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Does everything turn on a guy? what do you thinK?

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Linerss

Linerss

My uncle said that even when you hold a guys hand then his mind only goes to the feeling of wanting sex. He said that its like that with every guy. That God me thinking. Is it true or not ? I want to know what makes a guy turn on ? and How do you know that that guy wants you or just likes the feeling of being with yoU? How do you exactly know what he is thinkin when he is holding your hand or something like that ? And is it bad if something turns a guy on? I think that somewhere in relationships (even if the dude is christian) he will get turnedon but never tell the girl.

July 23, 2015 at 16:19
Mandi_lee2014

Mandi_lee2014

Okay, so if a guy is turned on by something that is their deal NOT yours. And I’m sorry, but that is messed up that your uncle only thinks about wanting sex from something as simple as holding hands. Seriously, guys are not animals, and not to get into the entire feminism debate thing, but this is why feminism and stuff is necessary.
And every guy is not like that. I mean, if it were then my best friends husband must be lusting after me all the time since I’m around and *gasp* have done things like slept over and showed some skin. Oh no!
Sorry, this just angers me to no end.
As far as your other questions. I can tell you that its not bad if you’ve done something to turn a guy on, especially if its unintentionally . We are all humans, and we all get turned on by things and that is not a problem. I mean it happens to EVERYONE not just guys. And if he doesnt tell you, no big deal, if he does, its not a big deal.
The problem comes when people like your uncle start thinking about sex and only sex with that person because they are turned on. Which is wrong,and shows how little self-control and respect they have been taught. And if anyone you are dating ever tells you that something little makes him think of nothing but having sex,run! run fast and dont look back.

July 23, 2015 at 17:39
Nate

Nate

The only reason guys “can’t control their urges”, is because they are told at a young age that they can not. Some of the coolest guys I know have been raised around sisters who wear short shorts, and lower cut tops. They are used to women dressing that way, their parents probably never held the belief that that is wrong, so they never passed those ideas to their sons. Never date a guy that is so easily tempted that the very act of hand touching turns him on. Chances are his parents conditioned that idea into him, and probably many other ideas about ‘not being able to control it.”

July 23, 2015 at 18:39
Nate

Nate

@Mandi_lee2014 I COMPLETELY agree with that! Amen!

July 23, 2015 at 18:41
Mandi Pi

Mandi Pi

In addition to what Mandi and Nate have said, it always bothers me that people talk about things related to lust/sexual sins as if they’re dominantly a male problem. Many, many girls struggle with sexual sins too, yet those sins are discussed as if only men experience temptations. Men and women alike all have sexual urges at some point; it’s just natural.
I’d like to point out that getting “turned on” is *not* a sin; let’s remember that God created sex as a beautiful thing, and it’s normal for us to feel attracted to our significant other in that way. What *is* a sin is when we indulge that “turn-on” by turning our thoughts, and even actions, towards sex.
I do think that a lot of the reason lust/sexual sins are discussed as being dominantly a male problem is because the female body is over-sexualized (and vice versa: a lot of the reason the female body is over-sexualized is because lust/sexual sins are discussed as dominantly a male problem).

I do honestly struggle a lot with lust, and yes, a lot of things cause me to be “turned on”. But even so, that is a personal heart issue that needs to be resolved by training myself to have self control and setting my priorities straight; not by blaming men, not by asking men to dress differently or stop doing/saying certain things that might “turn me on”, and not even necessarily by avoiding any and all situations that might “turn me on”. The same should go for men as well as other women.

July 24, 2015 at 08:12
Broken Vessel

Broken Vessel

As a feminist, I would say that’s unfair and offensive to guys. I’ve had this talk with a lot of guys, and I don’t know why Christian culture teaches us this but it needs to stop.
They’re not animals.
Men are intelligent.
Men have emotions.
Men get cheated on.
Men are humans just like us.

July 24, 2015 at 15:25
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