I’ve been dating the same guy for two years. I really thought I would marry him, and I insisted on no sex before marriage. We’d been fighting a lot, and be called me rude and selfish. I couldn’t take the emotional abuse anymore, so I broke up with him. How do I get over him hurting me so badly? He also put down my Christian faith and my job at my church’s preschool.
|January 11, 2015 at 08:39|
Why were you dating someone whom I’m assuming was not a Christian?
The Bible talks about this issue. 2 Corinthians 6:14 says, “Do not be yoked together with unbelievers. For what do righteousness and wickedness have in common? Or what fellowship can light have with darkness?” I feel the need to quote that verse before going on to offer a solution to the problems you’re facing now. I advise you to be careful when deciding to start up a relationship with a young man. If he isn’t a Christian, he is out of the question. Period.
It was wrong of him to abuse you emotionally. But the relationship itself was wrong from the very beginning, especially if you were hoping to marry this young man. I think it’s important to acknowledge that. It is not wise to enter into a relationship with an unbeliever.
As for how to get over the hurt you’re feeling, I’d suggest that you go to your parents — or, if not your parents, find a trusted mentor or friend in your church — and explain the situation to them. Pray together about what happened and ask God to give you wisdom in the coming months. Focus on investing in the friendships you have, and actively seek out ways to encourage others. Find more ways to plug in and serve the church.
|January 11, 2015 at 11:18|
I think maybe Winged Eloquence might have worded that a bit harsh but she does make a good point.
Don’t see this experience as a waste of two years, but take note of things that you might alter for the future. If it was that miserable to date someone who was not accepting of your faith, then maybe you should consider dating Christians in the future so that you will be with someone who will truly support you. No one deserves to be put down for the most important aspect of their life. you truly deserve better. Notice the qualities that were absent in this guy that you would like in a significant other and look for the qualities in future potentials.
And as for getting past the pain of the situation….i was in a similar situation as well. What worked for me was connecting with some people. I talked to old friends that i hadnt spoken to and reconnected with them and i finally attended the young adult group at my church and then i was truly in a better place. i think you could do similar things. dont let this guy have power over you. 🙂
|January 11, 2015 at 15:03|
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