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AHH Facebook Jealousy

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AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

There’s this girl on Facebook feed. She’s lovely, beautiful, kind, happy and loves the Lord and every time she posts on Facebook I get really jealous.
I know logically Facebook jealousy doesn’t make much sense, since ultimately we’re comparing the low-lights of our life with someone’s highlights.
But I can’t help it :P. I get really self-conscious and think of all the things I haven’t done that I want to do, and all the things I struggle with in my life.
It’s really annoying because sometimes I’m not a bit jealous, and so I’ll think I’m through with jealousy, and then it’ll hit me again.

I suppose it’s probably just because I’m trying to get a bunch of things sorted out in my life. But I really hate being jealous of other people.
I could just delete my facebook but I don’t want to because I’m friends with a lot of people from where I used to live and FB is the best way to keep in touch with them.

June 8, 2015 at 09:29
Mandi Pi

Mandi Pi

I recommend just unfollowing her. 🙂 You can unfollow people on FB and still be their friend. If you go to her FB page, on the bottom right of her cover photo it’ll have a box that says “following” with a checkmark, and if you click it, it’ll switch to not following and her posts should no longer show up on your newsfeed.

I had the exact same problem with Instagram. I could have just unfollowed the people who were posting things that made me jealous/upset, but that would have been most of the people I was following. ;P So I just deleted it. It fixed the problem of me checking IG every 5 minutes as well, so it was a win-win. 😉

And hey, if we were FB friends, I’d be jealous of you….okay, maybe that didn’t come out right. 😉 But you are beautiful too, and I really do admire you. You’re always quick to encourage the girls on here, and you’re always respectful and as loving as possible. You have struggles, but girly, we all do, and the fact that you use yours to encourage others is a testimony to the woman of God you are. I mean, come on, your profile picture is *the* verse about love; no one would do that unless they’re a kind, lovely, selfless person. So don’t beat yourself up because you don’t see yourself as wonderfully as you see this girl–because other people do see you that wonderfully. 🙂

Also, something I try to do when I’m envious of someone like you described, is focus on the fact that she’s someone else who loves God and brings even more beauty and kindness to the world. When I focus on that, I find it easier to be happy for that person and harder to be envious of what they’re like. Because ~ https://pbs.twimg.com/media/BtqWwlvCYAAiWKw.jpg:large 🙂

June 8, 2015 at 13:04
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

Thank you so much for your kind words Mandi <3 You're so encouraging and your post helped me tremendously! Unfollowing her is a good idea, I totally forgot you could do that 🙂

And what you said in your last paragraph is definitely true. Being thankful and inspired by someone is much better than comparing yourself to them and being jealous.

Thanks again girl 🙂

June 8, 2015 at 13:16
Broken Vessel

Broken Vessel

Just remember that everyone has their highs and lows 🙂

She’s just probably not posting about her lows because that’s something that’s looked down on by society. We’re told admitting we had a bad day is sharing too much, complaining about our first world problems, or just plain attention seeking. So we instead focus on taking the prettiest pictures, having the best themes and showing everyone how much *fUN** we’re having.

Anyways, I not really good with words, but I hope you got what I was trying to say <3

June 8, 2015 at 15:39
Marcy

Marcy

The advice I gave my mom when she was dealing with the same kind of problem was to think about the good things in your life that the other person doesn’t have. You’re looking at all of her blessings, and that’s why you’re feeling jealous, but you have blessings that she doesn’t, too. If you wish you lived her life, you wouldn’t just get the cool things she has. You would get her trials as well and you would lose all the good things that are just in your life. No one’s life is perfect. 🙂

June 8, 2015 at 15:53
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