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Am I taking being a "tomboy" far too extremely?

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Aryandil

Aryandil

Here’s the thing. I’m a tomboy, as you can tell by the title. But I hate dresses (though sometimes I’ll wear a long skirt), really don’t like romance novels, make-up, perfume, nail polish (okay, clear and blue are actually okay with me but I don’t wear nail polish), and most of all, I detest the color pink.
My mom will keep buying pink clothing for me because she says it looks good on me. But my favorite colors are blue, purple, and green, and I would much rather wear those. Also, I’m a blue jeans kind of person and don’t really like any other pants. My mom gets upset whenever I try to explain this to her and she (and my dad) says there’s nothing wrong with pink. They can’t seem to understand that I’m just not girlish. This isn’t to say that I’m completely tomboyish though. I’ve had at least two crushes (very fleeting ones), I’m okay with watching kissing during movies (as long as it isn’t too passionate), and I fangirl a lot. But I never, ever gush over how “hot” a guy looks, or about my appearance or popularity. Most of the time I’ll wear a sweatshirt and jeans; if it’s the summer, it’ll look a little bit more fashionable but nothing that really stands out.
I just really don’t like girlish things. It’s my nature; in fact, I’ve been like that ever since I was 9. It’s just that whenever my mom and I go to a clothing store, we clash over what to buy. I have this opinion, and she has a completely different one. She always gets frustrated whenever I don’t want something pink, saying that it doesn’t matter. I just don’t like the color, especially the hot pink shade, because I don’t look good in it in my opinion. Even my best friend told me I was better off in blue than pink. I just don’t know. I feel like I’m being pressured to change my personality, but am I being too extreme about being a tomboy?

January 26, 2015 at 20:04
CrayKay

CrayKay

No not at all, in fact I used to be the same til I was about 15 I slowly started to change and I didn’t even experience in makeup til I was late 16 almost 17. That’s simply you and there is nothing wrong with that. I do not think you are being too extreme, I think you are just being yourself and there is nothing wrong with that. Have you tried discussing with your mother on how you feel?? 🙂

January 27, 2015 at 08:26
Aryandil

Aryandil

I have, but almost every time we talk, it turns into an argument. It may be partly my fault – I lose patience with her very quickly – but she’s just as stubborn as me, maybe even more so, so she almost never changes.

January 27, 2015 at 12:55
Musician4Life

Musician4Life

Not at all! You are your own person, there’s no reason you shouldn’t dress or look the way you want. I’m fairly girly, I love my makeup and nail polish and I don’t mind the occasional skirt – but it does take a bit to get me in a dress – but I understand how you feel! I’m not into dressing for trends, I dress mainly in black graphic tees and ripped jeans and for a long time my family hated it and I tried to dress the way they wanted. My mother has finally started, for the most part, understanding my style but my dad is a lot like your mom. He hates when i dress goth or punk rock… He wants me to wear fluffy skirts and pink dresses and it’s just not me. All I have to say is stay true to who you are, don’t let people tell you to change yourself because they don’t like your style! If you don’t want to wear pink or dresses, don’t do it! Always be true to who you are and what you want.

January 28, 2015 at 10:21
Aryandil

Aryandil

Thanks. I definitely want to stay true to myself; I just hope that my parents will eventually get it.

January 28, 2015 at 11:46
chloe523

chloe523

Honestly, I don’t think that really classifies as a tomboy anyways. I mean, basically what you are saying is that you hate pink (which is fine), and are natural when it comes to nails and makeup. Since when does a color have to be linked to a gender? It’s just a color. I dress like you and wear little to no makeup and bare nails also and I don’t describe myself as a tomboy (too bad I painted my room pink when I was in 4th grade and now I’m stuck with it -.-). But anyways, I wouldn’t worry about it. If you don’t like pink, you don’t have to wear pink. It’s pretty hypocritical if she tells you that it’s not a big deal, and then makes a big deal out of it. Just stay true to yourself 🙂

January 29, 2015 at 04:22
Aryandil

Aryandil

I do a lot of boyish things. Trust me, everyone who knows me classifies me as a tomboy.

January 29, 2015 at 12:54
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

Nothin’ wrong with being a tomboy. You’re being authentically yourself, y’know?

January 29, 2015 at 15:38
AudgPaudg

AudgPaudg

Personally, I think it is extremely immature for your mother to get all flustered about having your own color opinions. I’m sorry. I’m the same way, pink is just not my thing.
You in fact are not taking tomboy to the extreme, but just being yourself as a not so girly young lady. Nothing wrong with that. 🙂
If you like watching things blow up, and find that you’d rather hang out with dudes, and you don’t completely stress about what you’re going to wear the next day and if it matches your nails, we’re the same. *high five*

January 31, 2015 at 06:22
gwenloeb

gwenloeb

No! be yourself girl! people will like you for you! and god made you like this for a reason so flaunt your stuff!

January 31, 2015 at 19:18
Aryandil

Aryandil

Thanks guys. I really appreciate it. Unfortunately, there’s no changing my mom. *sigh* I can’t really talk to her anymore without her exploding. Even my dad says it’s no big deal when it’s a big deal to me.

AudgPaug: *high fives back* Yes someone who’s like me!!!!!! XD

January 31, 2015 at 20:30
AudgPaudg

AudgPaudg

I understand how that feels, exploding because of a disagreement between you and your parent (s). I’m glad we could all be of encouragement. 🙂
(There’s always boycotting the color pink, if you have enough other colored clothes for a week or so.)

February 1, 2015 at 08:58
Aryandil

Aryandil

That’s what I try to do, boycott pink as much as I can. Unfortunately, that also drives my mom crazy. *sigh* Pretty much anything can drive my mom crazy these days.

February 1, 2015 at 19:17
chloe523

chloe523

Tell your mom that if it’s “no big deal” to wear the color pink, then it should be “no big deal” to not wear it. I mean there’s really no big deal about wearing it or not wearing it, it’s just a color. But if you don’t want to wear it then it’s stupid to try to make you. As if not wearing pink means that you are any less of a girl than you are. People give color too much power lol.

February 2, 2015 at 11:49
AudgPaudg

AudgPaudg

I just find it kind of odd how (more than) uptight your mother can be about wearing the color pink. If it makes you feel any better, you should be free to express yourself with fashion however you’d like (modestly, of course). Otherwise, your parents are just upset about “spending money” on articles of clothing that you don’t wear, in which you told them specifically not to purchase it. 😐

February 2, 2015 at 12:28
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