How do you know you are in love, and when you can honestly say it to your boyfriend/girlfriend? People say it all the time, and there are movies and books revolving around it, but how do you actually know? And what is it exactly?
|January 11, 2015 at 22:08|
Well I would first off read 1 corinthians 13 to understand the meaning of love.So many people get it mixed up with lust alot of times.I would just honestly say it when you know that you to are getting serious to actually avoid heart ache.I would also make sure that you two are ready for the commitment of love for a long time.I know this from my personal experience I have experienced a lot of heart aches because of guys that have done that to me before.I would also let him say it to you first so that you know that he is actually truelly in love with you.
|January 13, 2015 at 05:41|
I believe that romantic love is a feeling to start with. And that feeling is very undeniable. When you meet the person God picks for you you know right? Then love becomes a choice for both you because saying I love you is a commitment. So if your ready to say that you see a future in your relationship then you should do it.
|January 15, 2015 at 16:42|
|January 16, 2015 at 17:36|
I would say there are three things that would determine when it’s time to say the three words that are taken too lightly in our culture.
|January 17, 2015 at 18:40|
I agree with godisamazing and signergirl about the 1Corinthians 13. Love is definitely deeper than kissing and anything physical for sure. To an extent i think you should picture if you werent allowed to touch the person, would just being with them be enough?
|January 17, 2015 at 23:57|
Good question… I wonder about this a lot, so I myself can’t really give you a straight up answer, but I can try to help you out! 🙂
There are four types of love (in Greek): 1. Storge, or affection, 2. Philia, or friendship, 3. Eros, or romance, 4. and finally….. Agape, or unconditional love.
Since most of your question is asking about guidance/knowing (I struggle with this a lot as I doubt my own ability to discern), I would just say this: Pray a lot and ask God to show you when you should enter into a relationship. HE has the best plan and will bring people into your life as He pleases; trust in that plan. A lot of times, movies and books can be deceiving in that they portray mere infatuation or lust and not actual love. As for the “whether-or-not-you-are-boyfriend/girlfriend” thing, talk to the guy and see what he thinks about it. Some people consider themselves boyfriend/girlfriend after the first date, others consider themselves bf/gf after a long time of knowing each other/dating each other. That’s more of a personal conviction or preference thing. @Signergirl did a great job of summarizing three ways to know whether or not it’s time to say the words. 🙂
|January 18, 2015 at 10:26|
It’s taken me a while to really understand what love is, it wasn’t until I had been in love with my best friend for nearly a year that I realized I loved him. I thought I loved my ex, but there was a difference between him and my best friend. Things with my boyfriend were intense and happened in the blink of an eye, but it wasn’t love, it was just the infatuation stage. That’s the way I see it, two separate stages. The first is infatuation; it may last anywhere from a couple weeks to several months. You’re completely captivated by this person, you think they’re amazing, you can’t get enough of them, you feel incomplete without them, they are your everything. You want nothing more than to be with them at all times. This is the stage most people confuse with true love, and after the infatuation ends if you don’t truly love the person you will feel next to nothing to just simple friend love for them. That’s why I feel many young marriages don’t last, people rush into marriage thinking this infatuation is love and when it ends without true love staying, they say “I don’t love you anymore” and break off the relationship.
|January 28, 2015 at 10:59|
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