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MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

I have two strong Christian, best friends in my school. I am a Junior in HS, and it has taken me FOURTEEN YEARS to find these two girls that make me feel like I belong somewhere… except lately, they haven’t.
I know I don’t need a lot of friends to be happy. But these two girls, who have always been there… I am coming in 2nd place with them. They have found other more significant people to do life with. They are my best friends, but I am not theirs. I’m not saying they can’t have other friends… but I’m tired of coming in second.
I’m tired of being replaced.
I’m tired of not being good enough.
I’m tired of hearing them tell me all about their new best friends, when I’m just sitting there like STOP RUBBING IT IN MY FACE.
I can’t take it!! I try to still love them. I try to be kind. I try to show God’s love to them. I still invest, I still try. In fact, I invited them to come watch the movie Priceless with me this upcoming Friday. But if all they are going to do is talk about their “real life besties who are like family” then I don’t know if I even want to go. And I’ve been looking forward to this movie since March!!!
Any advice…?

October 11, 2016 at 11:36
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

Ohhhh NO that sucks.
(It’s me again.)
As this does not involve guys, who I am biased against at the moment, I hope my advice will be helpful.
I think you need to start looking for new friends. It’s better to be around people who really love you than people you’ll end up feeling hurt around all the time.
I TOTALLY understand. It really sucks when friends go on and on about friends they like better 🙁
And as for new friends….what better place than PI? (Just kidding :D)
Still, I will be praying for you. i totally understand.

October 11, 2016 at 16:16
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Hello again 🙂 Thank you for your advice. I do have quite a few really strong Christian friends that I met at this camp this summer… but they all live far away. I just wish that I had friends- true friends- here where I live… ya know?

October 13, 2016 at 06:16
theteenfashionista

theteenfashionista

I totally understand! Can you keep them up with them on phone or email?

October 13, 2016 at 11:33
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Yes! We text constantly 🙂

October 20, 2016 at 06:04
ani9874

ani9874

Oh my gosh, having friend struggles. I’m dealing with that so much! One of my close guy friends now has a girlfriend (who actually has the same name as mine but a different spelling), another is on the football team (and I don’t get to hang out with him a lot), and one of my close girl friends basically has a different personality than me. I really feel like I’m going to do something and lose them.

In Proverbs, it is said that “a friend loves at all times…” (Proverbs 17:17, one of my all time favorites). If your friends really seem to think that you’re a lesser friend than the new ones, I would suggest talking with them honestly, or slowly lowering the friendship to a “just friends” level. If they decide to leave you, they’re the ones missing out. It is not your fault! I hope this helps!

October 20, 2016 at 22:04
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

Thank you thank you thank you! I’m so glad to have heard from someone also going through it. Thanks ani!! I hope you believe your own advice girl!

October 31, 2016 at 09:11
ani9874

ani9874

I actually have trouble following my own advice. Life gets me down WAY too easily. I’m trying to realize that they will not leave me, but through different events, it’s been really hard.

November 1, 2016 at 21:20
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

I completely understand! I often give a lot of advice but I never follow it myself and people around me are like what are you doing girl lol. You got it! God’s got you

November 2, 2016 at 08:27
ani9874

ani9874

Thank you! And He’s got you too!

November 2, 2016 at 16:55
MacDawn1999

MacDawn1999

🙂

November 3, 2016 at 07:27
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Hey. I need some help too, my friend is a strong Christian girl but she is doing somethings a friend should never do. A little backstory: I first meet her in third grade and we have been friends since then. Back then we just had each other and we always had each other’s back. Now we are freshman in high school and I still have her back but I don’t think she has mine.

She comments in things she knows I am sensitive about and talked to my then boyfriend now ex about our relationship and tried to control it. It seems she always tries to one up me and is sometimes jealous. Then she separated some of our friends and made them choose sides. We took a little break and that seemed to help but now she is getting on my nerves again .

I now don’t have a best friend and I haven’t had a true best friend in along time. I have a group of really close friends but they all have one person in that group that they are closer with. I tried to seek a new girl as may best friend but she found someone else. Now I don’t know who to go to and I am afraid I am losing them all.

December 28, 2016 at 10:56
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