Hi girls. Just dropping by to get some relationship advice. Okay, okay, okay… First off, I’m a senior in high school and will be graduating this May. *Woot woot* I’m eighteen and have been dating my current boyfriend for almost a year (April 8th is our anniversary). We’ve had our ups and downs, only one actual fight. After two relationships filled with lies, infidelity, and verbal/emotional abuse (can you say wolf in sheeps clothing?) this guy is an absolute God send. He got saved a month or two after we began dating. We had both thought he was saved beforehand. Since then, I’ve seen a real change in him. I know he’s saved now because he produces the fruits of the Spirit. He’s a very respectful guy and treats me like a queen. Since dating him, we’ve both drawn closer to God together. Lemme tell you, I love this dude. We have similar interests, we make each other laugh, AND we have the same boundaries when it comes to our physical relationship. As we grow closer, I find myself picturing a life with him. I date with the idea of marriage in mind. Basically what I’m saying is, I think I’ve not only found a guy I could see myself marrying, I think he IS the guy. We’re both eighteen, we even have the same birthday. I know that’s awful young but believe me when I say he’s just about perfect. Although I haven’t shared all these feelings with him, we have exchanged ‘I love yous.’ So here’s my question, when is it okay to consider marriage with someone? I don’t intend on marrying him, like, tomorrow; however, would marrying him a year later be too early? Would we be too young? Please and thank you.
|February 15, 2015 at 18:42|
Well, first off, I’m super happy for you two! Sounds like a great, God-honoring relationship. (: As for your question… I honestly believe it depends on the couple. A girl a grade above me (she graduated last year) is getting married in the summer, and I think they’ll do well. For me personally, I wouldn’t want to until after college—financially-speaking, I’d like to put my money towards an education before thinking about starting a family. It’s between you, the guy, and God, but I would personally just keep dating the guy throughout college, then think about marriage afterwards. Maybe get a promise ring to show each other that this is serious and your intent is marriage—that way you don’t have to worry much about wedding plans (if that’s what you want). Do whatever you feel God is calling you to do, but do keep the logical side of things in mind.
God bless you and your boyfriend! (:
|February 15, 2015 at 22:21|
I definitely agree with everything freedomlights said. That is the same plan I have for myself, and a promise ring is a great idea 🙂
|February 16, 2015 at 07:47|
I think it depends on you.
|February 16, 2015 at 14:11|
I agree with waiting for the right time. I suggest going through marriage counseling or something like that before getting married though. and maybe talk to a pastor or trusted person in the church talk to your parents and most importantly TALK TO HIM ABOUT IT!!!!!!! lol hope this helps
|February 28, 2015 at 08:55|
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