So I have started attending a new church ten months ago and I have warmed up to the youth groups, staff, and leaders here. I have made many new friends and have been pursuing God more than ever before. I am seventeen and still have thoughts on what I want to do for college. Things have turned out very well for me. God has been guiding me step by step on where I need to be and I am happy about that. But there is one slight problem. I have a crush on the guy EVERY other girl likes. He is charming and has the greatest personality. I haven’t seen a negative in him yet. I haven’t had the chance to have a big conversation with him, but we have had small talk. He has this wonderful life with God and he is patient when it comes to girls and dating. He is very handsome for sure, but I don’t see that. I see the way he spends his life for God and pursues him. Everyone knows I like him except HIM. And the sad part is, he is 21. I prayed and prayed to ask God why I feel this way. And many have told me “Maybe God is giving you an example on what he wants you to pursue” or “Maybe it’s a distraction” or even “Maybe God wants you to pray for him.” And ladies, I have done all of that and beyond. I have prayed about him, for him, an answer on what I should do, I have stayed silent, prayed for reasoning behind the silence, and nothing happens. I have gotten no where. So I don’t know if God wants me to be patient, or if I should go for it. And last night, my mom told me that maybe I should just admit to him how I feel so I am able to let go? I just don’t want to risk that unless God wants me to.
|April 24, 2015 at 13:20|
I’d say that if you’ve prayed on it, and you don’t feel like God has given you any indicator on why you SHOULDN’T date, then I’d tell him how you feel. Honestly, he may reject you and say that he’s not interested. That’s scary, I know, but it’s the truth. I’ve had it happen to me on more than one occasion, but I’ve never given up. And who knows? He may say that he’s really interested in you, too, and it may work out. My suggestion is to wait until you’re 18 before you take anything seriously. By that, I mean that if he does want to date you, maybe suggest group dates or double dates. I know that may seem unromantic, but it’s just a precaution. Plus, it’ll be a good opportunity for the both of you to see how each other one-on-one interactions with other people. And you’ll be more excited when you go on an exclusive date together. I’m only sixteen and never been on a date before, so I’m not exactly sure how helpful this will be. I’ve just observed my friends’ relationships and noticed that when precautions weren’t in place, damage was done emotionally. I don’t want you to have to go through that. Hope this helps and good luck!
|April 25, 2015 at 04:22|
so you didn’t say how old you are and im guessing your under 18 cuz u said it was a problem that you like him. I am in the same situation right now except hes 24 and im 15. I would really pray about it. maybe he is the man your going to end up with maybe not BUT DO NOT…tell him u like him. if ur under 18 it is not only illegal but if he does like you it could make him uncomfortable cuz he cant tell you that so either way your going to be rejected. now if ur 18 or older I still wouldn’t tell him because in the bible it says the woman is ment to be chased not the other way around. especially if he’s a solid Christian guy he will want to do the chasing. hope this helped!
|April 25, 2015 at 19:57|
Thank you girls!! I feel like I’ll wait a little longer until my birthday comes up. Maybe it’s best if I try and get to know him more before I say how I feel?
|April 25, 2015 at 22:10|
That’s probably a better plan. Sorry, I didn’t realize that was illegal. I only knew that it was illegal to be involved with a MUCH older guy. Glad kylie15 explained that!
|April 26, 2015 at 15:35|
I agree with carolinereinhart1. I think it is better to tell the guy how you feel, even if it is terrifying. The last thing you want is to continue having feelings for a guy who doesn’t feel the same way or to regret not telling him how you felt because you didn’t have the courage. Look, if he says yes to going out with you, that’s great but if he says no, it is fine because God has some other plan that is better for you and it will help you to move on:) Just keep remembering that God has your best interests at heart:) Please update us ( if you wish) with the decision you have decided to do and how that all goes:) Good luck!
|April 26, 2015 at 21:21|
Oh wow! I didn’t realise that it was illegal either:0 Wait till you are 18 THEN maybe tell him how you feel 🙂 Do take time to get to know him as a friend in group settings 🙂
|April 27, 2015 at 13:40|
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