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I don’t know if you’ve ever seen anything like this, but here goes. A few months ago I met a guy at work who was just all kinds of awesome. I worked directly with him, and because this job was kind of dangerous, he really looked out for me and protected me from anything that could have harmed me. I always felt safe when I was with him and we got really close really quickly.
When I met him, he asked me about my faith and I told him I was a Christian. He kind of recoiled a little bit, but once I told him that I wasn’t going to smack him upside the head with a Bible and that he could ask me about it if he wanted to, he relaxed. Now I don’t know where he stands with his faith, but I found myself praying for his salvation one night so hard that I started sobbing. I’m pretty sure it was from God and that I can’t stop thinking about this guy because God’s put a burden on my heart for him and his salvation.
But recently I’ve started thinking that it may be something else. The idea disgusts me and scares me, but I might have developed some feelings for him. Why is this a problem? I’m almost 18, and he’s somewhere in his late thirties. If there is a crush there I want to get rid of it (because it’s like crushing on my uncle; it’s WEIRD), but after that night that I randomly started praying for him, it could also be part of that travailing intercession and the way I feel towards him is more familial, like how Jesus loves me. How do I tell? I’m scared and really really confused. Please help.

December 5, 2014 at 13:42


Well, its kind of a guy’s instinct to protect a woman, especially if you have the facial features that are delicate, soft, or what our culture calls “cute”.

There are four loves:
Storge- Greek word for ‘affection” is fondness through familiarity (a brotherly love), especially between family members or people who have otherwise found themselves together by chance. It is described as the most natural, emotive, and widely diffused of loves: natural in that it is present without coercion; emotive because it is the result of fondness due to familiarity; and most widely diffused because it pays the least attention to those characteristics deemed “valuable” or worthy of love and, as a result, is able to transcend most discriminating factors.

Might that by any chance be the way you’re feeling?

We have three others, those being:

Philia – friendship

Eros – romance

and lastly

Agape – unconditional love

if you want to read more up on each of those, wikipedia “The Four Loves” By CS Lewis or pickup a copy at your library. Perhaps that will shed some light on whatever this might be.

Good luck! I’ll be praying along with you for this man’s salvation.

December 5, 2014 at 14:36


I think you love him, but not in the way that you think. You probably love him as a fellow brother and you want him to be adopted into the family of Christ. Maybe God did put his salvation on our heart because you care about him, jut not in the way that you think you do.

December 14, 2014 at 21:00
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