Please do not judge:( I am well-meaning!! I am writing this question on behalf of one of my friends who is confused about this topic:0 By the way, sorry if I use the term ‘homosexual’ for describing people with attractions to the same sex. I mean it kindly and do not mean to offend anyone:)
So.. here’s the story. My friend is a Christian ( obviously!) and she is very passionate about spread the gospel of Jesus to many different people. One of her friends is lesbian and has been asking my friend questions about Jesus and has been having a desire to know God, go to church and etc. That”s awesome right!
However, my friend really wants to spread the gospel in a loving way towards homosexuality but she is not sure how to approach the subject. Should she spread the gospel to Jesus ( Jesus loves us, died for our sins, resurected from the dead, willing to give eternal life) and not approach the homosexuality issue? What if her friend asks her questions about the Christian view of homosexuality? How should my friend approach the subject in a kind and loving manner?
Thanks for taking time to read this:)
|February 4, 2015 at 19:35|
She should minister to her just like she would anyone else. Be her friend, invite her to church, etc. Don’t bring up being a lesbian unless she does, because there’s so much more to her than that, and that’s not her identity.
|February 5, 2015 at 08:26|
^ Yes. That. If she brings up homosexuality right away, I can almost promise you that it will scare her off. Christians have a bad rep among LGTB people and supporters because we are often thought to be completely against homosexuality and not all of us are. Your friend definitely doesn’t want to make her think that she has to make a choice between Christianity and homosexuality, cause they can definitely go together.
|February 5, 2015 at 16:06|
Resident Lesian Here. Yeah, she shouldn’t bring it up unless the girl in question does, or else, no matter the intention, it’ll feel like an attack and that can make a lot of people feel scared and unsafe.
|February 5, 2015 at 17:06|
Unfortunately today in our world, people can get offended and feel attacked by the smallest things. From your side, you may want to jump ahead a million steps and say that what they’re doing is wrong. Just by saying that, you can repel anyone. They humans just like you, but how would you feel if you were in their shoes? You’d walk away from anyone shoving the bible in your face, too. But it’s the best thing you can do, telling someone about God—even if they choose not to accept it. God has great timing, He plans everything. He has a way of getting to everyone even if they don’t realize it! Leave it to Him, he’s the only one that knows each person inside and out. He knows their thoughts, their past, their future—it’s amazing! If you want to be apart of their lives and nudge them towards God, don’t mention their homosexuality or their sins. It’s God’s job to truly correct them, not ours—our only job is to influence and reflect God’s love and patience.
So like Broken Vessel said up there in the comments, talk to homosexuals as you would every other person. Invite them to church, show them love and acceptance. That’s what God would do. He doesn’t cast out anyone, he doesn’t forget or forsake anyone. Remind them of that. In fact, remind everyone of that. 🙂
|February 8, 2015 at 15:44|
I am Christian and attracted to the same-sex. I appreciate the gentleness of your post. There is much confusion about being homosexual and gay marriage. It’s important that one recognizes that the bible never calls a person sinful simply for being attracted to the same sex, because they cannot help that. What it talks about is sexual acts and marriage. So her friend does not need to be told of her sin simply for being attracted to other women. That’s like calling someone sinful for being attracted to men. We are all sinful beings. If she’s in a relationship, that’s of course a choice, and therefore a bit different. But I would say to not talk about that part of her. Because God loves her just as she is, and she needs to know that first and foremost. The importance of loving others is talked about far more in the Bible, than us needing to judge other’s sinful nature. Our love should not be conditional based on what we believe to be another’s sin, we should strive to love unconditionally just as Jesus did.
Christianity is not a religion that is under conditions. Christ’s love covers all. I believe in showing her this, and allow the Holy Spirit to guide her with what is sinful through her own study of the scriptures.
I like to compare the supposed “sin” of same-sex attraction to other sins. If you met someone asking about Jesus, would you first tell them: “Your lusting is a sin, you need to stop being jealous of others, God does not like when you gossip, etc.” You would never want to start with that. Homosexuality is not a deal breaker. In fact, there are many sins that are talked about much more in the bible.
Let me know if you have any further questions. If you’re interested, I posted part of my experience: http://www.projectinspired.com/girl-talk/topic/im-christian-and-gay-2/
|February 9, 2015 at 02:40|
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