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chloe523

chloe523

Alright so I have a friend who goes to my school and lets call him N. So N has been one of my good friends for about a year and we just have a lot of common interests. He’s a really funny and great guy that I actually look up to as a leader (he is involved with many activities and takes a lot of leadership positions). But I don’t like him like that! For one thing he has a girlfriend and I would never mess with anyones relationship, but also, I just don’t see N that way and I never have.
Anyways, N tends to get confused on the difference between me being friendly and flirting. Since I’ve stopped being concerned about relationships and guys and stuff like that, life has just been so much easier so I’ve had small crushes here and there, but have never done anything about them or tried to flirt recently. That’s just not me. But he doesn’t get that. He thinks that because he doesn’t see me flirting with anyone else, that I must be flirting with him. Also, he thinks that because I treat him differently than some other guys, that means that I’m flirting and have a crush on him. Of course I treat him differently… I treat every guy differently. He’s not the same as everyone else so why would I talk to him about the same stuff or be exactly the same around him? But that doesn’t mean that I’m trying to flirt with him. The problem is that he gets weirded out sometimes when I try to talk to him or text him like any normal friend would. It’s really annoying that half the time I try to talk to one of my friends, I get rejected because he is assuming things. I don’t know what to do about it. I’m careful to make sure that I don’t say anything that could be taken the wrong way and I don’t persist too much when trying to talk to him but he just doesn’t get it. What can I do to get him to realize that I’m not into him like that?

December 6, 2014 at 11:04
ktuck22

ktuck22

Tell him.

December 6, 2014 at 16:14
chloe523

chloe523

-__- Yes I realize but how? I don’t want to make it more awkward

December 10, 2014 at 10:43
ktuck22

ktuck22

Sorry, that was really blunt XD
But it really is that simple. The next time he accuses you of flirting with him, just tell him you’re not. Seriously. If he’s all like “Dang gurl y u b flirtin wit meh?” just say “I’m not, I’m really not. You’re just misinterpreting my awesomesauce friendliness and all that.”
Good luck, homie 🙂

December 10, 2014 at 19:58
chloe523

chloe523

Haha it’s okay. And the thing is, he doesn’t say it to my face ya know? He told a mutual friend that he thinks I like him and ever since, I’ve noticed that it gets awkward whenever I do try to be friendly (and by that I mean more than usual like going out of my way to talk to him or ask him how he’s doing with certain stuff he’s been going through). He’s never actually mentioned it to my face before, it’s just one of those things that I know is there.

December 11, 2014 at 14:59
ktuck22

ktuck22

I would nonchalantly just bring it up somehow. “Just so you know, I’m not flirting with you. I’m being friendly. In case you were confused. Now what were you saying about the puppy that jumped into a pool full of jelly?”
It’ll be a little awkward more than likely, but you need to clear the air. I would just tell him– straight-up and awkwardly 🙂

December 11, 2014 at 19:22
chloe523

chloe523

lol I’ll think about it. Thanks 😛

December 13, 2014 at 05:23
KaylaMarie819

KaylaMarie819

I have a similar problem right now. My best friend told me he likes me and wants to be more than friends! I guess for the longest time, he interpreted my joking around and being nice as flirting, which it definitely was not. So the whole time he’s been building up feelings for me, and I haven’t in return. So now things are awkward and I don’t want them to be. So if you want we could trade advice lol 🙂

December 18, 2014 at 13:46
chloe523

chloe523

Haha yea that really sucks. The only thing is that when my guy friend thinks I’m flirting he gets weirded out by it cause we are just friends and I would be just as weirded out if he were flirting with me. But he’s friendly and nice to me and I don’t mistake it for flirting so he shouldn’t

December 29, 2014 at 17:48
Emilyitude

Emilyitude

OH mah goodness. Simple solution: STOP BEING FRIENDLY. ok there ya go.

December 31, 2014 at 16:02
Emilyitude

Emilyitude

I wasn’t going to expand on that but then I decided ‘why not?’
Some girls are like “I’m only being friendly” and then friendly looks like this:
http://media.tumblr.com/tumblr_lsx3s70TWR1qzbl7f.gif
yeah that’s friendly and its too frickin cute so stop.
Don’t be friendly. Don’t greet him with a wave and a high pitched “HI”. don’t sound eager or happy or whatever. just be like: http://img1.wikia.nocookie.net/__cb20141104062201/ssb/images/8/8d/Bruh.jpg

December 31, 2014 at 16:06
ktuck22

ktuck22

KELLY KAPOWSKI.
AND BRUH.
I LOVE YOU.

December 31, 2014 at 21:10
chloe523

chloe523

Lol BRUH. I actually say that way to much. It’s actually not much of a problem anymore. I just got really fed up with it and I haven’t talked to him all of winter break, which is kind of weird since we are used to talking more but it’s whatever. It’s better than having him accuse me of flirting when I’m really just over here like yay friendship -.-

January 2, 2015 at 04:23
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