I have been dating my S/O for some time now, and we are now engaged! I love him so much! He has a sexual history and it tore me to pieces, but I knew that God can make anew and that he is not the person he was- as sincerely EXTENSIVE his sexual past is. I’ve been on edge about his past more now than ever since things about his past come up more and I found out new information about the exact number and I had went into full panic mode. A full weekend of broken trust and disgust since I a virgin. Was. We sat down to pray. We read out of our three books, took and applied scriptures, and talked about how we are going to move past this. And set everything aside to just hold each other. One thing led to another and of my time here and of all times, this is when I lost my virginity. We both wept after in shame and guilt. We set up a time to confess to our pastor who plans to officiate our wedding in a year… but I’m in so much guilt and fear… did we just ruin our marriage? We prayed and prayed. We spent a day in fast, and will continue to do so. But I need help. I want to hear from a community of Christians about this. There is nothing I feel more disgusted of myself for. Nothing I’ve spent such extensive Prayer over. I ask all who read this to pray… and I also ask what you think we should do. Should we still get married if we caused each other such a sin? Or do you think that because we are in such repetence God will see our hearts and intentions and show mercy on us, our relationship, our marriage? I seek council, prayer, and opinion.
|October 31, 2016 at 22:58|
I haven’t been where you are, and I don’t know what to say to you to bring you comfort… but I’ll be praying.
|November 1, 2016 at 06:20|
The first thing you need to do is forgive yourself, You can repent to God and ask for his forgiveness but you need to forgive yourself first in order to get rid of the guilt. Everybody makes mistakes and every sin is equal to another. Just because you had sex doesn’t make you any worse a person then you where before. It just means you messed up.
I dont think you should NOT get married tot his guy, I feel like that is just the guilt eating you inside right now. It is no lie that you did make a mistake and sin..so the enemy has more power right now, He is will try to pull you guys apart. DONT LET HIM. In marriage trust will be broken and sin will be committed, what matters is that you fight together with God. So do that now. I will be praying for you, and Try to focus on forgiving yourself. The engagement period is probably the hardest part of any relationship (before marriage)
|December 5, 2016 at 14:20|
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