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I have two strong Christian, best friends in my school. I am a Junior in HS, and it has taken me FOURTEEN YEARS to find these two girls that make me feel like I belong somewhere… except lately, they haven’t.
I know I don’t need a lot of friends to be happy. But these two girls, who have always been there… I am coming in 2nd place with them. They have found other more significant people to do life with. They are my best friends, but I am not theirs. I’m not saying they can’t have other friends… but I’m tired of coming in second.
I’m tired of being replaced.
I’m tired of not being good enough.
I’m tired of hearing them tell me all about their new best friends, when I’m just sitting there like STOP RUBBING IT IN MY FACE.
I can’t take it!! I try to still love them. I try to be kind. I try to show God’s love to them. I still invest, I still try. In fact, I invited them to come watch the movie Priceless with me this upcoming Friday. But if all they are going to do is talk about their “real life besties who are like family” then I don’t know if I even want to go. And I’ve been looking forward to this movie since March!!!
Any advice…?

October 11, 2016 at 11:36


Ohhhh NO that sucks.
(It’s me again.)
As this does not involve guys, who I am biased against at the moment, I hope my advice will be helpful.
I think you need to start looking for new friends. It’s better to be around people who really love you than people you’ll end up feeling hurt around all the time.
I TOTALLY understand. It really sucks when friends go on and on about friends they like better 🙁
And as for new friends….what better place than PI? (Just kidding :D)
Still, I will be praying for you. i totally understand.

October 11, 2016 at 16:16


Hello again 🙂 Thank you for your advice. I do have quite a few really strong Christian friends that I met at this camp this summer… but they all live far away. I just wish that I had friends- true friends- here where I live… ya know?

October 13, 2016 at 06:16


I totally understand! Can you keep them up with them on phone or email?

October 13, 2016 at 11:33


Yes! We text constantly 🙂

October 20, 2016 at 06:04


Oh my gosh, having friend struggles. I’m dealing with that so much! One of my close guy friends now has a girlfriend (who actually has the same name as mine but a different spelling), another is on the football team (and I don’t get to hang out with him a lot), and one of my close girl friends basically has a different personality than me. I really feel like I’m going to do something and lose them.

In Proverbs, it is said that “a friend loves at all times…” (Proverbs 17:17, one of my all time favorites). If your friends really seem to think that you’re a lesser friend than the new ones, I would suggest talking with them honestly, or slowly lowering the friendship to a “just friends” level. If they decide to leave you, they’re the ones missing out. It is not your fault! I hope this helps!

October 20, 2016 at 22:04
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