I really like this guy, and I want to talk to him more.We are part of a group chat together on Facebook,but outside of that we don’t really talk to each other, even though we see each other at least twice a week. I want to be able to talk to him without boring him,or seeming like a creeper. But I don’t know how to. I am very shy and introverted and it takes a lot of effort to talk at all, so I am at a loss right now. Any input would be greatly appreciated. Thanks! 🙂
|April 5, 2015 at 21:32|
“Hey, how’s your week going?” Boom. Words.
|April 13, 2015 at 00:47|
Well, I’m actually pretty good friends with the guy I like, but in conversation, usually I just say what pops into my head first (within reason of course). Sometimes it makes sense, sometimes it doesn’t…. but when it doesn’t he usually will laugh and then follow it up with something that makes even less sense. Just talk to him like a person! Once conversation starts, the awkwardness starts to fade. Just smaile and say hi, then if he smiles back, follow it up with anything (again, within reason)! (This might not work as much for you, because I’m pretty extroverted and can be loud, but you cold give it a shot! 🙂 )
|April 13, 2015 at 09:05|
What @InsanityPrincess said. But I am also an introvert, so I understand your pain. But the older I’ve gotten the more I’ve realized just be yourself and don’t worry about impressing him, because if he isn’t impressed with the real you what’s the point anyway? So if your into movies make a movie reference to try and start a conversation, if you love to read ask him if he likes reading, if you are a music buff ask him about that. Start with “hi” and go from there, baby steps. If your first few conversations are short that’s fine, just think about how friendships usually start, very slowly. Just act as if you are building a friendship and if something is supposed to come of it, it will.
|April 13, 2015 at 09:39|
I’ve found that starting off small works. A hey when you see each other goes a long way. If you say hello every time you see each other it will become routine for both of you, then simply start graduating it with a how it going, or what are you up to today, etc. this slowly builds relationship, and makes the person’s mind like you, so when they see you they automatically think ‘I like them they are a friend, I can trust them’ giving a sense of comfort. Sorry if this seems creepy, I promise it’s not, it’s just psychology.
|June 21, 2015 at 20:45|
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