Hi I am 14 and I have a boyfriend he says that he is a christian and also says that him and I were meant to be together and God said that.I just don’t know what to do because we are technically engaged and I kind of feel as though this relationship is dragging on me.But the thing is we’re not really engaged until my 18th birthday and I also promised him that I would stay commited to him and that we would work it out if anything happend but he also going to join the marienes when he is out of highschool I am not quite ready for it.Any advice would be helpful thank you.
|January 22, 2015 at 09:02|
I’ve actually been in a very similar relationship before. I don’t mean to sound harsh but while it’s good to have marriage in mind when you’re dating, it’s just not realistic to make that kind of a commitment at such a young age. A lot can change between now and when you can get married. You and your boyfriend will grow and mature and your dreams and goals and values may change. Also, making such a huge commitment so early can cause both of you to become more emotionally attached than is wise at this stage and will just set you up for heartbreak if things don’t work out the way you planned. My advice is to pray about it and If you feel that you are not ready for this kind of serious commitment then just sit down with your boyfriend and tell him how you feel. He may be a bit upset at first but just explain to him that it doesn’t change how you feel about him, you just aren’t ready to be “engaged” yet, and that you still have years to plan for that sort of thing. It’s totally understandable that it’s kinda dragging on you right now, I felt the same way!!! Just don’t make him think you’re on the same page as him if you’re not. That won’t end well. I hope this helped!
|January 22, 2015 at 16:41|
Thank you it really does.
|January 22, 2015 at 18:38|
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