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How do I make it clear that I just want to be friends?

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vanilla

vanilla

So there’s this guy at my college, and we participate in an extracurricular together. He’s a Christian, nice, and fun to be around. I enjoy spending time with him. I really can’t see myself being in a serious relationship with him though. I’m concerned that he might like me. How do I let him know that I just see him as a friend?
Side note: He teases me sometimes and I find myself smiling or laughing because I enjoy being teased. I don’t want to just stop smiling at him or anything, but I’m concerned that he might take it the wrong way (especially if he’s trying to read this situation as closely as I am!).
Another side note: I might be reading way too much into all of this so I don’t want to walk up to him and directly tell him “I don’t like you” or anything like that.. I just don’t want to give off the vibe that there’s something there when there isn’t.
Any advice? Also, I realize this post might have been a confusing mess, so if you need clarification, please ask. 🙂

November 27, 2014 at 23:49
MandaPanda18

MandaPanda18

You could go for the subtle friend-zoning or brother-zoning. I’m not really one for game playing and am usually just straight forward with people, but that’s my personality and I don’t mind the awkward situations that sometimes come from that.

I’ve used it before, though, on several occasions. I go to a university with a 3:1 guy/girl ratio, and a lot of the guys have a hard time separating me being friendly from me interested. A simple “I’m so glad I have such a great friend like you! You’re like a brother to me!” would probably suffice. Or you could go a step further and say something like “If I could pick a brother I would definitely pick you!”

It may sound weird or underhanded, but it’s an easy out without having to tell him that you don’t like him. I hope this helps! 🙂

November 28, 2014 at 07:55
vanilla

vanilla

Dang, what college do you go to where there’s a 3:1 guy/girl ratio? 🙂
And yeah, I might have to drop the “friend” bomb or something like that sometime…

November 28, 2014 at 09:58
MandaPanda18

MandaPanda18

Vanilla, I go to Michigan Technological University. We have a saying where we’re from, though: The odds are good but the goods are odd! 😛
The guys are really great though, I’ve made some lasting friendships that I wouldn’t trade for anything. 🙂

November 28, 2014 at 17:36
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