I just moved into college about a week ago. Sorority recruitment took place the last few days. Everything was going great. The first night, I wasn’t dropped by any houses; the second night, I was only dropped by one (and I had dropped two). The third night, I was left with my top two, and by the end of the night, I knew which one I wanted. Bid day was two days away, but I already had made up my mind. And then the next day, I get a call. I already knew what she was going to say before I picked up the phone. I had been dropped from both houses, putting me completely out of recruitment, meaning I am not going to be in a sorority. Now, I knew from the beginning that this was a possibility; however, I had been told by girls in both of my top houses that I was going to get a bid from them. The night before they dropped me, they were going out of their way to be friendly to me, and they even came out and said, “If you love the house, please let me know. I want to know if you want to be here.” Of course, I said, “Yes, I love the house and want to be here!” This conversation, for obvious reasons, made me believe that I was in. Why else would they ask me such a thing? However, I was clearly mistaken. And now, I’m left feeling completely insecure and lost, and honestly, kind of mad. The girls didn’t have to ask me that question or hint that I was wanted there. They didn’t have to make me feel so… accepted, if I wasn’t. So now, I don’t know what to do. I know I need to just get over it, and move on. I need to just go out for other clubs and organizations, meet a different group of people who will accept me for me. But it’s harder than that. Because, it took a lot for me to put myself out there, and it was a total mistake. I feel very hesitant to go out for anything now, and all of the confidence I’ve been working so hard to attain this summer feels almost completely evaporated. Please, I am really in need of some advice right now. I don’t want to be angry with God, and I don’t want to question His plans for me. I also don’t want to curl up into a ball and climb under a rock for the rest of my life. Please help.? Thank you in advance.
|August 24, 2015 at 10:53|
It wasn’t a mistake to try; it just didn’t work out. Rejection sucks, and I’m sorry you had to go through that. I don’t know why those girls said that, but try not to take it so personally (I know, I know, easier said than done).
Anyway, bottom line: Don’t give up! You got rejected once. So what? God’s guiding your life, and He has something better in mind, which is why he shut that door for now; you did your best, and God can see things you can’t.
You seem like a lovely person, so keep your head up, take back your confidence and go take over the world!
|August 24, 2015 at 18:47|
Hey love! I literally just made a profile just to respond and encourage you. As I was reading this, I totally saw God’s hand all through this situation. God is protecting you love. He knows what goes on in these sororities. He knows the hearts of the girls in these sororities. He knows the Master that they serve, and it isn’t Him. So in His love, He allowed for this to happen cause being around those girls will probably pull you away from Him and down the path of destruction. He has shown you the hearts of those girls and it’s clear they’re not for you. Do you really want that for yourself? I think God needs you to do a heart check — do you live more for God’s approval or human approval? Cause love, God accepts you. That’s all that really matters!! God wants your confidence to be from Him, and not from man. Cause man will always fail you. And it’s hard, trust me, I know, but God has special plans for you love, but He has to prune you and take away every branch that doesn’t bear good fruit in preparation for this calling — and that seems to include people bondage. I pray that God’s comfort will surround you and His peace will guard your heart and His Spirit will lead you to where you are loved and accepted and be led down the right path. Praying for you love!! I promise you’ll get through this and will flourish in your college years! <3
|August 25, 2015 at 19:47|
|August 30, 2015 at 15:21|
Hey! I know I am a tad late on this post, but I created a profile to share some insight that may ease your mind! I am so encouraged to hear that you have found plenty of other friends on campus. I know first hand that being dropped from sororities is hard because it happen to me as well. My story is a little different from yours in that in the end I did end up in a sorority, but it wasn’t the one I intended. Going into recruitment at a large university in the south I was told that there were a certain few sororities that shared and encouraged Christian values. When I found out during the third round that these sororities had dropped me I was devastated. Long story short, I can now see why God placed me where I needed to be. I have found so many strong Christians that encourage me on a daily basis but also several girls that I know need to hear the Gospel. In the beginning I was confused as to why God placed me here but after two years it has become so clear that his plan is much bigger. Also from being in a sorority for two years I have unfortunately seen how the process works. I just wanted to let you know that in most likely those girls genuinely wanted to give you a bid but oftentimes so many other background factors such as how many girls you know in the sorority, your hometown, how many other girls like the sorority etc can play such a large factor. I know in one situation a girl that I knew well got dropped from my sorority while everyone that talked to her all week loved her. So don’t take this as a rejection because if you made it to the last round, each sorority was dying to have you. In the end you just have to trust that God’s plan ultimately is better than anything you could imagine. I have learned in my time so far at college that what I see as rejections always end up being the biggest God sent. Just know that not being in a sorority does not define you, being a child of God does and that is enough! I hope your first semester of college was great!
|March 7, 2016 at 14:55|
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