Hi guys, I need some advice! I have this pretty close guy friend from my youth group, and we have grown closer together over the past few days at a big national youth conference that we are both attending with our youth group. However, I’ve started to develop feelings for this person, but I don’t want to! He has confided in me about his depression and some issues, and we’ve talked and prayed together. However, I’m a very sensitive person and when I don’t know how to help a friend I get anxious and stressed. I’ve been told that I carry other people’s burdens with me, and that’s very true. Simply being this guy’s friend can be difficult at times, because my inability to completely understand and relate to what he’s going through drains me. I know that I wouldn’t be able to handle having a boyfriend with depression. That sounds selfish, I know, but I would want to help him so much and be unable to, and that would be too hard on me. What should I do? How can I continue to show him the love of Christ and help him without hurting myself too much?
|July 4, 2016 at 21:04|
Not sure if you still need some advice, but if so, the #1 thing you should do is bring all your feelings to God – Your concerns & stress over this situation? Give that all to God! And don’t sugarcoat how you feel, talk to God the same way you’d comfortably talk to the most closest person in your life.
|August 8, 2016 at 02:03|
Honestly, I don’t know if there is too much you can do other than pray and give it some time. It sounds like he really needs someone in whom he can confide, so if you can handle the emotional heaviness of it, I believe you should continue doing what you have been doing – letting him talk and praying with him. As you get to know him even better, you may begin to not have any non-platonic feelings for him. But I would just keep praying about it! 🙂
|August 26, 2016 at 20:21|
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