Hello friends. So, here’s what’s up.
A little while ago, I made a post called Anxious About The Confrontation. I wrote a three-page essay for my parents (single-spaced!) about how I am not a little girl anymore and should be able to make my own swimwear decisions. So, my mom accidently found the uncompleted letter and said I’m an adult and can wear whatever I want! I still can’t believe it!
Something she said got me thinking though. “It may cause males to stumble.” Obviously, I would be wearing a modest bikini and a skirt that goes almost down to my knees, so basically all that would be showing is my stomach. I almost feel the Lord is telling me to stick with a one-piece, though. It is modest and won’t make males look at me with lust, although my youth pastor did compare a one-piece to “swimsuit skin” and say it does not make much of a difference.
I know this is a touchy subject that has been brought up many times before, but I am wondering if I should try wearing a bikini this summer or stick to my conservative one-piece. What do you think?
|June 6, 2016 at 22:37|
|June 7, 2016 at 08:45|
I’d say add a bikini if you want. The whole “you will make boys stumble” is a load of crap. Boys have the ability to control themselves.
|June 7, 2016 at 21:05|
I don’t have a problem with bikinis as long as they are worn at the right age and don’t show off too much. Example: on my spring break vacation last year, I saw an 8 year old wearing a bikini. That’s not ok. Also, high-waisted bottoms are coming back into style for bikinis and I love that look. So if you’re comfortable, go for it.
|October 8, 2016 at 18:11|
I totally get what you’re saying–no one wants to be looked at like an object, and of course we don’t want our guys friends to be lustful.
Unfortunately, foregoing a bikini for a one piece won’t necessarily keep boys from looking at you lustfully, because it’s a personal problem for the boy–one you’re not responsible for. If you look at someone who is wearing a swimsuit with lust, you are just as likely to be lustful when you see an attractive woman wearing a modest, tailored outfit.
Think about what Jesus said. Speaking to men, he said
“You have heard that it was said, `You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and throw it away; ” (Matthew 5:27-29)
He didn’t say:
“If you look at a woman lustfully, tell her to quit wearing a bikini”
It seems to me like Jesus thinks lust is a problem of the individual who lusts, not the person who he/she lusts after. I’d go with what Jesus thinks. 😛
|October 8, 2016 at 21:51|
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