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kellybarta14

kellybarta14

So, this is a MINOR MINOR issue, but i was thinking about it last night and thought I would go here to talk about it. I am kinda embarrassed about this haha.

Anyhoo, I have posted on here that my parents would never let me wear a bikini. However, I still wear a one piece to honor their wishes though I am 18 now (I still live at home), so I am at war with myself whether it is legal or not to wear a bikini….

So, my guy friend (who I have a big crush on) Tony invited me to “watch him and his sister practice swimming.” I accepted and did not bring a swimsuit, since he made it sound as though I would be watching a swim meet. But no, actually his entire family went swimming at the public pool. I did not have a swimsuit. At first I was not gonna go swimming, but I just thought, “what the heck” and went swimming in my shirt and jazz shorts. Yup you heard that right. Haha. But I actually was talking to his sister like, “Should I just swim in my bra? I mean it’s just like a bikini, just different material.” I decided against it though, because of my parents and it was white, so it may have been seethrough… but I would have never known if I didn’t try swimming in it.

Anyway, (although my friend later told me it is illegal to swim publicly in undergarments but I had no idea), would it have been okay to swim in my white bra? I mean most girls I know wear bikinis. Of course, I want to attract him since I like him, if that makes sense, however I would NOT have wanted to make him lust or stumble, as he is my brother in Christ. So, did I do the right thing swimming in my shirt? Would it have been OKAY to swim in my bra since I want to attract a guy I like, without making him lust? If that makes sense. Haha. Thank you!

August 17, 2015 at 11:37
AdventureGirl

AdventureGirl

I don’t think I would swim in undergarments because it’s different material than swimwear. It’s not going to stay on as well and like you said it may be see through.

As far a wanting to attract him…that’s a good question. It’s natural to want to look attractive around the guy you like. I don’t think wearing a bikini is a problem, I think how you (not you specifically, I mean “you” in general 🙂 ) choose to *act* is what could make it a problem.

August 17, 2015 at 14:45
Marcy

Marcy

I definitely wouldn’t swim in undergarments. They’re not the same material as swimsuits so they won’t hold up as well and getting anything white wet is likely a bad idea. Swimming in clothes, while more cumbersome, is a better option since they hold up better in water than just underclothes.

Wanting to attract him, it’s a thin line. Obviously you can be attractive without doing anything wrong, but, I know from my own life, when I like a guy, I’m much more likely to make compromises to get his attention. I would figure out what you believe would be okay to swim in without thinking about what you would want to swim in around him specifically when deciding, so you can make the decision in general and not be swayed by your attraction in him.

August 17, 2015 at 16:24
LadyFanaria

LadyFanaria

I’m 18, and I recently wondered about the bikini issue myself. I came to the conclusion that I just don’t feel right in one. I like the appeal of appearing attractive (especially to the guy I like), but bikinis make me feel too exposed. I want my guy to like me for ME, not because my rack is on full display for everyone to see. I just personally feel like I’m disrespecting myself by wearing one.

However, that may be different for you. If you have no problems with it, by all means go ahead. But if you feel uneasy, that may be the Holy Spirit telling you ‘no’ and you’re just trying to look for a way around it. I think that the fact that you posted the question in the first place hints at the answer you’re looking for.

By the way, trust me. You made the right decision. I’ve had friends just swim in bras…totally see through. When in doubt, better safe than sorry.

August 19, 2015 at 21:33
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