and he’s a great friend and that’s the most important to me. I really liked him for a long time, but kept it in the back of my mind and did my best not to let that interfere with our friendship. It sounds like you’re handling things well, just being chill about it. Hopefully it becomes less stressful as time goes on. <3
|February 10, 2016 at 20:40|
Thank you! It gets tough to keep myself out of it sometimes, but I’m working on that! I’ve always told myself and those who I’ve told about the whole crush deal that, even though my feeling have a mind of their own, I’m responsible with how I handle them. Friendship is the priority-a relationship isn’t. Anyways, if I had started out with a “I LIKE YOU, YOU SHOULD LIKE ME, WE’RE ONE HAPPY FAMILY” approach, I’m pretty sure he would’ve run for the hills (I would’ve) and we wouldn’t have been able to have the friendship that we have today. I’m just hoping that the wonderfully horrid holiday of Valentine’s Day (which, naturally, decided to land on a Sunday of all days) doesn’t cause any problems! Thank you so much! I hope so!
|February 10, 2016 at 22:03|
Hi IP. I have had a very similar problem myself. A very likeable guy at my school has several girls crushing on him, just because he’s so friendly. I liked him too, but I was lucky because he liked me back! My first piece of advice is to make sure your common crush doesn’t get between you and your girlfriends. We all know how competitive girls can get… Secondly, if God wants you to be with that guy, he’ll make a way. I know this sounds cliché, but it’s true. Keep praying about it, and in the mean time, maintain good relationships with him and your other friends. Hope that helps.
|March 31, 2016 at 10:24|
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