hi let me just get straight to the point. I met the person im going to marry and I can tell he feels the same way to.(don’t ask me to explain cuz its long and I cant really explain it) there are a couple reasons why I cant court him now(don’t ask me to explain) but I was just wondering how is he supposed to treat you, act around you, and can help me figure out if its God telling me or something else. I feel a peace around when im with him and safe (witch is not normal for me because guys have hurt me in all kinds of ways in the past so I don’t trust them) I hope this makes sense…haha
|March 21, 2015 at 12:11|
Hello again, Kylie. I remember you from an earlier thread you posted about the twenty-four-year-old. I’d recommend taking a look at the replies there; I, along with several others, gave you advice that I think you should consider.
So…you’re fifteen. At that age, it’s very difficult to know with certainty whom you are going to marry. It’s one thing to imagine what your wedding will be like, but it’s another thing entirely to say, “THIS is the guy I’m going to marry. I just know it.” Especially if you are still very young. It’s a very serious claim, and it should only be made by someone mature enough to handle its implications.
There are lots of fish in the sea, Kylie. And you are only fifteen. Could it be possible that you’ve mistaken your feelings for God’s voice? Especially since, as evidenced by your last post, you’ve thought you were destined to marry different young men before.
I’d encourage you to stop worrying so much about whom you are going to marry. God will work everything out in His time. Why the rush? Instead of trying to get young men to focus on you, redirect their focus to God.
|March 23, 2015 at 08:20|
I completely agree with eloquence. And I read that other thread too. Marriage is ALOT more than people consider. There’s money, kids, housing, insurance, and much much more. Not to mention faithfulness. When you get married, you’re committing yourself to that ONE person for the rest of your LIFE! Marriage is a HUGE deal and shouldnt be taken lightly at all. So, at 15 years old, my best advice to you is to not think about it at all. I mean you can pray about it for the future and all, but focus on God and school and your friends and family.
|March 23, 2015 at 11:06|
yes I know and completely understand were you are coming from but he is the one and I have only thought I was going to marry 1 other person not “many” and I have read all the other comments and I am not worrying about this so much and the only reason why I thought I was going to marry someone else is because I realized God had that happen for a reason to show me what love really ment.
|March 23, 2015 at 11:37|
I never used the word “many” when making the point about you thinking you were going to marry different guys. However, when I posted on the other thread, I did use a direct quote from you (from the other post):
“I have thought I was going to marry guys in the past but this is different I just know and he knows to [sic]”
The plural word ‘guys’ gave me the impression that it was more than one other guy. But that’s more of a pedantic thing, and not worth the energy. What is worth my energy, though, is the principle of the thing: whether with one other guy or several, you have misinterpreted your feelings before. I’m just here to give you a word of caution. Throwing around the idea that something is absolutely, definitely God’s will is – as I’ve said – not to be done recklessly. Let’s not jump to premature conclusions.
I can see that you’re still very convinced that this guy is, without a shadow of a doubt, “The One.” That’s a dangerous view to have. It gives you tunnel vision. When you’re nineteen and are in a position to realistically pursue marriage? Then it’s a different story. You, however, are still years away from that. My advice to you would be to put your “The One syndrome” to the side for now. Maybe this guy is the man you’ll marry; maybe he isn’t. Don’t be so resolute about your belief that he is the man you are destined to marry. It can lead to a lot of heartbreak in the future.
|March 23, 2015 at 18:38|
thank you for your advice
|March 24, 2015 at 09:57|
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