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Does He See Me As A Friend Or More? Please Help!!

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Katie139

Katie139

Hi everyone 🙂 Okay, so, this may be a little long. There’s this guy that I’m crazy about, (we’ll call him M) and I have been for a little over 2 years (crazy, I know), and we’ve been good friends for a while now. He’s a pastors kid, and I met him at youth group when we were in 8th grade. We used to go to his church, but we switched churches, but I still attend the youth group there. M and I also go to the same school, we’re both in 10th grade. Him and I don’t hang out too often, but when we do, we always have a really fun time together and we always enjoy each others company. He’s really into music, and he’s super duper talented when it comes to singing and playing guitar (it’s one of the things I like about him). Another thing I love about him is that he loves God so much. He’s not the type of guy to flirt and date a bunch of girls, he plans on dating one girl (“The One”) and marrying her after courting, and I’m the same exact way when it comes to dating. There’s this girl that he *used* to like back in 8th grade, but they’ve parted ways since then, though they talk every once in a while. This girl (S) and I used to be friends, but she actually stopped being my friend when I told her that I like M, so she isn’t always very nice to me.
Anyways, M is so confusing it hurts my head. He talks to me a lot when we’re together, and we’re actually going to a Lecrae concert in a couple of weeks (I like to call it a date… my parents will just be there too; a girl can dream, right?) Last Sunday on Easter, I went to his church, and when he saw me, a big smile grew on his face, like he was happy to see me. He leads worship, and I caught him looking at me often while he was singing (but I guess that means he caught me looking at him too, so…) and after service, my parents and I went up to talk to him, and he teased me and we joked around, and my dad actually told me after we left that he saw M look at me a lot while we were all together, even when I wasn’t talking. We actually went to Youth Convention this past weekend, and we spent the entire time together. I caught him staring at me a lot, and the way he looked at me was in a way that looked like he liked me. There are some other examples that I left out, but as you can see, I have reasons to believe that he likes me. Here’s where my doubt comes in. He never texts me. He’ll text me every once in a while asking questions that he already knows the answer to, but this happens every once in a blue moon. Whenever I text him, he’ll reply, but he doesn’t make much effort to keep the conversation going, so we don’t text often. He always smiles and waves in the hallway, and whenever we’re together, we talk a lot and have a great time, but he never texts me. Is he just trying to be friendly when we’re together, or does he actually like me? Any input is greatly appreciated! Thank you! ~Katie 🙂

April 19, 2015 at 14:27
carolinereinhart1

carolinereinhart1

I think I sent a reply to the last time you posted this. Did you get it? If so, did you understand it? Questions?

April 19, 2015 at 18:46
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katrinalove

I know you might not want to hear this, but I would just assume that he just sees you as a friend. Personally if you have doubts, just assume that he is just your friend. From experience, if a guy really likes you and really wants to consider you to be his girlfriend/ or potential marriage partner, you would know 100% that he likes you- he would make effort to talk to you at every instance, carry on the conversation and would ask you out on a proper date. I think it is better to try to force yourself to see him as just a friend because if he doesn’t like you, then your heart is less likely to be broken and hurt if he decides to go out with another girl. I know it is difficult but you must protect yourself just in case- you do not want your heart to be played around by guys or to blow things out of proportion to view it the way you want it to viewed ( because you want it to). All I can is that if Jesus wants you both to be together, he will let it happen. If it doesn’t want you two to be together, it will be for the best even if you don’t see it at that time. Don’t spend time worrying on whether he likes you or not- instead surround yourself and get busy with other activities, concentrating on school, friends and spend time with the Lord:)

I hope this helps!

April 20, 2015 at 00:41
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Flute2013

I agree, and I know it’s definitely not what you want to hear. But it’s for the best to force yourself to think of him as a friend and brother in Christ. If a guy really likes you, you can tell because he will pursue you. He’ll take every chance to be with you.
I honestly believe it’s for the best to guard your heart, because Ive personally been there. I unnecessarily got my hopes up and in the end he asked out someone else, I didn’t see it coming, and I was devastated. So I’m just saying to think of him as a friend until he actually makes his feelings known.

April 20, 2015 at 20:36
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