I’m in college and my boyfriend and I met there. We dated for six months broke up for nine, and since then have gotten back together for nine months. This summer, while I was home, I had several people come up to me and tell me to make sure this was God’s will; thing is, both my parents approve of him as does my grandma, and all three of these people are really strong Christians. We’ve planned on getting married after we graduate in 2018, but he told me tonight he doesn’t want to be attracted to me. He can’t figure out why besides the fact that not only do school rules not allow physical contact, but he doesn’t want us to get to physical. I’ll admit we both are not strong spiritually. My biggest problem right now is dealing with my depression and anxiety, and I’m afraid that’s reflecting on my dating relationship. I’m just really confused about whether to break up or not, I want God’s will and I have been praying about it, but I’m not getting any answers. Plus I know that I’ve had one of my worse days, so that could be making me more emotional. I’m really sorry if no one can make sense out of this; it’s late, I’m emotionally drained, and I’m tired, but can’t sleep. Please help make sense of this mess.
|August 21, 2016 at 22:41|
Sounds like you need to have a serious conversation with him to make sure that you’re on the same page. If you’re planning to get married in a little over a year, you can’t be left guessing how the other person is feeling….the bottom line is, a relationship won’t work without communication. So my advice is to ASK him what he meant when he said that. The only was to know what he meant is to ask him. They aren’t exaggerating when they say communication is key to any relationship!
|September 18, 2016 at 16:45|
Hey friend! I know it’s been a few weeks, but just wanted to check in! A few thoughts, don’t make your decisions in the moment, especially when there’s so many emotions! Our hearts are deceitful above all things! But also know that just because you’ve talked about marriage doesn’t guarantee that’s where God will lead you. It sounds like you both may need time to focus on your relationships with God, which you may be able to do together and encourage each other in, but if not, maybe you do need a break. God will honor our pursuit of Him and He won’t let you mess up His plans. The tough thing is He doesn’t promise you’d get back together, but He does promise to work all things for good and that He has GREAT plans for both of you! God bless! Remember also that God leads out of peace and not out of fear, ask Him for His peace that is beyond understanding as you move forward in whatever decision you make!!
|September 30, 2016 at 08:15|
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