Hello friends. So, here’s what’s up.
A little while ago, I made a post called Anxious About The Confrontation. I wrote a three-page essay for my parents (single-spaced!) about how I am not a little girl anymore and should be able to make my own swimwear decisions. So, my mom accidently found the uncompleted letter and said I’m an adult and can wear whatever I want! I still can’t believe it!
Something she said got me thinking though. “It may cause males to stumble.” Obviously, I would be wearing a modest bikini and a skirt that goes almost down to my knees, so basically all that would be showing is my stomach. I almost feel the Lord is telling me to stick with a one-piece, though. It is modest and won’t make males look at me with lust, although my youth pastor did compare a one-piece to “swimsuit skin” and say it does not make much of a difference.
I know this is a touchy subject that has been brought up many times before, but I am wondering if I should try wearing a bikini this summer or stick to my conservative one-piece. What do you think?
|June 6, 2016 at 22:37|
|June 7, 2016 at 08:45|
I’d say add a bikini if you want. The whole “you will make boys stumble” is a load of crap. Boys have the ability to control themselves.
|June 7, 2016 at 21:05|
I don’t have a problem with bikinis as long as they are worn at the right age and don’t show off too much. Example: on my spring break vacation last year, I saw an 8 year old wearing a bikini. That’s not ok. Also, high-waisted bottoms are coming back into style for bikinis and I love that look. So if you’re comfortable, go for it.
|October 8, 2016 at 18:11|
I totally get what you’re saying–no one wants to be looked at like an object, and of course we don’t want our guys friends to be lustful.
Unfortunately, foregoing a bikini for a one piece won’t necessarily keep boys from looking at you lustfully, because it’s a personal problem for the boy–one you’re not responsible for. If you look at someone who is wearing a swimsuit with lust, you are just as likely to be lustful when you see an attractive woman wearing a modest, tailored outfit.
Think about what Jesus said. Speaking to men, he said
“You have heard that it was said, `You shall not commit adultery.’ 28 But I say to you that every one who looks at a woman lustfully has already committed adultery with her in his heart. 29 If your right eye causes you to sin, pluck it out and throw it away; ” (Matthew 5:27-29)
He didn’t say:
“If you look at a woman lustfully, tell her to quit wearing a bikini”
It seems to me like Jesus thinks lust is a problem of the individual who lusts, not the person who he/she lusts after. I’d go with what Jesus thinks. 😛
|October 8, 2016 at 21:51|
I agree with everyone here…try it and if you feel comfortable, and you don’t feel like all eyes are staring at you, go for it.
I understand that we don’t want our male friends to ‘stumble’, but can’t it go the other way too? I mean, if a very fit guy is hanging out at the beach shirtless women aren’t perfect little angels and don’t look/stare. I’m not saying that we should all run around in bikinis just because guys can go shirtless, because we were built differently. But guys aren’t the only ones who can look at someone with lust. We have to remember this and it bugs me when people get so nit picky about what girls should and shouldn’t wear when literally no one talks about what the guys wear. When we dress we should think, “Is this dishonorable to God?” not “Will guys look?” Because everyone has different opinions on what is modest and what is not. Some families see skinny jeans as immodest while others see it as fine. So trying to please everyone is just impossible. 🙂
|November 23, 2016 at 13:15|
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