You see in life girls want to date and well that makes me sad that I seem to myself to picky, because I haven’t dated really or even have just any guy friends mostly because I feel unsure of myself. But to me in some way it is good to wait but I don’t know I feel so left out in my grade especially my last year of school everyone is dating so why not me, why can’t I just give someone a chance. I really am serious about dating and I just can’t be that girl that breaks heart and have a guy every other week.
|March 15, 2015 at 07:49|
Here’s a question for you. Why do you want to date?
It’s important to find out the purpose of pursuing a relationship with a young man. If there’s no clearly defined purpose or goal, a romantic relationship floats around in limbo. If I were you, I wouldn’t base my desire to date on the fact that the girls around you are dating. “Everyone else is doing it” is usually NOT a good reason to do something, especially if you are a Christian. We are called to be different and to live our lives in a way that honors God, even if the other girls in your grade think you’re weird for not having a boyfriend.
The fact that you haven’t dated yet doesn’t mean that you’re “too picky.” Don’t rush things. Consider these single years as a special gift from God. You have the rest of your life to find out whom you are going to marry! Right now, run after God with reckless abandon and enjoy the freedom you have as a single. Invest in the lives of the young men and women at your church. Find ways to serve and give sacrificially of your time to the people who need it. Don’t worry so much about whether or not you should be dating. Let God work it out.
It’s my opinion that dating should be done with the intent of marriage. The goal in dating is not to do it for its own sake, or to do it because it’s fun, but to date (or court) for the express purpose of finding whom you will marry. Tangling your heart with another’s is a serious business. Don’t do it lightly. I’d recommend talking to your parents about your feelings – they can help.
|March 15, 2015 at 12:29|
Honestly, I’d say being picky might be lonely now, but will be better in the long run. It means you’re more aware of who will make you ultimately happy, what kind of relationship would mean the most to you. You might have fewer dates, but the dates you do engage in will likely be more meaningful, rather than frought with a lot of boring dates and unproductive relationships. Don’t date just to date–date because you want to be with someone in particular.
|March 16, 2015 at 04:50|
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