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ktuck22

ktuck22

I don’t have a problem, I just have an interesting story to tell… 🙂
So on the day before Valentine’s Day, my friend handed me a cupcake. Thinking that she made it, I told her how sweet she was and thanked her. She just smiled, which I thought was weird. Usually, she would say something like “You’re welcome” or something like that. I saw a slip of paper on the cupcake, but I didn’t bother to read it or anything. I always love to build up anticipation for small things like that, plus I figured my friend had just written something silly on it. So I didn’t bother to open it and I left it in the locker room to go to track practice.
So I went to practice after school, and I had to come back in the locker room for something. I saw the cupcake and the little slip of paper and I told myself “It’s probably nothing exciting, I’ll just read it now.” So I took it off the cupcake and turned it around.
I did a double take. And a triple take.
It wasn’t from my friend. It was from a guy.
I was like “What?!” so I opened it up and thERE WAS A FREAKING PHONE NUMBER IN IT
AND I STARTED FREAKING OUT AND I WAS LIKE WHAT SO I TEXTED MY FRIEND AND SHE TOLD ME EXACTLY WHO IT WAS FROM AND I KNEW WHO IT WAS
But the weird thing is, the guy? We’ve never spoken to each other. I know who he is, but we’ve never met. And so I texted him and he texted back and we had a short conversation. Basically, he told me he put his number on the cupcake because he wanted to talk to me and get to know me but he’s shy. Like, literally, that is SO sweet! I was pretty much dying omg but he said he’d text me later, but he hasn’t texted me back yet and I don’t know if I should or shouldn’t… I guess that IS a problem lol!

But really, I just didn’t know who else to share this with so why not put it on the Internet, right? Thanks to all of you who read the whole way through, and tell me what you think 🙂
(PS he’s really cute 🙂 )

February 14, 2015 at 20:15
EmeraRider

EmeraRider

AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!! That’s ADORABLE! Tell me how things go with you two! Hahaha that’s amazing oh my gosh.

February 15, 2015 at 17:58
ktuck22

ktuck22

Thanks, I plan on it! Haha 🙂
Well, it was good chatting for the last few days, but last night got pretty deep… we started discussing God and our views, and we don’t exactly come from the same place. I’m a Christian in the sense that I say “Yes, there’s a God, and I try to follow Him the best I can and love Him.” He’s a Christian in the sense that he says “Yes, there’s a God, but I don’t know if I trust Him, and until he gives me reason to, I don’t really follow him.” Soooooooooo this could be a problem…
He says he’s been in a dark place for the last two years and he wants to get out of it, but at the same time he doesn’t regret anything he’s done. He straight-up told me he’s had sex before (when he asked if I slept with the last guy I was interested in and I told him no, I’m saving myself for marriage) and he said he’s done some pretty crappy stuff, but he doesn’t regret any of it. And I agree with him that regret is a waste of time, but I’m kind-of wondering if he’s okay with what he did and if he’d do those things again.
The thing is, until we meet in person (we’ve had two snow days oh my gosh!), I can’t really make a call here. It’s like, I want to be with him, even if it’s just friends, because although his view of faith is different than mine, he’s still a sweet and funny person and I’d like to get to know him better. But he’s obviously very interested in a relationship with me and, if I end up deciding that we’re just not going anywhere, I don’t want to lead him on or give him false hope. So I don’t know at this point. I guess we’ll see what happens.
The thing is, he would be my first boyfriend, if we do decide to go out. But if he doesn’t find the answers he’s looking for from God, we’d just go nowhere, and I don’t really know if I’d be okay with going into my first relationship with the mentality that we probably wouldn’t last. But then again, I’m pretty confident in my faith, and I did tell him my boundaries, so we might work… I guess if I felt he was leading me astray or if we just weren’t connecting on the same level, we could just end it. But… I don’t know,

Ugh. This is SO hard. It’s like, every time I meet someone who might be even slightly interested in me, they’re wrong for me. I got so excited that this time he’d be *right*, only to find out he might not be. I’m caught between “love him anyway, just like you’d love anyone else” and “get yourself away from there”. Ugh. Ugh ugh ugh.

February 17, 2015 at 08:44
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rusie

My personal advice:

I say wait it out. Be friends and learn more about each other before you get into a relationship. That way you can make an informed decision about the relationship and not get into a relationship with someone you don’t really know.

(I give this advice because one of my best guy friends and I were interested in each other at one time, but I decided to wait out and now I’m glad I did. I’ve learned more about him in friendship because there’s no pressure to impress each other or be the “perfect” couple. If he asked again, I most likely would say yes because I have lots of information to base my feelings on. )

But if you’re feeling some hesitation now, with the warning signs and all, I say give it time. It might be the Holy Spirit trying to guide you.

February 18, 2015 at 17:18
ktuck22

ktuck22

Thank you. I think that’s what I’m going to do: wait it out and see if we click in person first. If we do, I might just take the chance. If we don’t, I’ll suggest we stay friends. Thanks so much!

February 18, 2015 at 22:06
ktuck22

ktuck22

Just kidding, turns out he was actually thinking that sex was still an option with me. I said no. Now we’re at this awkward point where he likes me and I kinda like him but I know we wouldn’t mesh well.

Okay then. Just thought this time would be different. Whatever. I’m not bitter or anything.
Thanks anyway, ladies.

February 18, 2015 at 23:49
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rusie

I’m sorry that it didn’t work out. But hey, at least you know that you’re one guy closer to your dream guy…
But you’re welcome…have a good day!!!

February 19, 2015 at 06:45
ktuck22

ktuck22

So… I feel like I have to play this out and see where it goes. I’m not cutting him off yet. He said he is fine with and actually admires my personal decision to refrain from intimacy and I really respect him for that.
We finally met today, in person. He really is sweet. He gave me a bag of Sweethearts (even though I don’t like those, the gesture is reassuring). We’re gonna take it really slow, get to know each other as friends first, then see where it takes us. If as friends I start to see that we’re not right or we don’t mesh, I’ll leave it as that and we won’t take it any further. I realized that I totally cut him off without even giving him a shot, and that was completely unfair of me. Everyone deserves a chance.
If it works, it works, and cool! If it doesn’t, it doesn’t, and that’ll be that. But we’ll never know unless we give it a shot. And I think it’s worth it to give it a shot.

Maybe this is against my better judgement, but I figure, if something’s wrong or it just doesn’t feel right, get out. But this could turn out to be something amazing and I’d never know it if I didn’t give him a chance.
Thank you ladies for your advice and comments, and I really hope you don’t judge me too hardcore for this.

February 20, 2015 at 20:47
ktuck22

ktuck22

So in a surprising twist of events, he showed up at my church this morning. He said he used to go there, but it’s been like 3 years or something and he’s wanted to come back for a while but stuff just always got in the way. And so he came to Sunday school and met up with me after and we spoke and it was awkward but also pretty great. I think this is a good sign: that he wants to come back to church. Maybe he’ll learn something or get some answers. I really hope so. But this is good, right? I think it’s great!
So, yeah, just another update. I think this one is better than the last few I’ve put out. This might actually mean something 🙂

Still thanking you ladies for everything 🙂

February 22, 2015 at 11:36
emhen

emhen

Be super careful. I know he could very well be genuinely interested in going to church and learning more. But he also could be doing this because he wants to be with you and he knows it’s importnat to you. I don’t mean to be negative but just make sure you’re cautious. I’ll pray for you!

February 27, 2015 at 19:27
ktuck22

ktuck22

Thanks emhen! I’ve got my defenses pretty well stocked and I’m being super duper careful. But I figure, even if he IS only going to church to see me, he’s still getting the information and the teachings. He’s still listening. I figure that’s better than nothing.
As of right now, I’m just giving him a chance. We’ll see how it goes. Thank you so much for your prayers; they mean a lot to me 🙂

February 28, 2015 at 08:20
ktuck22

ktuck22

I ended it with him. I started noticing that we definitely wouldn’t last very long and he’s already been through enough heartbreak that I didn’t want to be another one. Also kinda realized that I was kind-of his rebound girl, soo… yeah. We’re done talking. Now he’s angry and disappointed, but hey, I’m just not the right girl for him. Thanks ladies, and you were all right. I was just too optimistic to see everything.

March 1, 2015 at 06:04
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