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Nate

Nate

Ok, so here is the first creepy scenario that happened to me, and just FYI I look my age (16 yrs):
1) Creepy 30 year old guy hit on me when I was just 15! For about 3 minutes he just complemented me non stop… this happened at my YOUTH GROUP!! Also, at church he would always come up and complement me. O.o
2) I am 16 now, and I was looking at the cosmetic section of a quiet little store. Two guys, who appeared to be in their early 40’s, walked by me. One of them kind of chuckled as he walked past. Then he said to his friend, when he was just a few feet away from me: “Ohhh yeah! That’s the real thing!” His friend inquired: “What?” And he said: “That girl back there!”
He just laughed.
3: I was walking through walmart by myself, when an older man, who looked like he needed to shower and shave, was walking to the checkout lane. He suddenly stopped when he saw me and said: “Hello!” I said hi back but continued walking. He started following me! I started to get a little nervous. Then he said: “That is a pretty blouse.” I said thanks, but didn’t turn to look at him. I heard him follow me for a few more steps, and then he stopped, because I hadn’t stopped like he was expecting, and turned around. I assume he went back to his checking lane.

So that’s all about the old guys. I have actually never been hit-on like that by any younger guys, at least not while walking out in public! I feel ultra grossed out when this happens! Maybe if I were older it would be more okay, but I definitely only look 16. Anyways, the latter one happened to me only a few days ago. I didn’t tell my mom because she FREAKS out about these sorts of things. But I wanted to kind of warn you girls, and also just wanted to tell someone. I don’t know why, but when something weird or exciting happens (this categorizes as weird lol) I feel like I HAVE to tell someone, but my family isn’t always the best choice. lol My mom probably wouldn’t let me walk through walmart by myself if I told her.
I also wanted to hear your stories. It doesn’t have to be exclusively old guys, either.
Which one sounds the creepiest, and what do you think that you would have done in that same situation?

April 5, 2015 at 18:32
Clairabear

Clairabear

Well, that’s never happened to me before with older guys, but I did make a forum earlier last summer about a certain incident with a guy at this huge meeting thing for my church. To save you from a long story, he was just creepy. *Shudders* I’m sorry those things keep happening to you, that really sucks :-/

April 5, 2015 at 20:02
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

The third one is definitely the creepiest. Being followed is scary. It happened to me once in a store (I’m always hit on by older guys too…but I look older than I am–I’m 19– so maybe that’s why) anyway, I just make sure I’m around a bunch of other people if someone is making me uncomfortable.

The 40 year old guys take second place in the creeper contest BTW.

Oh and I think you reacted fine.

This has happened to me quite a few times over the past few years (random guys coming up to me on the street, one asked if I wanted to hang out…um no!) so I am pretty comfortable being straightforward with them now, and am not concerned about coming off as less-than-friendly if I get the creeper-vibe.

For instance, now if someone were following me in a store I would first make sure I was safe (close to other people) but wouldn’t have a problem asking him firmly if there was something he needed, and why he was following me, or even calling security if necessary. (Before I would just be freaked out).

If a random guy asks if I’m single (which has happened, but he was my age and very outgoing so it was more funny than creepy), I have no problem telling him straight off I have no interest in a relationship right now.

Another thought~It’s never a bad idea to workout and take self-defense classes, they will help your confidence immensely. You don’t even need to be a black belt, just learn a few basic moves. You could probably even look some up on youtube if you don’t have time/money to take classes.

Ask God for wisdom in handling these situations. Remember, God hasn’t given us a spirit of fear, but one of power, love and a sound mind. ( 2 Timothy 1:7) <3

April 5, 2015 at 20:09
faithful_soul

faithful_soul

The situation with an older guy following you happened to my friend too. So my friend is 14 ok and she’s still really young and you can see why this is weird. So this is what happened……we were in Las Vegas last year for our youth groups yearly missions trip (LAS VEGAS!!!!!! ikr) vegas bebe!! The whole point of the missions trip was to spread the word of the church’s VBS. Anyways she was left by herself on a random street in Vegas 😮 🙁 and an old Mexican guy kept following her all around the street for longest time bc the family from the church that dropped her off took their time getting back. She was extremely freaked out and you can imagine why and then suddenly one of my other friends randomly showed up and pretty much saved her HALELUHIAH! I had an extremely similar situation to this on the same day and a bunch of other things. 😮 😮 😮 😮 Maybe that’s why our youth pastor is having us run the VBS this year in stead lol. TEXAS

Yeah I’m going to youtube after this/Self Defense 😀 😀 😀

April 6, 2015 at 08:56
Nate

Nate

@clairabear: I will look up your forum, and read you story. 🙂

@AdventureGirl: Your advice is so helpful! I will definitely look up some self defense tips! I usually go running and try to do frequent muscle work outs, but I will def look up self defense on youtube.
So the dude just asked you if you wanted to hang out? Did he even ask you your name or try to make small talk first? How did he even think that would work?? lol

@Faithful-soul: That is really scary! I am glad she is ok! It is very unsafe for the missions director\organizer to let a young 14 yr old girl be completely by herself in a bad part of LV. I would have been so freaked out!!

April 6, 2015 at 13:07
MandaPanda18

MandaPanda18

I grew up in a college town (my dad is a professor at the university). I’m really tall, always have been, and I’ve been told that I look older than my age. I’m 20 now and 6’1″, but when I was in high school I definitely looked like a college student. I guess I’m used to getting hit on by college guys (at the time it was weird because they were so much older than me).
Occasionally now I’ll get guys (some older) hitting on me in the store or just wherever. I normally just ignore it, but I have no hesitancy when it comes to calling people out. I’m never scared, I normally don’t have any reason to be – #1, because of my height I don’t feel intimidated by big guys, and #2, I’m normally in a public place.

For those of you that feel unsafe or creeped out, I’d encourage you to do a few things if/when this happens again. Especially if you’re younger and feel scared.
#1, move to a location where you are seen by several people. This means a public place. If you are in a store, walk next to a family, or find a woman to be next to. That may sound weird, but it works. If you have to explain yourself as to why you’re walking with them, most adults are decent and will understand. They may even call the guy out for you.
#2, if you are truly alone or can’t find anyone to walk next to, and ignoring them isn’t working, don’t be afraid to call them out. Most guys will back down if they’re challenged like that. Be firm with your words. A simple, “Are you serious?” and “No” has worked for me before.
#3, always hold eye contact. This shows that you are not intimidated by them. Even if you are scared or creeped out, eye contact is a form of domination and control.

If nothing else, you can always do what my mom told my brothers and me growing up to do if someone tried to take us – I’m sure it’d help in this situation as well: “Scream bloody-murder.”

I hope this helps! 🙂

April 6, 2015 at 17:14
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

He asked my name and if I went to the community college close to me, then he asked if I was single. Then after I replied I didn’t want a relationship right now, he said “Well we can be friends right???” Riiiiight. lol!

April 6, 2015 at 17:45
Nate

Nate

@MandaPanda: I LOVE your username!! 😀 Thanks for the advice. I had always thought that I should avoid eye contact at all cost, but maybe I should look them in the eye!
It must be nice being that tall!! I am only 5’3. 😀

@AdventureGirl: I also like your username. 🙂 That sure was a straight forward approach. So awkward! haha

April 6, 2015 at 20:01
Clairabear

Clairabear

@Nate, do you know how to look up forums?? I used to, but then something changed and I have no way to anymore!!

April 6, 2015 at 21:04
sandyspuppychow

sandyspuppychow

I feel you girl.

When I was 13, a like 70 year old man at my church told me “You hold yourself up like a real woman.” It kinda creeped me out.

And one time last summer I was in Walmart and I was checking out and this old couple was behind me and the old man was literally leaning up against me. I had no idea what to do, and then he started talking to me, he asked “Is that your dinner little lady?” and pointed to the food I bought. (It was 11:00 a.m. btw) I just kinda looked at the wife because he was still leaning on me, the wife just looked ticked and wouldn’t make eye much eye contact. Then after I checked out and was walking to the car I heard a man yelling “HEY MISS!” and I turned around to see the old guy walking to me. Then he handed me a dollar and said “you dropped this.” then he winked at me and walked off. I counted my money when I got to my car and I didn’t drop any. And plus the dollar he gave me was all folded up nice and neat, I always just cram mine in my pocket or purse.

April 7, 2015 at 09:12
Nate

Nate

@Clairabear: I thought you could just click the other persons usernames and their thread history would show up. Apparently not. :\

@Sandyspuppychow: YIKES!! That is extremely creepy! So what do you mean by “old couple”? Like, 70 or 40?

April 7, 2015 at 17:18
sandyspuppychow

sandyspuppychow

like 60 or 70 O.o

April 9, 2015 at 08:56
Nate

Nate

ew. just ew.

April 9, 2015 at 10:09
cayenne.tisher

cayenne.tisher

I work at a tiny gas station and get hit on by old men (like 65+) all the time when I am selling them alcohol and tobacco. You get used to it after a while. Now if I can just get younger (like with in 10 years of my own age) guys to notice me.

April 17, 2015 at 20:39
dawnmarie2193

dawnmarie2193

I get guys who are like 50+ hitting on me all the time. Its kinda creepy

April 18, 2015 at 05:36
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