So a few weeks ago, I met a guy at a training for the summer camp I am working at this summer. He is a Christian and we started texting all of the time. He seemed like a perfect guy and I started to develop feelings. Here is where I went wrong… really the only way I knew him was text. Friday night, he came to my small group. Everyone who I respect and whose opinion I listen to when it comes to guys was there. He did fine with the study but he wasn’t spectacular. I wasn’t impressed with anything he said or did. He didn’t wow me. I know it was intimidating for him to be around my family and friends but I wanted to be impressed with what he had to contributed but I wasn’t. So now I have pulled back a lot. He thinks he has done something to annoy me but he hasn’t, I’ve just had this and several other things on my mind. I am not sure when I need to tell him I am not interested in him as more than a friend. I might give him a week at camp to see if anything changes but I don’t think anything will.
|May 25, 2015 at 17:00|
I don’t think you can judge him based on his performance in small group. I get really intimated in large groups, but when I have one on one conversation with people, I have much more to contribute. I think you need to tell him that you really like him as a friend, but aren’t interested in a relationship right now. That can always change later on if you get to know him on a more personal level.
I am 17, almost 18, and I became best friends with my current boyfriend before becoming his girlfriend. We texted constantly, then started hanging out a lot, then we finally started a relationship after many months of being best friends.
Give him a chance to be your best friend, let him know you don’t think you are ready for a relationship right now, and pray to God that He will bring you too together on a deeper level if you are meant to date
good luck 🙂
|May 25, 2015 at 20:21|
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