The story is long, and kind of complicated, but i will make it simple. God pointed a man out to me and said, “him” and through many confirmations told me that he is the guy I am going to marry, but he has told me that the interest for a romantic relationship is not there. He wants to be friends, and we are looking to get coffee together soon. But what do I do in the meantime? Would it be bad to date even if the interest in other guys really isn’t there? Or should I still honor him even though we are not together yet? My roommate thinks that I should just drop it and date around, but she is also not a Christian and doesn’t believe me. However, my Mom thinks that in all I do, the decisions I make, and the way that I act around everyone should be honorable to him because I already know. I’m just confused on what to do in this time of waiting, and I would like to think that I am not the only one that has been put in this awkward situation.
|March 17, 2015 at 21:37|
So, I’m guessing just outright saying to him, “Look, God told me you and I are going to get married, so I just want to know, do you want to get a jump on that? …or do you want to see some other people first and pretend like we don’t know we’re meant to be together?” isn’t an option?
|March 18, 2015 at 20:42|
Yeah not certain but pretty sure RainbowUni’s isn’t the best idea, made me laugh but probably not practical. Okay so you obviously like this dude, and he at least is friends with you and agrees to meet with you. Outright telling him, “Hey, God decided you are gonna marry me.” might scare the crap out of him if the Lord hasn’t shown him that yet. (ya follow, I tend to talk in a semi-confusing jumble of thoughts..my bad) If you are certain God is directing you towards this young man don’t “date around.” Don’t date around in general, especially when you like or feel directed towards someone else. It just opens up a world of emotion and hurt. And disappointment. And distraction. Get to know him better, be a friend. Listen and hang out. I have a similar situation in my life but it’s with a guy who’s sisters and family are my second family. I feel uber comfortable around them and we all hang out frequently. Try hanging out with his friends and he, or he and his family. I mean all common sense type stuff, pray lots and discuss church/Christian activities with him. Just be a friend. I hope I helped, if not sorry.
|March 23, 2015 at 17:27|
Hey bub, I’m in the same boat, or i started out there 6 months ago…
|June 6, 2015 at 23:37|
Well, I am glad I am not the only one in a similar boat! The guy I dated is the guy I am almost certain I am going to marry someday- although he wants that too, we broke up because God told him the opposite, that I am not “the one” … but when I tried to date around, God put a giant brick wall between me and the other person, and it got tiring! I flip through the bible, pray, and I just know he is the guy I am supposed to end up with!
|June 10, 2015 at 19:38|
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