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AlishaGirl95

AlishaGirl95

So I know all the typical just be yourself, if he doesn’t respond don’t force it etc etc.
I’m just honestly really bad at talking to guys.
I have this dude I moderately know from church and he’s kinda amazing and he’s a real rock as a Christian and funny and he kinda keeps coming back into my life and I kinda want to persue something possibly with him.
But we’re both away for the summer (I’m working at HC bible camp and he’s doing worship ministry with his band around the country). So I wanna keep in touch over text.
I’ve had a couple decent conversations but it always fizzles out (which isn’t a big deal).
But I never know how to strike up an actual conversation past “hey how’s it going?”
So any tips on good questions to ask or just ways to get chatting? He’s not a very outgoing guy with texting so he won’t necessarily text me first.

July 28, 2015 at 18:00
Marcy

Marcy

I used to have so much trouble with this. It takes practice. The more you do it, the easier and more comfortable you’ll find it. The fact that you like him will make it more awkward. Don’t let that deter you, though–You almost certainly feel WAY more awkward then you sound. There’s something about liking a guy that makes me always feel like I’m saying the wrong thing in front of him. Ask him open questions about how his life is–ask him how the band’s going, how’s traveling, where has he been visiting, what he’s been doing, anything that gets a conversation going. If you know of anything he likes or is interested in, ask him about that. (If you don’t know, do a little internet stalking to get a feel for what he likes, though don’t make it obvious you’ve done your homework on him.) I would also really recommend Dale Carnegie’s book How to Make Friends and Influence People. It’s a great book on conversation and talking to people.

July 29, 2015 at 01:12
Petunia

Petunia

Hi! I actually wrote a blog post about this. Here’s the link!
https://damselsdigress.wordpress.com/2015/06/25/5-tips-for-becoming-a-better-conversationalist/
Other than those tips, which I hope you find helpful, some stuff specifically for texting. If you come across something that the two of you have talked about or have in common, send it to him. For example, if you guys have talked about his music before, send him a picture of a cool guitar. That can be a conversation starter that doesn’t seem very pushy. The key is really to get it started, and then to ask the right questions. Over text, keep it light. You said he’s funny. Tease him, if he can take it. Guys like that, and it’s pretty fun. Good luck!

August 25, 2015 at 15:08
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