I don’t have a problem, I just have an interesting story to tell… 🙂
But really, I just didn’t know who else to share this with so why not put it on the Internet, right? Thanks to all of you who read the whole way through, and tell me what you think 🙂
|February 14, 2015 at 20:15|
AWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWWW!! That’s ADORABLE! Tell me how things go with you two! Hahaha that’s amazing oh my gosh.
|February 15, 2015 at 17:58|
Thanks, I plan on it! Haha 🙂
Ugh. This is SO hard. It’s like, every time I meet someone who might be even slightly interested in me, they’re wrong for me. I got so excited that this time he’d be *right*, only to find out he might not be. I’m caught between “love him anyway, just like you’d love anyone else” and “get yourself away from there”. Ugh. Ugh ugh ugh.
|February 17, 2015 at 08:44|
My personal advice:
I say wait it out. Be friends and learn more about each other before you get into a relationship. That way you can make an informed decision about the relationship and not get into a relationship with someone you don’t really know.
(I give this advice because one of my best guy friends and I were interested in each other at one time, but I decided to wait out and now I’m glad I did. I’ve learned more about him in friendship because there’s no pressure to impress each other or be the “perfect” couple. If he asked again, I most likely would say yes because I have lots of information to base my feelings on. )
But if you’re feeling some hesitation now, with the warning signs and all, I say give it time. It might be the Holy Spirit trying to guide you.
|February 18, 2015 at 17:18|
Thank you. I think that’s what I’m going to do: wait it out and see if we click in person first. If we do, I might just take the chance. If we don’t, I’ll suggest we stay friends. Thanks so much!
|February 18, 2015 at 22:06|
Just kidding, turns out he was actually thinking that sex was still an option with me. I said no. Now we’re at this awkward point where he likes me and I kinda like him but I know we wouldn’t mesh well.
Okay then. Just thought this time would be different. Whatever. I’m not bitter or anything.
|February 18, 2015 at 23:49|
I’m sorry that it didn’t work out. But hey, at least you know that you’re one guy closer to your dream guy…
|February 19, 2015 at 06:45|
So… I feel like I have to play this out and see where it goes. I’m not cutting him off yet. He said he is fine with and actually admires my personal decision to refrain from intimacy and I really respect him for that.
Maybe this is against my better judgement, but I figure, if something’s wrong or it just doesn’t feel right, get out. But this could turn out to be something amazing and I’d never know it if I didn’t give him a chance.
|February 20, 2015 at 20:47|
So in a surprising twist of events, he showed up at my church this morning. He said he used to go there, but it’s been like 3 years or something and he’s wanted to come back for a while but stuff just always got in the way. And so he came to Sunday school and met up with me after and we spoke and it was awkward but also pretty great. I think this is a good sign: that he wants to come back to church. Maybe he’ll learn something or get some answers. I really hope so. But this is good, right? I think it’s great!
Still thanking you ladies for everything 🙂
|February 22, 2015 at 11:36|
Be super careful. I know he could very well be genuinely interested in going to church and learning more. But he also could be doing this because he wants to be with you and he knows it’s importnat to you. I don’t mean to be negative but just make sure you’re cautious. I’ll pray for you!
|February 27, 2015 at 19:27|
Thanks emhen! I’ve got my defenses pretty well stocked and I’m being super duper careful. But I figure, even if he IS only going to church to see me, he’s still getting the information and the teachings. He’s still listening. I figure that’s better than nothing.
|February 28, 2015 at 08:20|
I ended it with him. I started noticing that we definitely wouldn’t last very long and he’s already been through enough heartbreak that I didn’t want to be another one. Also kinda realized that I was kind-of his rebound girl, soo… yeah. We’re done talking. Now he’s angry and disappointed, but hey, I’m just not the right girl for him. Thanks ladies, and you were all right. I was just too optimistic to see everything.
|March 1, 2015 at 06:04|
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