I’m at a point in my life where everything is changing. This has been the hardest year of my life and I’m looking for some advice on how to deal with it…and my friends aren’t helping…at all.
At the Beginning of the year my grandma (who we have lived with since way before I was born) passed away. Shortly after that my parents informed me that we are moving…to a different state. About a month after that I found out that my Youth Pastor and his family are leaving for another church. About two months after that our youth group started to fall apart…everyone was lashing out at each other, teasing, mocking, lying, gossiping. It was getting really bad. All of my “Friends” were turning on each other. Relationships were being ruined by simple misunderstandings. On youth group outings you would never be able to tell that we were the “christian group”. Swearing became second nature to everyone. I feel like an outsider because I don’t swear, or flirt with every guy I meet. They all come to me for advice…and then the next minute they are mocking me because I’m innocent and have no relationship experience . Our youth group is already falling apart and our youth pastor hasn’t even left. One girl is thinking of leaving to find another youth group, one guy is considering not coming back, two kids aren’t coming anymore because everyone was mean to them. I was the “leader” of the group…I was the senior who inspired everyone to try to be content and to be kind….but now I’ve graduated and i’m moving away. They have nothing left and I won’t be there to try and keep everything together. I don’t know how to help them…
Also I’ve been feeling really alone lately…I’m surrounded by people but i’m alone. I have a few people who call me their “best friend” but no one that I would call my best friend. All of my friends confide in me…but its about stuff that doesn’t matter! Like what guys they like, how they hate that one girl, things like that. I used to care about stuff like that but now I realize just how temporary those things are…I listen to my friends and think ‘Why can’t they see how unimportant these things are?’ their life would be so much better if they could just change their perspective. I need friends who can encourage me to be a better christian and right now that wouldn’t describe any of my ‘close’ friends. I know I need to change that…but I don’t know how.
My questions are:
How can I help my youth group come together and support each other instead of tearing each other down?
Is it time for me to cut ties with my friends and start over completely or do I need to find a way to make it work?
How can I tell my friends that they need to change with out making them hate me?
Any advice on how to deal with my Youth Pastor leaving?
Thanks for reading my crazy long message 😀
also I want to make it clear that this isn’t my way of crying out…I’m still quite happy with my life even though this year has been hard. My focus is on God. My perspective is what is keeping me going. I just wish I could share my perspective with other people. :/
|July 28, 2015 at 21:09|
Hi! 🙂 There has been a lot of change in my life, too. Just in general. My family has moved ten times in my life lol and I unnderstsand how hard it can be to move away from all of your friends and everything.
|July 31, 2015 at 20:19|
Praying!!! God will work everything out!! 🙂
|August 15, 2015 at 14:38|
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