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I’m not sure if this would qualify as a relationship question but I’m going to throw it out here anyway.
I’m currently a graduating senior in high school (I graduate in twenty days!) and took some classes at our local college this past semester. There was one guy in my classes who I already kind of knew of (he played on the hockey team first semester) and we kind of hit if off last week in the library and walked to class together and stuff and now I think I’m catching some feelings for him.
The problem is he’s going to be 22 in September and I won’t be eighteen until December. Is that too much of a stretch? It’s not like we’re going to do anything inappropriate or anything, I just don’t know if I should ignore my feelings until it’s “Legal” or go for it?

April 30, 2015 at 10:18
Winged Eloquence

Winged Eloquence

Well, first of all: is he a Christian? Is his love for God very evident in his life? If he isn’t a Christian – and isn’t wholeheartedly committed to the Lord – then it doesn’t matter if he’s a million years older than you, or even if he’s your same age. It wouldn’t be wise for you to pursue him.

Now, about the age gap: four years isn’t a big deal at all. I know several married couples who are ten years apart and happy as clams. Regarding the problem of you not being eighteen until December, I’d say that you should spend some time praying about this. Get to know him more. Talk about the issue with your parents. Don’t just ignore those feelings – confront them. Ask God for wisdom. Your parents should be able to help you make the right decision as well.

April 30, 2015 at 11:57
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I don’t really see that as a problem if he is a good respectful guy and if he has the right intentions. The guy I’m seeing is almost 5 years older then I am and so far there isn’t a problem. You are in different stages of your lives though so do keep that in mind. He’s old enough to drink and probably has more freedom then you and that could lead to friction.
But do not stress to bad over an age gap like that because then you may miss out on getting to know a great guy!

April 30, 2015 at 17:27


Thanks @wingedeloquence and @rinnierose, I appreciate it and apologize for not replying sooner! 🙂 Unfortunately, he went back home for the summer, so I can’t see him until school starts again at the end of August 🙁 I really appreciate your advice though!!

May 19, 2015 at 09:43
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