There is this person who thinks about giving up there life pretty frequently because of people not liking them ( mainly in a romantic way but also in a general way ) .They get attached to people really easily and I am always concerned that I am going to say the wrong thing. I have tried multiple times to give them advice but they just don’t take it . They are not a Christian and I invited them to my church and they went but people at my church got the feeling that he liked me and now I just really don’t know what to do because if I invite them back I don’t want them to think that I am inviting them for reasons other than God and getting to know Jesus ( also I don’t like him like that). I’m also not sure if the only reason they talk about suicide is for attention or if they are serious. So to be on the safe side I always assume that they are serious . But I just don’t know what to do help please.
|January 1, 2015 at 13:17|
Ok so first off, I think that you should invite him back no matter what other people might say about you, because this is serious. If you really care about your friend, you will want him to get to know God. You can explain to your friends at church why you are bringing him on Sundays.
Secondly, from my experience with friends, people who talk openly about suicide are usually depressed but aren’t really serious about it. But that’s just from my personal experience with people. I can almost promise you that someone who is serious about suicide won’t tell anyone, and will only give warning signs to look out for (making big changes in appearance, suddenly acting rebellious, withdrawal from friends and family, changes in grades or schoolwork, giving away possessions, drug or alcohol abuse, dramatic personality changes, etc.). Of course you can expect people to maybe say a couple of remarks about suicide or death, most of the time in a joking way. It’s deep discussions about suicide that are very rare among people who are actually suicidal. Regardless, this is from my experience and what I’ve heard and read about other people, but not everyone is the same and so I would stay on the safe side and treat this seriously, because it still is.
Lastly, I think that you should have a serious talk with him about dating and relationships. Let him know that there is someone there for him, and that no matter what, he is not alone. He may not be in the romantic relationship he wants to be in but obviously he has people who care about him, like you.
|January 2, 2015 at 03:40|
Thanks and my bad there was a typo it was supposed to be : …… if I invite him back I don’t want him to think ………
|January 2, 2015 at 06:14|
One of the best ways to help people that are depressed or having a hard time in general, is simply being there for them. Provide them with a listening ear, and show them that you really do care. Just a listening ear can honestly go so far, and in that you can just explain how God helps you through your hard times. Just try not to shove God down there throats listen to them and bring it up naturally so it is not forced and uncomfortable.
I think you should invite him to church, but maybe just say it would really be fun to have another friend there, and I think it would really help you. Saying something like that will hopefully make your intentions clear, and still getting him the help he needs.
|January 15, 2015 at 09:37|
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