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Quirky2512

I helped my boyfriend overcome a porn addiction that he had had since 6th grade (we are now juniors in high school…have been dating for 6 months, best friends for a year)..he recently told me he still struggles with masturbation. What should I do to help him? Is it really that bad? Doesn’t it help satisfy sexual desire? Thanks 🙂

May 25, 2015 at 20:20
f u

f u

i kinda feel like its a natural thing. I know many people on here are not going to agree with me but you’ve gotta fullfill your urges somehow and it might as well be in a way that cant hurt you or other people around you. Just my opinion.. I have masturbated, I know some of my friends do, this is just my opinion though.

May 25, 2015 at 22:03
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Quirky2512

Thank you…I understand many Christians think masturbation is against the Bible…I just want a strong reason why God doesn’t like masturbation because it seems like that is one way my boyfriend can fulfill his urges while abstaining for sex. He would never have sex before marriage, but struggles with urges and sexual desire. Thank you 🙂

May 25, 2015 at 22:23
f u

f u

No problem. I know a lot of my views on a lot of stuff aren’t like the “normal christian girl” but I really don’t think any where in the bible it says that you can’t masturbate… So, as long as you are comfortable with him doing this I think its alright. And even if you aren;t comfortable with it I hate to break it to you but he’ll probs still do it…

May 27, 2015 at 14:39
marysetrueblood

marysetrueblood

A lot of people object to masturbation because it’s somehow rejecting the reproductive aspect of sex, which is just silly to me, and brings to mind the Monty Python song “every sperm is sacred,” which is weird. I’d say this is to do with yours, and your boyfriend’s comfort, much like f u

May 29, 2015 at 08:44
aislinnc99

aislinnc99

Just be careful with where it might lead, “fulfilling” the urges can definitely, and very quickly, lead to new and more dangerous urges and desires. Trust me, I know. Also I can relate to your situation. My boyfriend had a porn addiction for 5 years before he told me about it, but telling me has drastically helped him break that addiction. You have no idea how glad I am to have come across someone else with that situation!

June 3, 2015 at 09:47
aislinnc99

aislinnc99

But to add… if he’s masturbating *other* people, not just you (honestly I’m not sure if I’m assuming anything here, I’m sorry if I am overstepping), I know I’d have a problem with that. Trust issue, betrayal, unfaithfulness, stuff like that.

June 3, 2015 at 09:49
f u

f u

I assumed that he was doing it alone. Obviously if it is with other people your relationship has a problem. And masturbation does not directly lead to porn. I was addicted to it about a year ago and then started masturbating. And every so often I look at porn to get in the mood to masturbate but me masturbating didn’t lead me to porn…
Obviously for other people it might be different… I know my friends think masturbating is normal and I even have a friend who thinks looking at porn is normal. It’s all up to the people, you and him, and what your beliefs are.

June 3, 2015 at 12:37
Jester

Jester

Fulfilling desires, as in giving into temptation? Masturbation is NOT a good thing. It’s also not healthy in Christian lifestyles. It is sexual impurity if you truly think about it. It’s like having sex with something in your mind. Because
while you do it you aren’t thinking about nothing, you’re thinking sinful thoughts that are displeasing to God. It’s also a form of cheating really. He can’t wait for the right time and place in which God set for sexual acts so he is doing it himself. Just as bad as watching porn, or sleeping with someone else. And I’m not being dramatic. Is he pleasing God while he’s doing it? Is he treating his body as a temple of God while partaking in this sexual sin? A lot
of people play this off as natural and a buck of other crap, but it’s not good y for him or for his relationship with God. It is a sin. Black and white.

October 30, 2016 at 22:05
Nino99

Nino99

^agreed

October 31, 2016 at 06:01
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sesenena

I think that masturbation is wrong because it is inherently selfish: sex is designed to be the pleasurable sign of love and commitment between a man and a woman, it is an act of love. Masturbation is twisting this and choosing just “me and my pleasure”. Also masturbation and pornography usually go hand in hand, when someone masturbates usually thinks about sex, naked women and such (and thus objectifies them, using this people as objects to satisfy lust).
A pornography and masturbation addiction is very hard to fight and what I just said doesn’t mean that your boyfriend his a monster, we live in a sex saturated society and being pure is very difficult, but it needs to be done because only by being pure we can truly love other people and not use them 🙂

November 23, 2016 at 13:23
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