Hello lovelies! While debates haven’t been getting too huffy lately, the forums are picking up speed again, so I thought it’d be time for a reminder on the–important–basics of friendly, thoughtful debates. 🙂 A debate can either be a rude, upsetting, eye-roll-inducing pain in the patootie, or it can be an interesting, eye-opening, beneficial way to grow in communicating with others and defending your beliefs. I’m sure we can all agree by now that we’d rather have the latter. 😉 So here are some handy-dandy ways to keep it considerate:
1. Always go into debates with an open mind; not necessarily because you will change your mind about something, but because you will almost always have to think about things you never have before. You may think you’ve been asked every question possible, but there’s often another stumping one coming. 🙂
2. Never make assumptions about your fellow debaters, their beliefs, or their intentions. Firstly, it’s a bit harder doing things over the internet, as things can get misinterpreted. Secondly, even in person, you never truly know someone’s heart, which is why the right to judge applies to God and only God. Thirdly, it’s easier to assume someone is bashing you or being sassy, but 99% of the time, that’s not true, so *always* assume the best of people and their intentions, which bring us to number…
3. Never type a reply while you’re even a little bit upset. Being angry or upset will cloud your ability to think and therefore weaken your argument, as well as start a whole lot of unnecessary drama. I know–trust me, I KNOW 😉 –that a LOT of the time, a sassy, “I’m sick of it/you”, bashing reply is far more appealing than a kind, well-worded reply, but it will never end better for you. As soon as you choose the former, you have chosen to tear down instead of building up with your words, you have broken guideline #2 ;), and your argument is in danger of being written off. Trust me when I say, it’s better to wait until your mind is clear and you can think of a respectful, convincing way to reply to the comment or argue your case. 🙂
4. Always remember that there is always the chance you’re wrong. Obviously, you believe what you believe because you have evidence and reason to believe it; however, we are human, and we can’t all be right. So, I’m not saying back down from your argument, but I am saying, don’t assume that your argument can have no flaws and your way is the only way and if you don’t believe it my way then you’re not a Christian and–
5. Simply but vitally, always build up with your words instead of tearing down with them. How do you know if your words will build up or tear down? Think about how you would feel if someone said them to you.
6. Don’t always judge someone’s argument by how intelligently they sound/speak/type. Some arguments may seem less convincing when there are typos, but this is a site for teenage girls, and while most of us don’t have a PhD, each person’s thoughts still deserve to be respected and considered. Or, as I prefer to put it, I don’t ask that you respect my belief, but I do ask that you respect me enough not to belittle my belief.
That’s about all, feel free to add any guidelines you feel are necessary for a considerate debate; thanks for reading! 🙂
|May 31, 2015 at 18:24|
Yes! Thanks Mandi!
|May 31, 2015 at 19:40|
Yes Yes Yes
|June 1, 2015 at 07:59|
You did a good job of explaining that, Mandi! 🙂 I do wanna leave this video here, though. Just to be clear: It’s definitely not to replace what you said, I just think it adds to it.
|June 1, 2015 at 16:04|
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