Hi guys! There are some people who I have had a really hard time forgiving. I’ll just give a little back story.
6 years ago my family moved so that we could start a church in a rural county. For the first 2 years it was going great! But after a while my family started carrying alot of the load. Many people who helped us with the church left and put everything on our shoulders and we really started to get tired. After a while the members in our church started to gossip about our family, saying that we weren’t fit for leadership and our friends started to abandon us. It felt like we gave up everything for people who just threw it in the trash. Eventually my mother took the brunt of the gossip, even getting cornered at a meeting and getting bullied. After 5 years of starting the church we couldn’t continue because it felt like it was killing us. So we decided to move back home and give up our position in the church. This year has been fantastic, but my family has been healing from our time there ever since. Our faith in God has also never wavered, if anything we are stronger now.
I feel very angry towards the people there for ruining my happy family. Especially to the people who hurt my mom. I don’t want to, and I know it’s wrong, but I have been having a really hard time forgiving those people. My family is finally feeling happy and we are almost at the place we used to be at. It just has been really hard to love those who hurt my family.
How do I forgive them? Or how can I work towards forgivness? It’s just so difficult. How do I get over all this anger and hatred?
|March 17, 2016 at 13:38|
You yourself said this struggle has made you stronger. As for forgiving, well, force yourself to. I know that sounds crazy, but don’t give yourself another option. Just say to yourself “you know, there are some people who have wronged me and my family, but i am not going to hold onto any anger I have towards them”. Think of it as liberating yourself..that’s what forgiveness is. Give them the benefit of the doubt, pray for them, and focus on finding peace within yourself. Finally, this probably isn’t what you want to hear, but there are people out there who have it much, much worse. Give yourself that reality check from time to time.
|March 22, 2016 at 10:08|
I enjoyed reading your topic because I can totally relate. I’m from a missionary family myself and several years ago, nearly the same thing happened to my sister and I [yes, my sister is a woman pastor]. It has been so tough and has broken my heart in so many ways, no words can describe it. I’m still struggling with forgiving those individuals who hurt us (especially my sister who is an amazing and praiseworthy woman of God actually) because I just can’t let go. So I can relate to you very well. How about we pray for each other? Since we know what it’s like we could pray for each other well. Let me know!
|March 25, 2016 at 10:54|
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