So a while ago (January 18th) God told me the biggest surprise of my life, that the person I met and liked was the guy He wants me to marry.
|June 6, 2015 at 19:08|
I’m in basically the same boat. If you’re 16, marriage is a long way off in any event. While God might have said “yes,” that doesn’t necessarily mean “yes, right now!” Continue to pray for him. If you haven’t yet, actively seek a friendship with him. If it’s truly God’s will for you to be together, He’ll make that clear to both of you in His own time.
|June 7, 2015 at 18:08|
If you really did hear from God about this, then God will work it out. It’s possible to be mistaken. Keep that in mind.
As 4everhis said, simply seek to be friends with this young man. Don’t push things. Show sisterly love. Aim to direct his focus toward God and not toward you – that’s important. And don’t treat him differently than your other brothers in Christ. Just because you think you heard from God doesn’t mean that you somehow have dibs on him. He isn’t yours yet, and may not ever be. It’s a good mindset to have at this point, since marriage isn’t in the picture yet. Pray for him.
During this time, ask God to help you become the kind of spouse you’d like to marry. Continue pressing in and cultivating your relationship with Jesus. He should be your true love. Ask him to root out distractions and prepare your heart for whatever future He has in store for you. Don’t become so consumed with the idea of marrying this young man that you sacrifice your relationship with God.
And please talk to your parents about this. I can’t count how many times I’ve given this advice to people. It’s so important. Your parents can help you navigate these waters and find God’s will for your life. That’s what they’re there for. Don’t succumb to the temptation of hiding information from them – it’s very unwise. They can guide you in making the right decision – don’t pass up the chance to receive their wisdom and experience with this issue!
|June 8, 2015 at 19:43|
Yeah I understand, I have had many other people come to me and give me words from god confirming it, so I know I’m hearing right, I also understand this doesn’t mean I’m marrying him tomorrow or anything crazy. I’m really enjoying the friendship we have, he has become one of my closest friends over time and God told me what to pray for him and such… It’s just I feel like I’ve been doing all the things everyone is saying to do and it feels like I am stuck now. We are good friends, he trusts me with things he never told other people, we encourage each other in our relationship with God (In my mind that’s what any friendship should do) and I have talked to my parent about it, she doesn’t really have a relationship with God so it’s hard for her to understand the whole “God ordained” thing that’s going on. I guess I’m asking what else can I do or do I just keep doing what I’ve been doing for the past few months?
|June 9, 2015 at 11:19|
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