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Hockey Player…How Can I Be A Witness?

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MandaPanda18

MandaPanda18

Alright ladies, I need help. I’m not sure how many of you will be able to relate to this, but I figured I’d give it a shot.
I love hockey. I love everything about it, from the chill you get when you first step into the arena, to the pulsing beat of the music as the guys take to the ice to warm up, to the way the jumbo-tron flashes stats across its screen, to the actual intense and gripping play. My university’s D1 hockey team is doing fabulously this season. We’re ranked very high in our conference and actually have a shot at making it to nationals. This is the best season our program has had since the 80s, so it’s a pretty big deal both on campus and in the community. That being said, the players are under a huge spotlight right now – they’re basically celebrities at times.
I’m friends with a few of the players. I’ve met them in the dining hall or in class, and I see them everywhere. The one that I really know, though, is our nationally ranked 1st string goalie. I met him at the end of last year in the hallway while we were both waiting for our classes to start. I recognized him from the games, so I introduced myself and we had a nice conversation. We hit it off really well and ended up messaging on FB and then texting for hours on end over the course of the summer. He’s nothing like the negative stereotypes that hockey players tend to embody – he’s one of the nicest, most intelligent guys I’ve ever met, and he’s a total sweetheart.
Back at school, and between his busy practice schedule, my work schedule, and both of our studying (he’s premed and I’m engineering management), we never see each other. We don’t hang out – which is I guess fine because we still talk – but I see him occasionally on campus. He’s always really nice and whatnot, but I feel like we’re drifting apart since he’s been so busy. We’re also not in the same social crowds – whenever he has a little bit of free time he goes to parties and whatnot, and he goes to the bar with some of the other older guys on the team, while I don’t party at all.
I’m not sure how clearly I’m explaining all of this, but I really want to be a witness to him. While we’re friends and we text and stuff, I feel that lately it’s been a little awkward talking to him. We don’t joke around as much as we used to, and a lot of times it feels like I’m the only one who’s invested in the conversation. The only things we really talk about now are hockey and school, which is really frustrating when I think about everything we used to talk about.
I want to be a witness to him, but I’m not sure how when we barely seem to be talking normally as it is. During the summer we had a few conversations about Christianity, and while he respects that I’m a Christian, he says that religion just isn’t for him. I worked at a Christian camp, and we joked about him stopping by on his way back from his home in Canada to our university for the summer class he was taking, and he said something to the extent of “I don’t think God would be too happy with me being there”.
He doesn’t seem to dispel all acknowledgement of God, but he doesn’t believe, either. This is where I’m stuck. How can I be a witness to him without shoving Jesus at him? I want to get through to him, even if it’s just on a friends level again, but I feel like I can do more than that. I believe God put us in that hallway alone together last year to meet for a reason. I believe that I am meant to seek him out and be a witness to him, especially with all this attention the team has been getting lately. I just don’t know what to do.
I appreciate any advice that you lovely girls can give!! Feel free to ask for clarification if I confused you. Thanks!

February 11, 2015 at 02:52
SlinkyKitty88

SlinkyKitty88

Sounds like he’s dropping hints that he doesn’t WANT you to witness to him. Were you trying to witness when he became distant?

It’s entirely possible that he’s had bad experiences with Christians shoving their religion down his throat.
My advice is to just be his friend. Don’t bring your religion up. You can show your faith through your actions. If he asks about it, great! You can talk about it. Otherwise, I’d let it be, at least until you know him super well.

February 12, 2015 at 12:38
MandaPanda18

MandaPanda18

We haven’t talked about my faith since the summer, and it wasn’t until recently that he’s started becoming distant. I really just think it’s because he’s been really busy. I make it a point not to shove my religious views on anyone, so it’s not that. I’m just confused, although when the team gets back from this weekend’s series he and I are going to go get coffee together (just as friends). So I guess that’s a step in the right direction again.

February 12, 2015 at 15:49
SlinkyKitty88

SlinkyKitty88

I’m sure you weren’t shoving, but he may be afraid that you might.
Yay! Hope things go well!

February 12, 2015 at 20:43
BridgetteMarie21

BridgetteMarie21

I get the impression that he’s unsure of the whole God thing. Guys are weird like that especially in this kind of situation. Keep being their keep hanging out with him and texting him. So many guys like him who play hockey and other sports at an elite level (college, juniors, pros) have a hard time trusting people out of fear that they’re only befriending them because they’re famous or going to be. Google Hockey Ministries International, my boyfriend’s last junior team had a chaplain from the ministry for the team and the organization is amazing and they have a lot of good blog posts. If you feel like you have a good opportunity to talk to no about it again do it!! Always stress the point that God loves everyone no matter what he wise that’s so important especially in this type of situation. What school do you go to? They might have a chaplain from HMI that comes to games and if they do he or she would be a great person to talk to about it!

March 20, 2015 at 05:57
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