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courage

courage

Hi there,

Now, I’ve never really struggled with comparing myself with other girls (appearance wise) but academically I’m really bad at it. If I don’t get the percentage I want on a test then I can get very upset and down. I often compare my scores with other girls in my class. It’s like I experience the same symptoms that girls who lack body confidence experience, just in a different area. Does anyone else feel like this, if so, what do you do to stop?

February 16, 2016 at 03:01
chloe523

chloe523

I understand completely. Comparing yourself to others academically is definitely a struggle for me too, along with comparing myself to others in music and athletics.

There are two things you can do to change this situation… You can try to change your scores, or change your mindset. There’s always going to be someone out there that is better than you at something. Knowing that often gives me the motivation to step it up and work harder to get towards that level I’m not currently at. If you have a competitive nature, you can actually use that to your advantage and raise your scores. This is the hard way.

The easy way (well, easier), is to change your mindset. Remember that as long as you are doing your absolute best, you have nothing to worry about. Comparing yourself to others (in any situation, really) is a great way to bring down your self esteem. I want you to be able to see yourself the way that God sees you, not in some distorted way just because of a bad test score. Refuse to let OTHER people’s scores determine YOUR intelligence, and refuse to let your scores deterring your worth. Life will be so much easier when you realize that it’s okay if you are not the brightest or the best, as long as you are giving it your all.

February 29, 2016 at 00:41
sarakodom

sarakodom

I have been through this myself a little bit. It’s easy to view yourself as “not as smart” as another girl, but that is no good for your self confidence. Instead of comparing your test grades with another girl, compare it to your last test. Then, you can see if you’re improving! You’ll feel accomplished when you realize you are doing better than you realized. Also, if you do happen to start comparing your grades with others again, remember that it doesn’t mean they are smarter if their grade is higher. The devil wants you to think you are not good enough, but trust me, you are ENOUGH! You are precious no matter what your test score is! Anything is possible with God so never become discouraged. Philippians 4:13 You are loved!

March 10, 2016 at 12:02
MerMaid24

MerMaid24

Hi Courage,
Here are some things that might be useful.
(1) Resist the urge to look at other’s scores, if that is hard to not do, try praying to God or distracting yourself with other things
(2) James 3:2 (NIV)
We all stumble in many ways. Anyone who is never at fault in what they say is perfect, able to keep their whole body in check.
(It’s not 100% on point, but the idea is: No one is perfect, we all stumble)
(3) If this is a different form of insecurity than this is called for
because even if it is a different form it’s still insecurity and it’s always nice to hear:
Song of Solomon 7:6 (NIV)
How beautiful you are and how pleasing, my love, with your delights!
You’re beautiful and you are smart and you are loved by God no matter what test grades you get!

If you are experiencing jealousy, remember:
Proverbs 14:30 (NIV)
A heart at peace gives life to the body, but envy rots the bones.
AND:
1 Corinthians 13:4 (NIV)
Love is patient, love is kind. It does not envy, it does not boast, it is not proud.

Have faith in yourself and know your loved, important, beautiful and smart:
Philippians 4:13 (NIV)
I can do all this through him who gives me strength.

Hope this helped! Good Luck!!
Your Friend,
MerMaid

March 22, 2016 at 10:00
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