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God Told Me Who I Was Going to Marry, Now What?

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beccanne18

beccanne18

The story is long, and kind of complicated, but i will make it simple. God pointed a man out to me and said, “him” and through many confirmations told me that he is the guy I am going to marry, but he has told me that the interest for a romantic relationship is not there. He wants to be friends, and we are looking to get coffee together soon. But what do I do in the meantime? Would it be bad to date even if the interest in other guys really isn’t there? Or should I still honor him even though we are not together yet? My roommate thinks that I should just drop it and date around, but she is also not a Christian and doesn’t believe me. However, my Mom thinks that in all I do, the decisions I make, and the way that I act around everyone should be honorable to him because I already know. I’m just confused on what to do in this time of waiting, and I would like to think that I am not the only one that has been put in this awkward situation.

March 17, 2015 at 21:37
rainbowuni

rainbowuni

So, I’m guessing just outright saying to him, “Look, God told me you and I are going to get married, so I just want to know, do you want to get a jump on that? …or do you want to see some other people first and pretend like we don’t know we’re meant to be together?” isn’t an option?
…in that case, you don’t ever have to date anyone if you don’t want to…and it doesn’t sound like you do, so…

March 18, 2015 at 20:42
Julia3501

RosesHaveThorns

Yeah not certain but pretty sure RainbowUni’s isn’t the best idea, made me laugh but probably not practical. Okay so you obviously like this dude, and he at least is friends with you and agrees to meet with you. Outright telling him, “Hey, God decided you are gonna marry me.” might scare the crap out of him if the Lord hasn’t shown him that yet. (ya follow, I tend to talk in a semi-confusing jumble of thoughts..my bad) If you are certain God is directing you towards this young man don’t “date around.” Don’t date around in general, especially when you like or feel directed towards someone else. It just opens up a world of emotion and hurt. And disappointment. And distraction. Get to know him better, be a friend. Listen and hang out. I have a similar situation in my life but it’s with a guy who’s sisters and family are my second family. I feel uber comfortable around them and we all hang out frequently. Try hanging out with his friends and he, or he and his family. I mean all common sense type stuff, pray lots and discuss church/Christian activities with him. Just be a friend. I hope I helped, if not sorry.

March 23, 2015 at 17:27
misty233

misty233

Hey bub, I’m in the same boat, or i started out there 6 months ago…
Helping to pass the time and help him as well here’s something you could do.
1) Earnestly pray for him. Pray for God to work on his heart, to build the relationship, to prepare him for the life ahead of him and to speak to him.
2) Ask God what to pray about, He’ll tell you. (if you are confused why God has to tell you to pray about something and doesn’t jut DO it… well email me I’d be happy to explain and talk more! misty.silver233@gmail.com )
3) Pray for YOURSELF and focus on God. I know this is stereotypical but that’s always a good thing to do, the closer you get to God the faster time will go by, and also He will bless you for it.
4) On top of praying for yourself and him, work on yourself and your views on things that you know or God told you aren’t right yet. Doesn’t mean you’re dead wrong but it is nice to get things all worked out.
5) Ask God to prepare you for the next step and show you anything He wants you to do during this time.
Adding to that, I wouldn’t date around. When God tells him it would be hurtful and confusing for him to see you dating someone else, he probably wouldn’t know what to do with himself. It’s best to play it safe. It also would spare your feelings as well.
Hope this helps love! <3

June 6, 2015 at 23:37
that_veggie

that_veggie

Well, I am glad I am not the only one in a similar boat! The guy I dated is the guy I am almost certain I am going to marry someday- although he wants that too, we broke up because God told him the opposite, that I am not “the one” … but when I tried to date around, God put a giant brick wall between me and the other person, and it got tiring! I flip through the bible, pray, and I just know he is the guy I am supposed to end up with!
There is nothing you can do but have faith that the Lord is not directing him in your direction yet for a purpose. You both biblically should be equally yolked, and perhaps he needs some guidance on his own before you two can be in a healthy relationship with each other. I definitely encourage waiting for him so long as you know he is the one you are going to be with, I tried to date around, and well…five guys later and zero success, just difficult conversations and definitely more sure of the guy I am supposed to be with- which made not being with him harder, especially knowing what it is like to have him.
misty233 brought up some very good points that I will probably take into account myself! You are in a really good position to be friends with him, and build upon yourself as well! I pray you utilize that! My mom would always say “Me before we, we before three…” get yourself down pat, and he has to do the same 🙂 Praying for you and I hope this helped in some way!

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