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So I didn’t know where to put this so I’ll put it here. For startings let me say that I am not being threatened in anyway! Ok… So theres this boy who’s 14 and has had a crush on me for forever! He’s in our co-op and I see him at church. So basically he will stare at my boobs and butt then make comments like, “Nice *** ” or “Looking sexy”. I dont wear clothing that shows to much and when I know I will see him I always try to wear EXTRA modest clothing. I feel like nothing will stop him though! I’m not that big in the chest and my butt isn’t huge, nor do I wear things that make them look huge. Is he just acting like a normal boy does and taking it further? I just really wish he would stop! (Also I have told my best friend who’s a guy and he has talked to this kid but it didn’t work!) Any advise would be HUGELY welcome! Also if this has ever happened to you please share what you did to stop it! BTW I am going to be seeing him today at co-op so I will update this tonight or tomorrow… Thanks!
|November 6, 2015 at 04:37|
No, he is not being a normal boy. Or maybe he is, but that is no excuse. Tell him to stop. Next time he says something like that, look at him seriously and calmly and tell him (do not ask him, tell him) to quit making remarks about your body, and tell him to quit staring at you.
If this doesn’t work, tell an adult at your church. Keep at it until he stops, do not let up on him. Let him know his behavior is entirely inappropriate. This is very important, you should not have to put up with this. It is very unsettling when people make remarks like that about your body, and it is in NO way your fault, regardless of your body size or clothing.
Def update us and let us know what happens! 🙂
|November 6, 2015 at 08:21|
Well if I was your guy friend I would take hum out back, tell him to cut it or I would make him. Just saying.
|November 6, 2015 at 08:58|
Tell him to stop. If he doesn’t,report it. It’s sexual harassment.
|November 6, 2015 at 19:51|
Ok so yesterday it wasn’t as bad. I told my mom, right after posting this, that he was doing this (dang it was hard telling her), anyway she talked to his parents and he didn’t make any mean/rude comments other then to tell me I was ugly and fat. Also my best friend, Isaac, told him off when he said that to me and he got really embarrassed and didn’t say anything. So I am praying and hoping this whole thing is done with.
|November 7, 2015 at 06:20|
While some people would consider it normal, it’s inappropriate. There is nothing wrong with people acknowledging someone who is beautiful or hot. But objectifying them and talking about it is rude. Sounds like it’s been dealt with but if he starts again I’d give a couple looks of fire (it is possible. I’ve learned how stop pretty much anyone in their tracks with my eyes. Made a dude back up one time with my fire. True story) and if that doesn’t work, verbally tell him to cut it out. And if that doesn’t work get all the adults involved. parents and youth pastors. anyone who is supervising the event. And if he still insists one being a jerk, consider slapping him. Cuz he obviously doesn’t have any idea on how to treat a girl as an equal.
|November 7, 2015 at 08:24|
Also, this is in no way your fault. This kid just wasn’t taught how to treat the opposite sex like a person. And it’s not your responsibility to be super modest around him. Because it doesn’t matter. He’s still gonna be a jerk about it. 🙁
|November 7, 2015 at 08:25|
Glad to hear things are getting better! I’m glad you have friends who will stick up for you; the guy sounds like a complete jerk.
Thanks for updating us, I’ll keep praying for you! <3
|November 7, 2015 at 11:25|
He really is, he can be nice, sometimes but most of the time he is a jerk. And I just found out today that my BFF has a HUGE crush on him… I’m praying she will see what/who he really is and not start to date him of anything.
|November 7, 2015 at 14:40|
I have been in public school for many years and boys would be this way sometimes even though I dressed modestly. I would never let them disrespect me like that. Right away, I would firmly tell them to quit it. If it did not work the first time, I would once tell them to knock it off or else I would tell on them for sexual assault.
|November 8, 2015 at 22:08|
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