Ok, so there’s this sweet, adorable kid I know from school. At my school last year, I was a super senior and he was a sophomore, so I saw him around. At the beginning of the year, I became friends with him on Facebook, then a couple months later on Instagram. I don’t know why I only really started seeing around more on the last week of school. The last days I was too shy and stupid to say anything. I saw him go to his locker and I was going to tap him on the shoulder and say something. Now I am more comfortable talking to new people- I really wish I was back then too. What was wrong with me? And I also know he would never have been mean to me. A while ago , someone posted a picture of him at his new job on Facebook and I messaged him and said “Congratulations on your new job.” I thought I was being nice, but he never responded. Anyway, a while after he followed me on Instagram, he started liking some of my pictures. Other times I would get a notification he liked one, then moments later, he would unlike it. Now he’s started liking them a lot more frequently. I wished him a happy birthday on Facebook and said I’ll see him when school starts, so maybe he’s starting to think of me as a friend or something? He also did post something like “This crazy dog followed me home today”. I asked him where the dog was, but he never replied to the comment. I thought it was reasonable to want to carry on a conversation but I don’t know. I saw him working at the movie theater the other day when I went with my friend. We were standing in line and Hayden was occasionally looking at me out of the corner of his eye. It could have been because I was looking at him too, but I noticed it even when I looked away and looked back. When we got closer to the counter, he quickly looked up at me from under his hair, then just as quickly looked down and touched his hair. I have a feeling he might like me now because of that and liking all my pictures in a row now. Or am I reading too much into this? I’m really sorry if I am. I’m not worried if he doesn’t like me back, I’m more worried he won’t respond on Facebook if I want to message him again or block me. I’ve wanted to say “How was your summer?” all summer but never did because of that. I’ll be a super senior next year again, but I won’t be at the school as much as I was last year. I’m really sad about that because I wanted to be friends with him and some other people. He’s so outgoing and I love people like that. I’ve asked my good friend Ashlee who’s friends with him if we could all hang out sometime, but she ignored it. Is there anything I can do?
|August 28, 2016 at 21:21|
Advice please and thank you for all your help
|August 28, 2016 at 21:32|
What a weird situation. You say he’s outgoing, but he won’t even respond to FB messages/comments? Sure, some people don’t check messages often, but it seems weird that he hasn’t replied at all. And even weirder about the photos.
If I were you, when school starts I would ask him how his summer was (in person). That way he has to respond. He might be shy around you for various reasons, even if he isn’t shy in general. There was a boy in my class last year who was dropping hints all year that he liked me–even our teacher caught on–but by natural response was to become more reserved around him. I think it was a mixture of my shy nature and the fact that my family is really traditional and has been telling me my whole life not to talk to boys…
If he doesn’t open up more to you when you talk directly to him, then I’d say move on. He’s either not interested in you or it’s not going to go anywhere. Save yourself the heartbreak.
And what is a super senior?
|August 29, 2016 at 08:49|
Thank you so much for responding! And thanks for the advice. Sadly, I won’t be at school in the mornings to walk around with everyone, but when I do see him I’ll definitely try! I thought he was outgoing because he’s in Broadway Company and he seemed outgoing with his friends. Does his shyness mean he likes me or do I just make people uncomfortable? He must have been shy at the movie theater when he looked down. I think he knows I’m older than him too. Why exactly do you think it’s weird about the pictures? I kind of get it, but I kind of don’t. Thanks for your example! It really helped! And a super senior means you can stay at the high school another year after your senior year if you need special academic help
|August 29, 2016 at 19:31|
Yeah..just because someone seems outgoing among their friends doesn’t necessarily mean they’re comfortable around new (or new-ish) people. And if he senses that you like him, he might feel more embarrassed or self conscious than usual…that’s a pretty normal response 🙂 It probably is just that, so I wouldn’t worry.
I was referring to the liking and then unliking thing he was doing on Instagram…I don’t know why someone would do that.
So yeah! Try to make small talk when you’re around him (I know, small talk is terrible, isn’t it? :P) but don’t feel bad if he doesn’t seem to be taking the hints; it’s not your fault.
Glad I could help! 🙂 Feel free to post back again if anything new happens with this 😉
|August 29, 2016 at 19:44|
Errrr, as far as the pics go, I’ve done that if I feel awkward about it. Sometimes people feel like if they like a picture some time after it was posted that it’s creepy or something. So maybe that was it??
Omggggg ok. So there was this guy I reallllllly liked but um, not only did I not talk with him, I avoided him because I was so scared of him 😛 Like Nino, my family is super conservative and told me all sorts of terrible things about boys hahaha (well it wasn’t funny at the time but it sort of is now) plus I was super stressed about some stuff at the time so I just couldn’t be outgoing. People have all sorts of things going on in life, I doubt it’s solely because of you. It could be his nature, family issues, or whatever. Just keep being friendly and if it’s meant to be it’ll happen 🙂
|August 29, 2016 at 20:29|
Thanks friends! You both helped so much! I usually think everything is my fault, but I realize that’s not true. I feel bad he probably senses I like him. Is there anything I can do to fix that? I probably will be scared of him now like AdventureGirl was because I’m more comfortable when someone responds to me on Facebook first. When people I just met do that, it gives me hope for a friendship and makes my day. Like if I friended my friend Natalie’s friend on Facebook, who might not know me so well, but she’s super nice and responds to me. Then we become friends. Why can’t it be as easy as that? It’s so frustrating I can’t talk to him on Facebook or Instagram 🙁 Should I try saying something or not? If he did respond, I think we could be good friends
|August 29, 2016 at 23:40|
There’s no reason to feel bad about him knowing that you like him. He’s probably flattered! (and probably embarrassed, but that’s kind of inevitable 😀 ) There’s nothing wrong with you liking him, so don’t act like it’s a big secret or something you should be embarrassed about. You being embarrassed will just make him feel more awkward. (ahem…speaking from experience here… lol 😀 )
I totally understand that making a connection online is less scary. But the truth is, some people don’t use their social media very regularly (or even if they’re often scrolling through it, they might never check their messages) so sometimes you need to get to know them in real life. I know it’s scary, but it really only gets easier with practice! 🙂 I’d say that’s your best bet at this point (since he hasn’t replied online). Doesn’t have to be anything big. You can start with just smiling at him in the hallway. If he seems to respond well to that, then go up to him and start a conversation one day. (Don’t delay too long…the “How was your summer?” line is an easy one to get a conversation going with haha 😉 )
|August 30, 2016 at 09:37|
Don’t feel bad that you sense that he likes you, that’s good! The guy I liked probably thought I hated him. (Well hopefully not, but I’m pretty sure he had no clue I liked him but I wish he had) 😛
So anyway, yeah, just be friendly, go up to him and say hi, and if you do wait to long to use Nino’s question (about the summer) just ask him how classes are going, what he’s taking etc.
Don’t put a whole lot of pressure on this “beginning” conversation. Most likely you won’t jump to being BFFs (or BF/GF 😉 ) from a quick conversation, but it’s a start!
|August 30, 2016 at 10:45|
That’s awesome! Thank you 🙂 Unfortunately I do not see him at school a lot because I’m not there that long and then I go to my internship at the hospital. I was thinking of asking one of our friends if we could all hang out together or asking him if we can. I’m going to wait until I feel comfortable doing that and then I will let you guys know how it went
|September 8, 2016 at 16:06|
I think you should definitely ask your friends if you all can hang out! Since you don’t see him at school, it’d be the opportunity you’ve been waiting for 😀 I’ll wait for the update 😉
|September 8, 2016 at 18:21|
Aww thank you so much!!! It means so much you think this will all go well! It gives me hope. I did text my friend Aleah and ask. She seemed open to asking him but didn’t yet. She was amazing because she didn’t make me feel embarrassed or bad about it. Do you think he would still want to hang out with me if he doesn’t see me a lot?
|September 21, 2016 at 16:28|
Wow this post is older than I thought, but my two cents is not to bet on anything…The only evidences you have is that he liked a few pictures and looked at you once or twice, and he never responded to your comments, so…:/
|September 21, 2016 at 16:47|
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