Hi ladies! 🙂
I am eagerly accepting any and all advice/comments as I prepare to make one of the toughest decisions of my life to date: where to go to college this fall. I’ve narrowed it down to two completely different schools, which you would think would make it an easy decision, but both are so great in their different ways and I am completely stuck.
The first college is a small, charming Christian university four hours from home. My parents hate how far away it is but love the campus otherwise. My main concerns are that a) the academics aren’t rigorous enough for the mind God has blessed me with, and b) it will be too similar to the suffocatingly perfect little Christian homeschooler bubble I’ve lived my whole life in.
The second school is my state’s biggest public university with a nationally respected honors program that I’ve been accepted into. The distance from home is perfect and I would absolutely love the academic challenge and like-minded students. But my parents are worried about the partying and immorality (coed dorms) and hostility to Christians, even among what they say would be a slightly better group in the honors program.
In other words, I have to choose between the comfort and atmosphere of the Christian university and the academic rigor and opportunities (and, to be honest, much more excitement) of the public school. Anyone who has made their big decision already, or is in the process of making it now, please please please chime in. I know this is ultimately my decision to make but I am so desperate for guidance! I have been praying, making lists, and talking to my parents for months and I’m still completely 50/50 on where to attend. Ahhh!!
|January 13, 2015 at 20:13|
Also, I know this College Talk board doesn’t get a lot of attention so if anyone knows of anywhere else online I could post this question and get godly advice, pass it on!! 🙂
|January 13, 2015 at 20:15|
Well. Trusting in God is the first thing. I am currently a “junior” in college. I should have graduated this year but I went to a community college for two years and then another college for one year. Then I transfered to the college I am currently at. And I love this college. The community college was my way to ease into college by still living at home. The other university I went to I really didn’t like their religion classes. It felt like it wasn’t religion class but attack Catholicism class. (Btw I’m Catholic.) So I transfered to a Catholic university on the other side of the country.
I love the Christian aspect of my college. All of my classes, no matter what they are about, incorporate Jesus in it. My creative writing class talks about Jesus and the stories in the Bible.
But it’s your choice. What helps is to make a pro and con list. Listing all of the pros and cons of each school. That way you, and your parents, can see what is a better fit for you.
Hope it helps!
|January 14, 2015 at 20:46|
Does the Christian university have an honors program that you could be a part of? Also, consider why academics are so important to you. Are you going to be in a really competitive major, or are you trying to get into grad school? It’s good to stretch yourself academically, but they’re not the most important thing.
|January 15, 2015 at 15:05|
Honestly, I would suggest going to the public university. In order to stay away from the immortality there, make good friends with good intentions so you guys can help each other out. That’s what I’m currently doing right now. A problem with a private college is that it won’t give you life-experience. Sounds cliché but it’s true. In public colleges you learn how to deal with so many different types of people. Also, a huge downside is that employers will be less likely to hire you coming from a private college. I don’t know why, but those are the statistics. I had the same dilemma. Exactly the same except the Christian college was 6 hours away. I chose to stay home. I would still love to go there, but maybe when I don’t have an immediate need to get a stable job. However, it’s all up to you.
|January 29, 2015 at 19:45|
Wow! Both schools sound like fantastic options. Most colleges (faith-based or not) have clubs and groups for wholesome, Christian girls just like you 🙂 Going to the Christian university would help you build your faith through religion classes, but I think that you would also be able to find a group of believers at the public university as well. I (much like you) want a rigorous curriculum in college. I am also torn between two colleges 🙂 It’s a really tough decision to make, but I’m sure that with God’s help and the support of family, friends, and a school counselor, you will be able to make a decision that will best fit what you intend on majoring in. I hope this helps!!
|February 4, 2015 at 16:02|
Here’s something I wish someone had told me when I was deciding between two colleges: God will be with you where ever you go.
I know that is a complete “Well, duh!” statement, and you probably know that, but it really is true.
A week or so ago I overheard a conversation in which a girl was saying “As Christians, we often think of our lives as paths. Like, we chose the narrow road instead of the broad road, but then within the narrow road we think there are many little trails and we have to find which trail God wants us to go on and find which trail God is on. God’s not on a particular path, however! God is inside of us! So we don’t need to be fearful of where he will take us, because he will be with us regardless.”
So pray about it, of course, and go where you feel like you can serve God best. Just don’t worry about “picking a wrong college,” because God will be with you either way, will protect you either way, and love you either way.
|February 7, 2015 at 11:54|
I am in the process of deciding on a college too, but for me, I’ve gone to public school my entire life, so I would love to have a Christian education. My advice would be to go to the state school, even if its the hugest party school, you will still find other Christians, and it provides a chance for you to witness to others and test your own faith. Hope this helped 🙂
|February 18, 2015 at 04:03|
I am currently a Freshman at a Christian University. I absolutely love it here! My faith has grown so much stronger and I have met amazing friends. I personally wouldn’t like going to a public university because I don’t want to be exposed to alcohol and pre-martial sex. I know it happens but I don’t want to have to deal with it.
God Bless you in your decision and wherever you may go!
|February 18, 2015 at 12:25|
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