My uncle said that even when you hold a guys hand then his mind only goes to the feeling of wanting sex. He said that its like that with every guy. That God me thinking. Is it true or not ? I want to know what makes a guy turn on ? and How do you know that that guy wants you or just likes the feeling of being with yoU? How do you exactly know what he is thinkin when he is holding your hand or something like that ? And is it bad if something turns a guy on? I think that somewhere in relationships (even if the dude is christian) he will get turnedon but never tell the girl.
|July 23, 2015 at 16:19|
Okay, so if a guy is turned on by something that is their deal NOT yours. And I’m sorry, but that is messed up that your uncle only thinks about wanting sex from something as simple as holding hands. Seriously, guys are not animals, and not to get into the entire feminism debate thing, but this is why feminism and stuff is necessary.
|July 23, 2015 at 17:39|
The only reason guys “can’t control their urges”, is because they are told at a young age that they can not. Some of the coolest guys I know have been raised around sisters who wear short shorts, and lower cut tops. They are used to women dressing that way, their parents probably never held the belief that that is wrong, so they never passed those ideas to their sons. Never date a guy that is so easily tempted that the very act of hand touching turns him on. Chances are his parents conditioned that idea into him, and probably many other ideas about ‘not being able to control it.”
|July 23, 2015 at 18:39|
@Mandi_lee2014 I COMPLETELY agree with that! Amen!
|July 23, 2015 at 18:41|
In addition to what Mandi and Nate have said, it always bothers me that people talk about things related to lust/sexual sins as if they’re dominantly a male problem. Many, many girls struggle with sexual sins too, yet those sins are discussed as if only men experience temptations. Men and women alike all have sexual urges at some point; it’s just natural.
I do honestly struggle a lot with lust, and yes, a lot of things cause me to be “turned on”. But even so, that is a personal heart issue that needs to be resolved by training myself to have self control and setting my priorities straight; not by blaming men, not by asking men to dress differently or stop doing/saying certain things that might “turn me on”, and not even necessarily by avoiding any and all situations that might “turn me on”. The same should go for men as well as other women.
|July 24, 2015 at 08:12|
As a feminist, I would say that’s unfair and offensive to guys. I’ve had this talk with a lot of guys, and I don’t know why Christian culture teaches us this but it needs to stop.
|July 24, 2015 at 15:25|
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