Alright, so I just started a new semester at school and I have never felt so alone. I don’t have friends in a lot of my classes, and my two closest friends say that’s ok and that they don’t try to make new friends 🙁 I know they love me, but the way they said it sounded mean. They’re really popular and a lot of times I have trouble trying to plan things with them. Even with my other friends. I don’t know if anyone understands how completely alone I feel. I had a read a book earlier this year where the girl said “Everyone who knows her hates her.” I always wonder if that’s true. And I felt so bad over Christmas break, I almost wished I was dead. But I couldn’t actually do anything; too many people might be shocked or mad. My neighbor who drove me to school, and possibly my classmates. Or wouldn’t they? For sure the kids in Best Buddies. Can any of you girls help or give advice? And when I want to be friends with someone, I can never tell if they want to get to know me back. I sent a friend request to one kid, and he changed his profile picture and cover photo but didn’t accept? Am I not acceptable to many people? Is it really all based on if you’re popular or not?
|February 5, 2015 at 14:32|
I do have a good friend in my gym class, but she has another friend in it, and talk to her more than me and at times ignores me. Same with a friend at lunch. They get crazy with their friends and forget about me. I want to ask some kids from best buddies to hang out, but they’re guys so Idk… I don’t know where all the girls are anymore. It’s like more guys are being nicer to me. I’ve been praying about this everyday this week, but I don’t see anything getting better, and there’s so much to pray for I don’t know if there would ever be enough time
|February 5, 2015 at 14:42|
Sadly, it is about popularity to a lot of people. Maybe you are just around the wrong people. One way that I’ve made a lot of friends in school is by just letting it happen. You don’t really always have to try to make friends in order to make friends. Just pair up with someone while doing classwork. Make small talk. It’s the little things that lead to a big friendship in high school, not always a formal introduction and actively trying to seek out friendships. At least that’s how it has worked out for me. Give it more time and be friendly and outgoing and unafraid to be open with people 🙂
|February 5, 2015 at 16:31|
Thank you chloe523 🙂 I didn’t even know you didn’t have to always actively seek out friendships! I will definitely just wait!
|February 10, 2015 at 18:47|
I’ve read a lot of your posts/topics and you seem like a really great person! I highly doubt anyone hates you, and if they did, it would be their problem, because there’s nothing wrong with you.
Did you know the kid you sent the friend request to? I don’t accept friend requests unless I’ve talked to that person a few times. It’s my fb “policy” 🙂 If he didn’t accept it, maybe he’s just waiting to get to know you better.
Chloe gave you really good advice~many times friendships just happen. Talk to people, enjoy being around them, but don’t put pressure on them or yourself to suddenly be BFFs. <That will take time. Most of all, don't think about yourself too much. Be you, and you will attract the right friends 🙂
|February 11, 2015 at 17:59|
Sweet girl, I’ve read many of your posts, and you certainly seem to go through a lot, especially when it comes to friends. The number one thing I can tell you? Stop. Stop concentrating on searching for good friends, stop worrying about what other people think of you. All you need is God. If HE is your best friend, the one you go to in every situation, no matter what, THEN you will come to find other people who share your faith, and will love you unconditionally. I’m not saying don’t be friendly to people, or don’t try to make friends, but don’t make that your focus. As long as other people are your focus, you’ll always be disappointed, because people are not perfect. You’re not perfect. You disappoint your friends just like they disappoint you, and the ONLY way to break this neverending cycle is to focus on God. He will bring people along that focus on Him as well, and they will be the dearest friends you will have. It’s like a triangle. You’re at one corner, and your friend at the other. Separated by a line. BUT if you focus your attention upwards, and move towards God, you’ll also find yourself moving closer to one another.
|February 12, 2015 at 08:11|
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