So I am currently dating a guy a like a lot. He’s christian like me, funny, and in band with me. However, we hardly have time to talk outside of texting and when we do our conversations are forced a boring. In addition, I don’t think he’s the one God has planned for my life. He’s the most kind and generous boy and he fits all my “boyfriend criteria” but I can’t picture a life with him. I’m not sure what to do, if anything. It also makes it very difficult because his brother is dying with cancer. And while I don’t want to be that one person. Who dates out of pity, he really needs me so I feel terrible even considering breaking up with him. Advice?
|November 23, 2015 at 19:08|
I am going through a similar issue. I really liked this guy. He’s godly and super awesome and we have a lot in common but I didn’t know him super well until he took me to homecoming a couple of months ago and then we started talking more. I don’t really know how to communicate that as I’ve gotten to know him I don’t really see myself dating him and I don’t have the same feelings for him anymore. He’s a great guy but I’d really rather be friends with him. The best choice for both of us though, is to be honest with the guy. It will be more hurtful in the end if they find out that we have been dishonest with them and hiding how we really feel.
|December 2, 2015 at 14:01|
I think you should be honest if you don’t feel that way about him but continue to be there for him through every aspect of life if he belongs in your life at all he will understand. It’s always nice to have that person to talk to even if the connection isn’t in that type of boyfriend girlfriend relationship.
|December 2, 2015 at 16:46|
I think the best thing you can do is be honest so that you don’t keep leading him on. It will only get harder the longer you wait. Make it clear that you will still be there for him with his brother, if that’s something you feel is true. Remember that it is not your responsibility to make his life easier for the sake of your happiness. Its not your fault his brother has cancer, and he took a risk getting in a relationship at a time like this. It was a risk he was willing to take. Who knows? God could really use this in his life.
Three different times I begged the Lord to take it away. Each time he said, “My grace is all you need. My power works best in weakness.” So now I am glad to boast about my weaknesses, so that the power of Christ can work through me. That’s why I take pleasure in my weaknesses, and in the insults, hardships, persecutions, and troubles that I suffer for Christ. For when I am weak, then I am strong.
Read 2 Corinthians 12 with this in mind
Good luck! Remember God is on your side
|December 14, 2015 at 04:39|
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