Hi everyone! So, I’ve been in college for half a semester now, and so far, I’m feeling very disappointed with it all. I know it’s still early, but I haven’t made any new friends; I don’t hang out with anyone other than my roommate and my family that lives near the college. I spend a lot of my time alone, and while I’m an introvert who enjoys some alone time every once and a while, the loneliness is beginning to feel quite suffocating. I’ve been feeling really sad lately, and very insignificant. I know God has a plan for me, and I’m trying so hard to trust in Him, but I’m feeling so lost right now. I pray and pray for friends and to one day find love (being that I’ve never had a real boyfriend), but I feel like nothing’s happening. I’m so grateful that I’ve been given the opportunity to go to college, and I’m doing fairly well in my classes, but the social aspect of college (the “college experience” if you will) is extremely lacking. I’ve been invited to frat parties, but I don’t feel that that really lines up with my values, so I never go. I’ve tossed around the idea of transferring to a smaller Christian college (opposed to the large public university I’m at now), but I really don’t want to have to do that. I want to find a way to enjoy where I’m at. I don’t know, I’m just hoping that maybe one of you girls has some advice for me? Even just an encouraging bible verse? Thank you in advance!
|October 3, 2015 at 18:16|
Hey! I’m in a similar boat as you except that I live with my parents.. have you tried finding a Christian club on campus? If you have and there is none, I would just continue praying and trusting in God. You could also start your own Christian club if you’re interested. I’ve been meditating on this verse recently which is Proverbs 3:5-6 “Trust in the Lord with all your heart and lean not on your own understanding, in all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make your paths straight.” I know it can be hard sometimes, I was in a dark place too with no friends once upon a time, but God used that season to strengthen me and to trust him more and more each day. I’ll keep you in my prayers and I just know that God will send to you some amazing Christian friends. Just keep looking! 🙂
|October 4, 2015 at 20:14|
Hey, I just joined this site, so I have no idea if you will get a notification or whatever that your post has been responded to? Anyways, I know how you feel. I’m a sophomore. And I transferred to a different school than where I was my freshman year. If you transfer, you will still feel this way. Personally, it took me until the February after I began my freshman year to feel comfortable at my school. I still transferred. At my new school, I am not halfway through the semester, and I feel exactly like you described. I promise that things will get better, but I can’t offer anything besides that it takes a lot of time (and I’m pretty sure that’s probs not what you want to hear? Haha). I know people give good advice, such as telling you to join a club or go up to people and start talking with them or whatever other well-meaning thing, but really, it just takes time. I actually never found my closest friends from clubs. Usually it was someone I met who lived on my floor or in the dining hall. I find it easy to find a similar movie that we both like and say, “Oh my gosh, we should have a girls night sometime!” Usually people are pretty open and friendly to fun, low-key things like that. Even if you don’t set up a date then, just mention it another time over Facebook or something. I’m sorry if that didn’t exactly help, but you’re not alone. <3
|October 19, 2015 at 07:17|
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