Tagged: abusive relationships
I have a lot of issues with letting go & letting God. I know it is so important and every time that I finally do let go and let Him take care of it, everything ends up okay. Within the last year I was in a very abusive relationship that completely destroyed me, mentally. I tried to leave him & he tried to kill himself, I got back with him because he said that he had changed and I loved him and wanted to believe him.. However, after about two weeks, he was back to beating me and telling me I was worthless. So I left, this time for good. The next day he had a new girlfriend. Him and said new gf have been bullying me non stop for the last 7 or so months since the break up. It hurts so bad.. They’ve both threatened me & I do not know how to handle it. I got a job about two months ago and had to quit it this week because the new girlfriend was working next door to me. I was constantly afraid for my own safety & even now, I am. They both go to the same college as me & it is scary.. I pray about this constantly and God has not given me an answer. Anxiety & fear are ruling my life right now. Prayers would be great. But if you have advice on how to escape these people, I would like to hear it, please.
|October 9, 2015 at 21:22|
Hello Ginia! I pray that God just solves this situation for you and shows you how much you are worth to Him. May he heal you both mentally and emotionally and leave you a stronger and more confident person, in Jesus’ name.
Don’t live in fear of these enemies of yours. I personally think it would be good to confront them face to face kindly before letting them off. Tell them that you’d want them to leave you alone and that they can focus more on their relationship together if they leave you in the past. Tell them you love them even though they don’t love you back and you just want the best for the both of them and yourself personally. Be bold and face your fear. You could invite them for coffee as a venue for this discussion. You could invite them by phone, by a note, by an email. Just don’t let this matter sit there and bother you anymore. Let it come to the front, so you can let go of it and live free. Always remember to be loving and kind, sister and don’t let bitterness eat at you.
|October 21, 2015 at 10:01|
I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through this. You should definitely take steps to defend yourself. But I’m not sure that talking to them about it is a good idea. You’ve obviously tried talking to your ex, and he’s remained abusive. So I’m afraid talking to him and his girlfriend might make things worse rather than fixing anything.
|October 23, 2015 at 18:38|
|January 10, 2016 at 06:55|
Also, I agree about considering getting a restraining order. I think that would be a good idea. They are threatening you and again they just seem like not very nice people. There is a law that is protecting you and you have every right to be safe.
|January 10, 2016 at 06:58|
As someone who has gone through similar stuff I can tell you it is not as simple as “let go and let God”. Abusive relationships are extremely traumatic and depending on your symptoms I would honestly go see a counselor. You may have some mild PTSD from it. Also, confronting them is a BAD idea. You can try for a restraining order, but honestly, as someone who has seen how the law reacts to victims, I wouldn’t hold your breath on getting on.
|January 17, 2016 at 12:44|
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